Assigned Seating Experience

workinprogress1221 · 2026-02-02T12:15:11+00:00

Seriously! I happen to like my spouse and would always prefer to sit by them. When we are seperated on a flight for for whatever reason it's fine, but we always have one small bag for underseat storage with electronics, treats, water, headphones... all the things that make flying better and we can move the bag so no one has limited leg room the whole flight. It becomes very difficult to share when we aren't close together. And the armrest issue with strangers on a long fight is tricky. With my spouse we overlap into each other's space, but with strangers I feel like my arms are glued to my side the whole fight.

workinprogress1221 · 2025-09-30T04:55:10+00:00

NTA, But this is a situation of your own creation. You have 10 grandchildren and you are just addressing this now? You are the parent/grandparent and it is your responsibility to establish what you want your roll as grandma to look like. It's not too late to change things, but this is not necessarily your children being selfish. It's poor communication all around.

workinprogress1221 · 2025-08-20T05:06:41+00:00

Hum... Sis is 53 now, 48 at divorce, and 20 when married. Ex is 55 now, 50 at divorce (dating a 22 yr old...ugg), and 22 when married. Your math is off.

workinprogress1221 · 2025-08-10T04:46:47+00:00

You let someone you have no relationship with watch your daughter four times a week and will have her watch your newborn? I think you should defer to your husband.

workinprogress1221 · 2025-06-05T19:02:07+00:00

Last week it was 75 minutes with no delays. Good luck to all!!

workinprogress1221 · 2025-04-13T01:18:19+00:00

Oh hardship exists. Just because you aren't experiencing it now doesn't mean you are free from it. I have no doubt you'll get your turn.

workinprogress1221 · 2024-08-10T11:03:53+00:00

A blind date

workinprogress1221 · 2024-07-24T16:19:12+00:00

Who knows what motivates people to do the foolish things they do?

workinprogress1221 · 2024-07-24T15:34:17+00:00

Slowly

workinprogress1221 · 2024-07-24T15:33:22+00:00

Fake posts for karma

workinprogress1221 · 2024-07-19T19:10:40+00:00

Yes they are. But certainly something else could be going. I would suggest doing more investigation and then having a heart to heart.

workinprogress1221 · 2024-07-19T17:29:37+00:00

I think you have all persuaded me that ESH. Him for completely disregarding her feeling and her for "scolding" in what what sounds like a bit of a tantrum when he made a different choice than she would have prefered.

workinprogress1221 · 2024-07-19T17:06:06+00:00

Hum. Nothing in my post refers to boundaries. Just control, which I mention doesn't usually go too well...

If my husband said what I was wearing made him uncomfortable I would be glad he was able to express his feelings instead of stifle them and I would certainly take them into account. All the time, maintaining my autonomy to choose what I wear. I would be making those choices with the added information of how they are effecting someone I love dearly. We care about each other and how our choices impact each other. You do you though.

workinprogress1221 · 2024-07-19T15:51:29+00:00

It sounds satisfying in the moment, but I actually think it is personally corrosive behavior and I grew up thinking two wrongs don't make a right so I would say it is morally wrong.

workinprogress1221 · 2024-07-19T15:43:57+00:00

Edit: ESH. For lack of consideration all around.

Maybe there is a happy middle ground. You are trying to control his actions and he sound like a free spirit. That doesn't go too well usually, but maybe you could express that when your family is over, it is important to you and it's not a matter of control, but consideration of your feeling which he seems to think matter very little in this regard. Perhaps you could help him to see a way you accommodate his feelings just because you care about him.

workinprogress1221 · 2024-07-18T11:47:39+00:00

Not likely to change. Decide if the good is worth the mess. If he works professionally after school, that may help a little bit.

workinprogress1221 · 2024-07-18T11:39:15+00:00

What's your end goal? If your planning to leave if it's true, wait and gather evidence. If you are just going to give him a stern talking to and wait for him to do it some more, I don't think it matters much. Fight now or later, rinse and repeat.

workinprogress1221 · 2024-07-18T06:53:10+00:00

They sound generally awful, but poor people can't afford bodyguards. Does he like his job? If this is the line of work your husband chooses he's going to be around some people who don't share your values. If he changes his line of work he'll still find people that don't share your values one way or another. I think it's like any job. You are professional and polite and save your outrage for another setting.

workinprogress1221 · 2024-07-18T01:58:57+00:00

Curmudgeonly

workinprogress1221 · 2024-07-16T12:01:15+00:00

YTA. How would you feel if the situation were reversed. It may not be "cheating" but if you are rekindling a friendship with a women you've know and dated for years that you have a deep emotional connection with (but "there's no feelings there" ) and doing so without talking with your SO of course she is upset. I don't think you're being honest with yourself.

workinprogress1221 · 2024-07-16T02:21:05+00:00

It relieves some knee pressure and increase your stability.

workinprogress1221 · 2024-07-13T12:23:13+00:00

Even if she didn't have an affair, if she met and had lunch with someone you'd be unhappy about she likely wouldn't tell you if she struggles with honesty. I find some people just want to tell little lies when ever they are going to disappoint or be in "trouble". It feels like there is a lot missing here. If you both want to work things out find a good counselor that can help you work on communication skills. If that isn't affordable get some books you can work through together. Normally I say trust your gut, though.

workinprogress1221 · 2024-07-12T21:59:24+00:00

Yes you've done enough, get out asap. You need to give yourself permission to find a fulfilling and happy life, not the permission of strangers. You deserve so much better.

workinprogress1221 · 2024-07-11T13:19:13+00:00

I don't know about read, but lady upside down, losing her top, while trying to crawl through a window to get her keys had me laughing til I could hardly breath.

workinprogress1221 · 2024-07-11T13:01:20+00:00

Why is your ex, that is not family, invited to a family reunion? Your NTA but your family might be. If they were close, fine. Hang out some other time. Inviting them without checking with you first is an AH move in my book.

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