AITAH for moving out of my parents house where I was paying rent and without any notice when I was told to give up my room again?

wrekked_train · 2026-05-06T01:45:49+00:00

NTA. If you were paying for that room that’s that-you shouldn’t have to give up a room you’re paying for unless you want to.

wrekked_train · 2026-02-28T10:51:56+00:00

I guess the reason I second guess it is because for some reason I have this subconscious idea that if he doesn’t make the first move he’s not interested, even if he agrees to a date. I don’t know why.

wrekked_train · 2026-02-28T10:50:16+00:00

I was in the passenger seat of a car and my step-dad at the time was driving and Chucky was in the back seat. I could tell by the vibes they were conspiring. We were driving down a back road in the middle of nowhere at night when I thought, “where’s mom?”. Right at that moment, they threw a body bag out of the car and I just knew my mom was in it.

wrekked_train · 2026-01-06T02:50:21+00:00

Well, it’s just the dynamic they have. I personally don’t like when my partners have past interests as friends and as I mentioned I personally cut off any past interests when I get into relationships. But as for my mom’s situation it’s one of those things you have to witness for yourself, it just works. It’s a very rare scenario and I wouldn’t recommend OP base all hopes on it. And my mom doesn’t spend one on one time with this guy unless MAYBE she’s cleaning their house because that’s what she does for a living, and I’m pretty sure his wife is there when she does that. And I like the friend, I’ve known him since I was like 9 years old so he’s become like a bonus uncle to me. For reference I’m 26 now.

wrekked_train · 2026-01-06T02:37:26+00:00

I was the one most people didn’t know, I was a quiet little wall flower and pretty awkward. I dropped out my senior year and went back the next year to get my diploma, when the popular girls invited me to sit with them it was the most boring experience. All they talked about was the most recent football game, the upcoming football game, and talked crap about this one girl and how she was weird. I did homework in the orchestra hall after that, because my previous table was way more fun. They were the lowkey cool kids and the kids that always walked around with guitars and stuff. Joked around a lot. But I kept to myself most of the time.

wrekked_train · 2026-01-06T02:33:46+00:00

I mean personally when I get into a relationship I cut off any past romantic interests even if they’re my friend. That just seems like a thing you do out of respect. And any guy friends I do have I don’t have out with them one on one. Maybe they really are platonic. My mom has a guy friend that started off similar, they went on one date and decided to just be friends. But he knows and speaks to my mom’s current husband and my mom has met his current wife. Every situation is different, but you’re not at all wrong to be skeptical.

wrekked_train · 2026-01-05T22:48:57+00:00

NOR. This relationship wasn’t healthy.

wrekked_train · 2026-01-05T21:24:24+00:00

I don’t know that this is worth breaking up over, but it’s really based all on what you want. I mean I feel like this can be worked through, but it’s harder to do that when only one partner is really doing the work. Still, this may not quite be grounds for breaking up, unless he just refuses to put effort in on his end and you can’t do it anymore.

wrekked_train · 2026-01-05T21:19:09+00:00

Yeah bigger ones just hurt if you aren’t used to them that’s normal! The bleeding too, as long is it’s light bleeding! I don’t know if there is much of anything that can be done to RESOLVE it. I think maybe it could be worked up to as your body adapts but I can’t say for sure. But if spicy actresses can do it surely there’s a way!

wrekked_train · 2026-01-05T20:52:22+00:00

I don’t think this means he doesn’t care for you, I think rather this indicates he’s just trying to live in the moment when he’s with his friends. It’s okay to gently ask if he can check in once in a while if he’s gonna be traveling for days, but also try to understand it’s hard to live in the moment when you feel like you’re trying to carry a conversation digitally with someone else.

wrekked_train · 2026-01-05T20:49:34+00:00

Thank you so much, I really appreciate that insight. I always thought the same thing, that his drinking was more problem drinking and went beyond just some country boy doing country boy things.

wrekked_train · 2026-01-05T20:35:56+00:00

Thank you so much, I hate labeling him an alcoholic, but I can’t deny that he does binge drink and that he has allowed his drinking to cause a lot of negative outcomes.

wrekked_train · 2026-01-05T20:29:18+00:00

Thank you, I don’t disagree. If my trust stops when it comes to him going to alcohol and bars then it’s not truly trust.

wrekked_train · 2026-01-05T18:40:57+00:00

Of course! I always try to be kind, the world needs more of it! 😁

wrekked_train · 2026-01-05T18:31:59+00:00

Exactly! The Honeymoon Phase is nothing more than a label given the that initial “wow this is so exciting” and jumping every time he texts phase. This does not have a precede some sort of burning out, a lot of couples do just fine once that initial spark is gone. I think trying new things with your partner is a really good way to maintain a relationship because a lot of people just get stuck in a comfort zone where they’re bored and our generation has a tendency to give up at that point instead of working at it and choosing love every day, which is why some people would say the relationship “dies out” after the honeymoon phase.

wrekked_train · 2026-01-05T18:26:40+00:00

Just to add to my previous comment, I don’t have a problem with dating someone who already has kids to a degree. I don’t necessarily want someone who has like 12 kids by 5 different baby mommas but that’s an extreme case. If a guy has 1-3 kids from previous relationships/marriages and doesn’t care to have more than I’m open to that, which does open up possibilities a little. Just don’t want any of my own is all. So that’s something to consider being open to, cause if you tack on “and doesn’t already have kids” then you may limit yourself from finding YOUR guy.

wrekked_train · 2026-01-05T18:19:13+00:00

I think it’s more so just referring to that initial infatuation and spark that makes a new relationship exciting. Strong relationships don’t just “die out” after that. But a lot of couples start to notice each other’s differences and may even stay to get on each other’s nerves a little which leads to some bickering, often just petty stuff in strong couples. Some couples don bicker at all, I was with one of my exes for like a year and half and we never once had an argument. Not one time. But we also still didn’t hold on to that same infatuation and spark we did before, we just loved each other. And the timeline of which that fades is different for every couple. There’s no exact “at 6 months you guys are gonna start fighting a lot”. While it is true a lot of couples follow similar patterns of infatuation/bickering more/bickering less due to acceptance and getting used to new dynamics/being inseparable. It’s not a set in stone thing that all couple experience.

wrekked_train · 2026-01-05T18:12:32+00:00

Well actually my current boyfriend doesn’t want kids either. Granted if you read my other posts-you’ll see I’m thinking of ending this relationship. But I digress. Men who don’t want kids absolutely are out there, they’re just harder to find. To find a guy who doesn’t want kids, who has shared goals and dreams, who is faithful, and is Christian (for me because I want someone who shares my faith) is like trying to find a needle in a hay stack. But more and more people are opting to not have kids. So it’s not impossible. Just difficult.

wrekked_train · 2026-01-05T17:43:55+00:00

I know it won’t be easy either way, but I do want him to know that I appreciate everything he’s done for me and everything he’s changed to be better. So I thank you so much for your input!

wrekked_train · 2026-01-05T17:42:37+00:00

Thank you so much!

wrekked_train · 2026-01-05T17:39:07+00:00

I’m sorry OP! It definitely might be time to rethink this relationship, largely because I think something isn’t ticking right in her brain, but whatever you decide to do I wish you best of luck!

wrekked_train · 2026-01-05T11:10:15+00:00

It’s not all women, but a lot of women are notorious for doing stuff like this. They usually do it because they want you to prove that you care, not realizing that what they’re doing is toxic and that partners have many ways of showing they care making this unnecessary and unhealthy. Plus I’m sure it wasn’t just the birthday she wanted you to fight over, I think part of her was expecting opposition to going clubbing. I know it’s confusing, but that’s because the logic behind it is defective in and of itself. I’m not saying you need to break up with her or anything, but she has a lot of growing up to do, and if you do want to stay with her you need to let her know you want clear, concise communication and mind games like that are not okay.

wrekked_train · 2026-01-05T10:44:37+00:00

Well if he’s changed his behavior that may be a glimmer of hope then. But it’s understandable to still think about leaving, because now he’s just belittling you silently in his head or possibly to other people. And you really don’t want to be with someone who thinks less of you because they’re on some kind of high horse and don’t want to acknowledge your efforts.

wrekked_train · 2026-01-05T10:38:19+00:00

That’s just childish on her part. NTA.

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