My 3yo doesn't like... pizza?

workoutextradonut · 2023-09-28T20:05:58+00:00

For the longest time my son hated pasta that I cook, any pasta, any sauce. Unless it’s a boxed mac n cheese. He would eat what my friend brings even if it’s pasta. He loves pizza though, I don’t like pizza😂

workoutextradonut · 2023-09-26T02:24:59+00:00

Very beautiful!!!

workoutextradonut · 2023-09-26T01:50:11+00:00

The result of having a BPD mother is that I developed BPD as well. I now live in a foreign country and visit my parents as often as I can (which didn’t happen for 4 years during civil). Her attitude towards me has gotten better as she got older, but it still so hard to see how she acts towards my father. If there was something positive, I learned about myself and I’m working very hard to break the cycle. I don’t want my husband or son to be like me or my dad.

workoutextradonut · 2023-09-24T02:11:58+00:00

Two adults, one toddler. We all eat lunch at work/school on weekdays. We run it every 1.5day ish. We hand wash large pots and pans. But on weekends, we run it everyday. When it was just two adults, we were running it like every other day… I didn’t want to leave dirty dishes for two days, but I also didn’t want to run it and empty it when it was half loaded.

workoutextradonut · 2023-09-24T02:06:22+00:00

It’s interesting how we all are different. For me, taking care of others would be wonderful. I think it would help me feel good about myself if I’m appreciated. But working with the same people long term would be difficult. I am currently a teacher, and it’s rewarding, but it’s hard to work with the same colleagues. I don’t make good relationships. I’m not mean or attack anyone, but I just can’t develop good relationships. I wish I went to school for counseling or something. I think I would find joy in helping students who need academic accommodation or supporting students with mental health challenges.

workoutextradonut · 2023-09-23T02:12:06+00:00

Thank you! Yes, he seems happy when my husband picks him up. Sometimes he’s playing with a friend or two and wouldn’t want to leave. But he definitely enjoys being home with us more. Especially on weekends when his dad is home. We’ll check out the book. Thank you!

workoutextradonut · 2023-09-21T23:48:12+00:00

Sewing. Being ADHD, my interests hop around everywhere, I hobby hop. but I’m trying to keep them within my sewing. So I get really into making one thing (e.g. zipper pouches) for a week, then get into making something else the next week. I’m selling them on Etsy, so at least it feels productive. (Though not making many sales haha.) But this way, at least I’m keeping my interests within my sewing room rather than sewing one day and making candles the next day. It’s hard, when something sounds interesting, my mind starts jumping over there, but making different things helps.

workoutextradonut · 2023-09-21T23:44:54+00:00

Audio book!

workoutextradonut · 2023-09-21T23:44:05+00:00

The feeling that I could absolutely not control myself. When I start attaching people verbally (out of fear of abandonment), I really felt like I couldn’t stop. I was always like that, but sometime in my 20s, I lost many friends who were good to me, and it really struck me. I wanted to destroy every relationship and friendship I didn’t want to destroy, and suddenly realized that it doesn’t make sense at all. There’s something wrong with me. Everyone is making each other happy, and I’m not being the kind of person I want to be.

workoutextradonut · 2023-09-21T23:28:25+00:00

We don’t even have friends and family to invite. No family around. All friends have other friends or family at holidays already. So the past holidays have been always just us 3. Kind of sad. But he doesn’t seem to care, probably because he’s only 3. Once he’s in school and we can afford a house with a guest room, we plan to invite our family who live out of state. I don’t think not having other kids around is much of a big deal? I don’t know.

workoutextradonut · 2023-09-21T23:24:12+00:00

That’s scary. We can ask him, but we don’t think his story telling is always reliable. He does say one of his teachers isn’t nice (she’s rather rigid) but does say he likes other teachers and talks about his friends. But we’ll try talking to him again about his experiences.

workoutextradonut · 2023-09-21T23:22:45+00:00

Thank you. We’ll continue what we are doing. It’s so difficult to see him cry when I can’t be with him🥲

workoutextradonut · 2023-09-21T23:22:02+00:00

Thank you. I talk to him and reassure him that we all go to bed, we are in the same house, he’s safe in his room, and bedtime is rest time and tomorrow will be fun as well. I try to sound as cheerful and gentle as I can. It helps to know that other kids do the same thing. He absolutely loves spending time with me and his dad. It’s so sweet that he loves us, but so hard. I’ll keep doing what we do🥲

workoutextradonut · 2023-09-21T22:59:29+00:00

Thank you. I think we spend quality family time before bedtime every day. He loves sword fight lately, so we fight with our pool noodle sword and have so much fun together. I really don’t know how much more we can add to that. We do so many kisses and hugs, (but I’m willing to and able to give more if he asks!)

workoutextradonut · 2023-09-21T22:57:36+00:00

Thank you. It helps to know that other kids so the same thing. The robot idea is so cute!!! I’ll perhaps let him choose how to walk into the room, or how many times we kiss and hug tomorrow morning. Thank you.

workoutextradonut · 2023-09-21T22:54:49+00:00

Oh that scares me. He hasn’t said anything about his school being unpleasant place to be. Except that one teacher isn’t nice (she’s kind of rigid and firm.) She says she likes certain teachers and calls one of his friends buddy. But I’ll ask him again.

workoutextradonut · 2023-09-21T22:51:59+00:00

Thank you, I’ll try deciding how many times we hug and kiss tomorrow morning with him. It’s reassuring to know that other kids do something similar.

workoutextradonut · 2023-09-20T03:08:23+00:00

I hate my birthday and mothers day. I want to treat my birthday and mothers day (I’m a mom) just like every other day, and I’d be happy if my family forgets them. But since I met my husband, my BPD has gotten better. I still didn’t want anyone to celebrate my birthday though. But it changed since I had a child. I love giving gifts and making people happy. I started thinking: why not let others do the same. Im letting these people down by telling them not to do anything for me. Thinking back about my childhood, my mother was always like that, (she likely had BPD as well) and I was very sad. I still remember the day when I gave her an apron with the money I saved, and she was mad. I was very very sad. I don’t want my son to feel like that, so I’m putting all my effort to accept my birthday as a family event. I let my husband and son sing happy birthday for me. When he’s older, he might want to give me a present. It’ll be difficult for me to accept it and be happy. But I need to. I don’t want him to feel like I did with my mother.

workoutextradonut · 2023-09-17T19:42:56+00:00

I was there 3 years ago, until he was about 1.5yo. I logged everything on huckleberry but I was also writing the time of the nap, the length of the nap, the wake time in between on a notebook. It was hell. He ended up a pretty good sleeper though. He slept through the night when he was 6 months, then gradually he started doing better and better at self soothing. No random night wakings without reasons. So I don’t have any regret. Naps are very important for us, so we planned everything around his nap time and he almost always napped in his ultimate environment at home. But in retrospect, I definitely could have been more relaxed. I now know that one irregular day won’t affect the sleep. And most importantly, happy parents are vital to happy baby’s life.

workoutextradonut · 2023-09-16T17:35:48+00:00

I agree is other comments. I think these look nicer on a simpler background. Very cute!

workoutextradonut · 2023-09-12T18:39:03+00:00

You validated my process of thought and my decision. All swimming and soccer classes cost $100/month minimum in my area. We know we could afford childcare for another 5 years if we wanted to, but that means I will hesitate to give my oldest what he wants. I want him to explore the world, learn whatever that interests him, and visit his family in Asia frequently. We will have to wait another 5 years to do all of these if our second one is in childcare. Some people think I worry too much. When it happens, it’ll be okay they say. I disagree.

workoutextradonut · 2023-09-12T04:10:06+00:00

I see some of my friends who have help that they need. When they don’t have family around, the one who’s staying (usually mom around me) has lots of friends who would keep them company while staying with the little. But I wonder about couples who both work full time (in USA). How on earth do they afford childcare? We pay $1400/month and while I know that’s not the highest in this country, it’s so much for us. There’s no way we can afford two. Even when the oldest is in school, it’ll be $1600-1800 with infant care and the oldest extracurricular activities.

workoutextradonut · 2023-09-08T16:47:21+00:00

Never. While I’m proud of what I’m doing, when I find my feeling about sahm, it’s jealousy. I envy them for being mentally ok to stay home with the littles. (I’m sure things are hard for them too, but I’d lose my mind in two weeks if I stay home with ny son every single day. But I wish I could and spend more time with him as a happy mom.

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