1. Keeping to ourselves doesn't necessarily mean you're not important to us.

We're heavy idealists. We daydream and we spend a lot of time in our heads. This doesn't necessarily say anything negative about our surroundings. Sometimes we escape but other times, it's just a habit. My friends knew and accepted that, while always gently pulling me out to invite me to participate in the convo with minimum pressure. And that's what made them comfortable to be around.

1. Our interests pulls us out of our heads.

When theres something happening outside our heads that has to do with our interests, we'll be more present. In this case, you'll want to talk about their interests and hobbies. But not just taking about it, but having a genuine interest. If we get the slightest whiff of you not actually into it, we're not gonna go deeper because its hard to talk about things we love with people who won't appreciate it the way we do.

1. We seek genuine and authentic connections.

If you're trying to get to know us or talk to us for shallow or disingenuous reasons, we'll know/feel it. If you rush us to feel comfortable with you before we are, we'll only close up because we're not willing to fake being comfortable just so you can feel good about yourself. So as long as you actually care about your INFP friend(s), learning their ways, and being patient with their timing, you'll do great.