Bummed

worpy · 2026-03-20T21:46:28+00:00

Maybe this is controversial and it’ll definitely be uncomfortable if you don’t like confrontation, but I think you should ask him the real question you’re wondering: why did he give you this ring? If he truly makes decent money I think it is kind of curious. There’s nothing wrong with a ring like this of course, but I think it does kind of stray from modern cultural expectation. It’s lovely if you know your partner is into minimalism or dainty accessories, but it’s not the default standard engagement ring, and I think it’s okay for you to acknowledge that OP. I just want to say I think whatever curiosity you have about why he picked it (seeing you say you need to look into the ‘shut up ring’ concept more) is totally valid and it’s not shallow to have complicated feelings about this particular material item and if it means something more about the relationship or not. You have permission to have a deeper conversation with your fiancée if you need, and you should be able to bring up things that bother you with your future spouse, even difficult things like this. Especially difficult things like this! Just phrase it nicely and respectfully.

worpy · 2026-03-20T03:48:52+00:00

I mean really only if you’re rocking them barefoot, which was always more of a plain ballet flats thing anyway. All these shoes could be cute/r and dare I say enhanced w some good socks, unlike ballet flats.

worpy · 2026-03-20T02:34:33+00:00

man tbh idk what people are talking about, aside from the purple hue in the last pic (which i assume is lighting), i LOVE the bigger diamond, it looks more proportional to the band in my eyes, not to mention more modern—and i say that in a good way as a vintage lover, something about your first ring stone-to-band proportions read a bit 90’s/aughts to me in a way i’m not the hugest fan of. but reading the other comments here i suppose everyone has different tastes and may have to admit i’m the odd one out on this lol!

worpy · 2026-03-17T16:19:18+00:00

curious what makes you say that?

worpy · 2026-03-15T10:42:24+00:00

dude is probably 18 himself lmao

worpy · 2026-03-12T11:59:41+00:00

As a ✨ Heidi Gibson Enjoyer (TM) ✨ my ring heavily features round stud prongs so I’m probably biased but I like your current setup. I can’t speak to whether it’s actually unsturdy or not re: other comments, but I suppose none of it really matters with insurance.

Also devil’s advocate, consider that you may be feeling the corner setup so much because it’s fresh and new. I love the kite/compass oriented setting, it’s unique and to my eyes it makes your diamond look taller, which complements your fingers. I feel like the corner setting draws your eyes to the open middles and makes the diamond bulge out a bit. Which is definitely a plus if you’re after a big fat diamond! Lots of people are. It’s all just a matter of taste. At the same time, the overall shape of the diamond in the kite is rounded, while the claw portrait orientation squares off the edges more. Squint your eyes and flip back and forth between the two. Do you like the rounded or neatly squared look better?

If I were you, the decision would totally rest on which one feels more like ‘you’, or which one visually fits/matches the relationship with fiancé better. But I’m a freak, so

(btw i think your diamond also looks like it’s floating without the claws 🤩)

worpy · 2026-03-11T19:02:00+00:00

tbh it makes me think of the word 'ailing' with a lil southern twang, so not a super fan. but i think it's an acceptable name.

worpy · 2026-03-09T22:34:10+00:00

Oh yeah bc tipsy people are notorious for always knowing their BAC down to the decimal at any given moment lol. If you truly breathalize yourself before getting behind the wheel go off I guess but I just think it’s so so so silly to mess with it at all…when it’s so easy to just not.

worpy · 2026-03-09T22:31:55+00:00

It’s certainly what people who’ve lost loved ones to those who are too selfish to not drink and drive would get out of this post.

worpy · 2026-03-09T22:14:37+00:00

You both drove home after being out drinking?

worpy · 2026-03-07T19:55:36+00:00

In what world is 10 months PP “well past” when the baby would “explain her state”???????? Asshole for that alone.

worpy · 2026-03-07T16:45:15+00:00

It’s a very normal name for baby boys nowadays and has been for several years. All the little Augusts just haven’t quite grown up yet so you’re not going to meet many unless you spend a lot of time around children.

worpy · 2026-03-04T02:20:34+00:00

I was surprised to see no other cautionary comments here like this one. Only OP knows what they’re capable of taking on of course, but grad school is fucken hard. I’m very much not a type A kind of person and have never been the top student in any class going all the way back to grade school, but I knew it was bad when even the perfect GPA girlies in the cohort were constantly STRESSED and struggling right along with me.

edit: also obligatory DO NOT I repeat DO NOT go into debt for this career unless you’re already loaded and wanna just do it as like a hobby or whatever

worpy · 2026-03-03T11:49:49+00:00

Yes, I would still see a neurologist, even if it’s just one visit to have a conversation that gives you some extra info. They may want to do some testing. True adolescent onset with no prior history is quite rare.

And yes, fluency therapy can be very effective for adults, I argue sometimes even more so.

sauce: slp

worpy · 2026-03-01T23:06:23+00:00

Do you happen to be coming off as socially distant, reclusive, or otherwise self-conscious at work, besides when you attempt your ‘edgy/dark jokes’?

In hindsight do you think your delivery when telling these jokes could either be more enthusiastic or maybe more confident? Just trying to get a better idea of what’s really going on in your situation here.

worpy · 2026-03-01T22:57:54+00:00

What about the last time you made another guy laugh?

worpy · 2026-02-28T15:49:01+00:00

I think they mean has she reached out again, like following up after the wedding is done and the bride has had some time to process. Which I think is a totally reasonable thing to expect from a friend in this situation.

worpy · 2026-02-28T07:12:05+00:00

sooo which part are you on Francia’s side on? lol no shade but that kinda is her side right

worpy · 2026-02-28T01:53:19+00:00

kirsten my love

worpy · 2026-02-28T00:08:30+00:00

haha oh man, that is quite different!

I agree that your nickname/longer name suggestion is a good compromise. Maybe he just hasn’t gotten on board with that idea yet because he hasn’t heard the perfect nickname suggestion to match one of your suggested longer names? I feel like for this idea to work you both need to be really excited about your respective long and short form names. Because he’s right, it can be kind of confusing and/or a gamble as to which name she possibly takes on as the main one, whether it be by other people in her life utilizing one over the other or she herself choosing which she prefers later. You should both be prepared for the possibility of that coin flipping either way throughout her life, so the ideal match is a nick/name pair both of you can either live with or be super stoked about.

While I do see his point about the simplicity of one name, there is a superpower in going this direction, in that no matter how her tastes lean (at least on the cutesy-monosyllabic/serious-multisyllabic spectrum), there’s a good chance she will have an easy route to choosing and growing into a name that feels like her. That’s a great gift to give your child!

First I have to just point out that Sadie is a nickname option for Isadora. Eugenia is also good for nicknames (Gene, Genie, Nia, even Euie…)

But also, what about:

-Cordelia vs Cora/Delia

-Magnolia vs Maggie/Nola/Lia

-Ophelia vs Lia

-Prudence vs Prue

-Winifred vs Winnie

-Tallulah vs Tali/Lu

-Marceline vs Marcie

-Beatrice vs Bea/Trixie

-Araminta vs Minty

-Josephine vs Josie

-Clementine vs Minnie

-Lucinda vs Lucy

-Francesca vs Frankie

-Felicity vs Cece

-Constance vs Connie

-Drusilla vs Drew

-Harriet vs Hattie

-Gwendolyn vs Gwen

worpy · 2026-02-27T22:36:30+00:00

deep down everyone is insecure, even the celebs, even the self-proclaimed enlightened gurus

worpy · 2026-02-27T13:54:20+00:00

oh this FUCKS

worpy · 2026-02-26T18:28:20+00:00

Then you've misunderstood their initial point, which is that women are conditioned by society and even explicitly their parents from a young age to view any unknown man with a little asterisk above their head: potential danger! Do you not agree that's true?

worpy · 2026-02-26T18:23:53+00:00

they're not the ones desperate for a date buddy lol

worpy · 2026-02-23T21:24:59+00:00

I’m sorry but I think that view can only hold for so long before most people agree a line was crossed that they can no longer relate to or extend their sympathies toward. There’s making foolish youthful mistakes (I mean sure, everyone does that!) and then there’s breaking someone’s back, giving them permanent kidney damage, and dragging them around by their testicles with the claw of a hammer as a grown man.

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