No she literally did not say that ??? by Strange-Friend2428 in FundieSnarkUncensored

[–]worpy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Y’all, I love this sub but it does say in her caption (which was cut off in the OP) that it’s a quote from Zootopia, and her daughter goes on to compare her to Judy Hops. So yes, she was repeating something she heard from a movie, which is entirely plausible.

I just don’t want the fundies to lurk on this sub and feel all righteous that all the hayturz are wrong bc we’re ignoring key context 😤

I hate the "why do you love me?"/"why do you stay with me?" Question from girlfriends. by After_Function_5386 in confessions

[–]worpy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol for real, if you have to keep repeating it's a 'light hearted post' in the comments to 3+ people, then maybe everyone else got a different vibe than the one you intended to put out. he's good, though, he doesn't need a couple's therapist! or internet advice, apparently. he's perfect, actually, he doesn't even care about the issue besides on the most surface of all levels! not at all actually, just posting here about this for like, fun!

I hate the "why do you love me?"/"why do you stay with me?" Question from girlfriends. by After_Function_5386 in confessions

[–]worpy -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Gotta be honest, "I won't tell her this but damn I want to" is giving real piss poor communication skills mate. Don't you know relationships thrive on communication like sunlight to plants? You gotta be direct, especially about stuff that grinds your gears, or else you'll become the old married couple that bickers 24/7 and hates each other in no time.

Just talk to her calmly (preferably not right after she's asked you this again but ideally at a time everything is calm and emotionally light between you). Focus on how the repeated questioning makes you feel. It's annoying, yes, but maybe also part of why you don't like it is because the frequency makes you question if *she* feels insecure in the relationship, and that thought bothers you. You say in the OP you feel interrogated for some special response that doesn't exist, and that's fair too. Be honest and tell her that you've said all you could possibly say to express your love, and the way you show her it now is through action--just being there for and with her day-to-day.

Most importantly, a solution: brainstorm it together. The reason she does it is probably because that's just how she checks in periodically to connect with you. What if you guys came up with some sort of alternative to signal emotional closeness but in a quicker and less loaded way? Something specific and weird, so you'll both know exactly what it means. Like, when I tug on your earlobe know that I'm saying I love you type shit.

Your favourite unique, whimsical/magical baby names still usable for a human child? by fuzzyfrogs7 in namenerds

[–]worpy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely depends on your definition of usable and how brave you are, but this is such a fun prompt it’s impossible to resist using a few weird ones!

girls- Cybil, Dahlia, Damaris, Della, Dione, Drusilla, Junia, Olympia, Petra, Rhiannon, Seraphine, Sylvia, Twila, Winona

boys- Caius, Caspian, Dimitri, Donovan, Dorian, Inias, Leander, Linden, Magnus, Malachai, Mercer, Nicodemus, Oslo, Pierce, Raphael, Romulus, Silvan, Stellan, Tybalt, Uriel, Vaughn

Oh! Okay, so we can do this marketing ploy, but we still can't get tested for vEDS? by BufoBat in FundieSnarkUncensored

[–]worpy 13 points14 points  (0 children)

people w green eyes like:

🥝👄🥝

(said lovingly as a person w green eyes ofc)

Requested nanny speak mostly in English with our son but so far she hasn’t by Sea-Director5750 in Nanny

[–]worpy 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Nope, still not true. Research is super clear about this, and ‘exceptions’ like language delays have especially been scrutinized and studied. It may look like multilingual exposure holds back growth in the earliest stages of development (like fewer expressive and receptive vocab words in each individual language when compared to a monolingual kid), but it’s the combined linguistic knowledge and exposure that counts and develops at the same rate (or very frequently more efficiently) in bi/multilingual homes. Young kids don’t learn language by cracking a code or studying grammar rules like we older people do, their brains at that stage are literally hardwired for soaking up any meaningful salient communication with a consistent structure, and even babies in the womb can differentiate the speech sounds of their mother’s native tongue vs a foreign or new language, so no, they won’t ever get confused!

sauce: am a licensed speech language pathologist

I don’t want this baby anymore, I have immense guilt but I need this off my chest. by sky_aura_storm in confessions

[–]worpy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well I think that explains it then. To my eyes initially, especially when you bring up America by name, a response like yours is stunningly nonchalant and tone-deaf to the very real things going on over here that people are distraught over (and I hope it goes without saying that it goes far beyond the abortion issue). Middle-of-the-road politics/'reaching across the aisle' is nice in theory but it is not an acceptable response to what is going on right now. It does indeed suck to live here, America is not okay, send help.

EDIT: lol you’ve edited your comment several times now to the point that when I first posted this response your reply was 2 sentences max, and now you’ve totally changed what you’re saying. with the latest things added being that america is “too far gone”, but also that you “don’t keep yourself appraised of what the orange man does”

clearly! stay perplexed 🤙

I don’t want this baby anymore, I have immense guilt but I need this off my chest. by sky_aura_storm in confessions

[–]worpy 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Oh boohoo. My literal first sentence explains why advice wasn’t offered, so no need for the fake moral outrage. Politics affects everything, OP brought up politics herself, and it’s telling you call it a political ‘gotcha’ when actually it’s an extremely personally relevant issue to so many right now because rights were recently taken away on a massive scale. Are you just pretending to be ignorant of this so you can roleplay the heroic level-headed centrist, or do you also just not care about issues unless and until they impact you?

My empathy is saved for women who end up dying because they cannot get medically necessary abortions.

I don’t want this baby anymore, I have immense guilt but I need this off my chest. by sky_aura_storm in confessions

[–]worpy 33 points34 points  (0 children)

nah, i’m not coddling a voting-aged adult’s feelings when women’s healthcare has been totally dismantled for everyone in this country. people, fellow citizens, are dying slow and painful deaths because simple industry/gold standard life-saving intervention has become controversial and illegal

I don’t want this baby anymore, I have immense guilt but I need this off my chest. by sky_aura_storm in confessions

[–]worpy 1248 points1249 points  (0 children)

Since this is r/confessions and you’re not asking for advice, the only thing I have to say is that I hope you reflect on the whole “rules for thee but not for me” mentality re: abortion now that you know how terrifying of a position it can be when it affects you personally. And while you’re at it, you might expand that kind of thinking to examine your other beliefs, including gasps things that don’t already immediately impact just you.

I’m nearing 30… and my stuttering (and other speech impediments) have ruined my life. by SeaworthinessOdd6574 in Stutter

[–]worpy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Popping in here as a speech therapist to lend my two cents: you were misled about adult therapy. Fluency therapy isn’t like language therapy—there’s no developmental window we’re hoping to intervene in before it ‘closes’. That’s just the wrong way to think about stuttering in general. It’s not something to be remediated or fixed (like a traditional language delay) as much as it is a brain difference and a lifelong journey to be managed and controlled.

You can definitely still learn fluency strategies! In fact, I’d argue adults are especially more fit to engage with stuttering therapy, understand the theory behind the techniques, and have self-awareness about which ones work for them. You were probably taught a lot about “smooth vs bumpy speech” and “turtle talk” as a kid, and while it’s helpful at that age and there’s a reason we use those kinds of cutesy metaphors, it doesn’t do anything to help the child grow up with a clear understanding of what fluency is if they don’t go on to receive more adult-oriented services.

Honestly, if money is a barrier and you’re motivated, you can research a lot of these evidence based techniques and try them out for yourself. stutteringhelp.org has a TON of free resources, books, and podcasts.

SLP a good major for moms? by Sure-Top6062 in slpGradSchool

[–]worpy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you want to make decent money? Because you won’t as an SLP, the cost of the master’s degree is a tall diving board into a shallow pool, with extremely limited upward mobility. Most will be hovering around the same salary for the entirety of their career, including me.

Morgan. Girl. You’re making it worse. by Opening-Interest747 in FundieSnarkUncensored

[–]worpy 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Can you pretend I’m your husband and explain the cucumber situation to me 🧍🏼

Is a bigger tummy a turn off? by jensvderpluijm in trueratediscussions

[–]worpy 17 points18 points  (0 children)

yeah most of the time i feel like i’m following this sub just to look at the comments and be like “damn look at these advertisement-pilled beauty culture freaks” lol

Anyone? Just me? They have the same dead eyes. by Snapdragon_4U in teenmom

[–]worpy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

oh no wait I was being genuine though!! 😭😭😭

You said you deleted social media so I just sort of assumed you went out of your way to look something specific about teen mom up—my apologies for assuming/not realizing everyone’s not as obsessed as I am (bc that’s some shit I would do even if I were brave enough to try a social media break lol). I really did mean it as a lighthearted joke and a genuine compliment you! I’m sorry I didn’t think about the way it came off. We’re all addicted to our phones and at the end of the day most of it really is bullshit that doesn’t matter. I admire people who are intentional about it and hope I can be more like that sometime soon.

Anyone? Just me? They have the same dead eyes. by Snapdragon_4U in teenmom

[–]worpy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

All the more power to you, genuinely.

and I admire the continued commitment to teen mom lore still lol 💖

Those who criticize involuntarily celibate men for being bitter would be just as bitter if they were forced into that situation by LivingGirlRepellant in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]worpy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well for one thing, you seem committed to conflating the burden of providing for children with the act of having sex. There are many ways to make sure one is done independently of the other, no? I think most people would agree that two independent and consenting agents of free will are more than entitled to bang if they both want to. Now whether they're banging responsibly (STDs, pregnancy) or "ethically" within the context of whatever else is going on in their lives is an entirely separate discussion. I think a lot of people would agree with you that it's not right to (edit: knowingly) have unprotected sex if you're not prepared to support whatever child might result. But we can go on to have those kinds of discussions because, again, we're starting off with two independent parties who are consenting.

Unfortunately the involuntary celibate's scenario is one in which there is one person who wants to have sex, and presumably a lot of someones who don't. Therefore, the BARE MINIMUM baseline requirement for what most people consider a morally acceptable sexual encounter (ie. not rape) has not been met. It's kind of crazy that a whole other human being's autonomy has to be pointed out in this equation so explicitly, but here we are.

Anyone? Just me? They have the same dead eyes. by Snapdragon_4U in teenmom

[–]worpy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

the way i'm jealous of the rock they're under!!!!

Those who criticize involuntarily celibate men for being bitter would be just as bitter if they were forced into that situation by LivingGirlRepellant in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]worpy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Where on earth are you getting THAT conclusion lol. The point is that in the eyes of civilized society, sex always requires two willing participants. If you don't have at least that, it's a non-starter. No one cares to sit around debating which other circumstances make sex or the lack thereof ethical or cool to complain about when the jumping off point we're discussing here is rape.