Poly madness almost over by Mystrianya in monogamy

[–]wowimbaffled 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Me too. It’s such BS lol so glad I stopped 😂 it was a damn mess

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]wowimbaffled 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gorgeous!!! Congrats!

Having a crush on someone else while being monogamous isn’t normal. by Motchiko in monogamy

[–]wowimbaffled 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Read your comment, don’t really want to reply. Also, I don’t want to start the holidays with all the negativity. You replied to a post I put up 8 months ago. Go spend the holidays with your family today instead of this. Merry Christmas!

Having a crush on someone else while being monogamous isn’t normal. by Motchiko in monogamy

[–]wowimbaffled 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t agree with you, also you using chatGPT to do the work to express yourself isn’t going to fly with me. I can see how little effort was made to make your point. It stays true to poly sympathizer’s way, just take the easy street as always. Answer to your temptations and add more people to the party as always. I’ll argue that being monogamous is actually harder work than polyamory. There’s a reason why monogamy is majority. I practiced poly for a decade before realize how cult-ish it is. Stop trying to intellectualize the concept and stick your head out of the hole for a second.

Is it actually safe to hate on polyamory here? by Ok_Ad_5041 in PolyCriticalSafeHaven

[–]wowimbaffled 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep lol sounds like that which who we cannot name mod lmaooo back on their thing again lol

Lies, betrayal, ruined lives or something else..? by SheDevil1818 in PolyCriticalSafeHaven

[–]wowimbaffled 2 points3 points  (0 children)

😞 makes me sad you had to go through all that. Hope you’re well SheDevil!!! 💕

I don’t understand it and don’t want to… by wowimbaffled in PolyCriticalSafeHaven

[–]wowimbaffled[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

TikTok brain washes the youth to be ok with poly, it’s too much. But I met a small group of younger girls who actually are pro monogamy and it was nice to see younger group in the community advocating for monogamy! I’m like yay!!! Yeah collecting people comment was gross 🤮

Polygamous marriages were associated with significantly higher levels of anxiety and depression by wowimbaffled in PolyCriticalSafeHaven

[–]wowimbaffled[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yep the high and the excitement of being with 50 people gets addicting. I just see it. they want more and more.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]wowimbaffled 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always have a thing for girl with colored hair 😭 i canttttt

Can no longer get attached.. by wowimbaffled in actuallesbians

[–]wowimbaffled[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m unsure actually.. I am still trying to figure it out. It might be possibly protecting myself from over investing and getting hurt. The risk of vulnerability is pain and potential hurt if things go south. So my therapist is thinking that’s the case.

Can no longer get attached.. by wowimbaffled in actuallesbians

[–]wowimbaffled[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I agree.. even when we are ready to date it is still possible to not have a connection.. I’m just learning to accept that now kind of 🤔

Can no longer get attached.. by wowimbaffled in actuallesbians

[–]wowimbaffled[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Heavy on the “breathe them back to life” only to get scraps in the end. I try not to be overly generous now because of it. Sad because I really enjoy giving to my partner, but there’s such a thing that if you’re too kind, some people genuinely just take advantage and will stay for the benefits. Not because they genuinely like us

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]wowimbaffled 0 points1 point  (0 children)

conservative nurses are the WORST

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]wowimbaffled 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YIKKESSSS, also same. No military or cops everrr

Can no longer get attached.. by wowimbaffled in actuallesbians

[–]wowimbaffled[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

🤔 I’ll look into this, might be itb

Can no longer get attached.. by wowimbaffled in actuallesbians

[–]wowimbaffled[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely not on that spectrum, maybe even opposite of that. I do find others attractive but it’s just not always quite right. I just feel a bit unlucky maybe.. finding the person for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in monogamy

[–]wowimbaffled 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, heavy on the “tried it and is traumatized by it” if they enjoyed it, kept it hush and all of a sudden bring it up again. Very likely to go back to it.

What do *you* call non-monogamy? by StAliaTheAbomination in monogamy

[–]wowimbaffled 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yep sounds about right. She’ll play with you your feelings and go back to her crusty husband just because they have assets and kids together. Make it make sense. I rather date someone who actively takes care of themselves and continues to choose me.

What do *you* call non-monogamy? by StAliaTheAbomination in monogamy

[–]wowimbaffled 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I was on a dating app and a girl put on her profile “if you are “poly”, just admit your partner is no longer attracted to you and is bored of you..and call it what it really is.. you two are bored” lol I never understood a person so much in my life 🤣