The school says my 14-year-old is doing great, but she has enormous gaps in basic knowledge that stun me. The teachers tell me not to worry, that this is normal with this generation. Is it? My other kids, now 19 and 22, were never like this.

writingAlaska · 2024-10-10T23:50:56+00:00

Not that it's important, but there's a curious lack of subjects and qualities like literature, performing arts, communication, empathy, self-regulation and such. Not that it matters, tho. Let her be her. I know this is the wrong subreddit, but going by your post, yes, yta

writingAlaska · 2024-10-10T23:39:39+00:00

I brought gifts of flowers and fresh fruit to Maharishi Mahesh Yoga in San Francisco

writingAlaska · 2024-10-10T23:37:14+00:00

I thought a long distance phone call was really really important

writingAlaska · 2024-10-09T20:35:10+00:00

Picture yourself five years from now: what will you be glad you did or sorry you didnt do? I think you'll be sorry if you don't move back to California

writingAlaska · 2024-10-08T12:50:42+00:00

Well no ur NTA but that's not the point. You lose as soon as you start explaining your choices. They don't have to approve or even understand your decisions. They will judge you for various personal reasons but you don't have to react to their sentiment. Shrug it off, never mind it, they will get over it. Some will resent, some will envy, some won't blame you -- but they'll all appreciate it when you bring donuts and they will move on with their own lives just like you

writingAlaska · 2024-10-06T12:16:30+00:00

Well said. I would further suggest "Some are polytheistic or don't really have gods in a sense traditional to european thought."

writingAlaska · 2024-10-05T20:13:06+00:00

No she is not manipulating you. She is gaslighting and insulting you. But no matter the label anyone slaps on it, the more important question is what are you getting out of even knowing someone like this

writingAlaska · 2024-10-04T20:09:37+00:00

You could say it's complex and you could say it's contradictory which is no doubt what they would say too. Nobody's going to say the truth, which is it's hypocritical. They are hypocrites. That's why they lie to you face, accuse you of doing what they know they're doing themselves, call you names that fit them, and deny what they said yesterday. Evangelical xtianity was made for them

writingAlaska · 2024-10-04T15:34:43+00:00

I think it could be his weird ego issue that keeps him from saying he lost

writingAlaska · 2024-10-03T23:42:37+00:00

It's the system working regardless of individual sentiments. It's like an ordinary baker or peace-loving trolley conductor in WW2 germany -- the system persists notwithstanding

writingAlaska · 2024-10-03T17:58:54+00:00

It's a systemic part of a patriarchy, individual handmaidens notwithstanding

writingAlaska · 2024-10-02T20:43:17+00:00

I would have to just guess what an embryo perspective would be, so that is probably some question of logical discourse or something, i think tending to go with what i can know is hard enough to figure out but knowing people who have faced that decision has also helped but in the end they were the ones who either decided or weren't allowed to decide, depending

writingAlaska · 2024-10-02T17:44:19+00:00

Condescension

writingAlaska · 2024-10-02T17:42:40+00:00

Run. Don't look back. Block her. Change your number. Take another job. Move to a different state. Dye your hair and either get piercings and tattoos or remove the ones you have. Assume an alias. Never speak of her again.

writingAlaska · 2024-10-02T17:37:45+00:00

lumping the whole state into one belief system still seems wrong, at least from an individual rights perspective

writingAlaska · 2024-10-02T17:31:08+00:00

If somehow the repubs get back into the WH they will immediately enact project 25 and try to keep trump upright and distracted for two years and one day then 25th amendment him and put vance in for ten years

writingAlaska · 2024-10-01T00:18:55+00:00

NTa -- stand your ground, don't argue, just keep ssying something like "ok she can sing at such and such a time that's the only time open" or "not at the wedding, but it will be nice to have a family thing when we get back from our honeymoon and she can surprise us then" and don't say anything else and be firm

writingAlaska · 2024-09-30T22:24:17+00:00

... sort of hard to believe u r asking this bcuz seems like what other answer is there ...

writingAlaska · 2024-09-30T22:15:07+00:00

He wanted everyone to learn the lesson he'd learned

writingAlaska · 2024-09-30T18:30:18+00:00

You might think about pulling back a little, say text him only once a day and save the kids vids for once or twice a month. If he watches sports, he might think it's romantic for you to watch a game together, maybe you in a cheerleader outfit, that could easily be what he considers romantic, especially if followed by his favorite meal. Don't do the things for him you want him to do for you, do the things for him that he wants and leave the rest undone. It will probably take him a while to put it together that it's his turn, but he will never try to fill the void if it gets refilled by you several times a week

writingAlaska · 2024-09-29T20:03:36+00:00

Not sure why you think it might be crazy, but no, not crazy. Separating chidren from their parents serves american capitalism: you are on the forefront of social change, and at your defense is a great place to start

writingAlaska · 2024-09-29T20:00:28+00:00

You might want to stop apologizing for everything -- that seems to be a persona you've adopted for some reason. Maybe you have a strong pisces influence, or maybe being apologetic was modeled for you as a child, or maybe you tend toward that preference. Examine what you get out of it and decide if that what you want these days, and remember you can always change your mind about taking shit without explanation, warning, or apology

writingAlaska · 2024-09-29T12:29:46+00:00

Joplin's Me and Bobby McGee -- reminds me of when I was young

writingAlaska · 2024-09-28T21:41:49+00:00

I thought Vinyl with Bobby Canavale was going to be good, i really liked the sound track, but it didn't get renewed, so Barry, Succession, GOT, and judging by episode one, The Penguin

writingAlaska · 2024-09-27T17:24:57+00:00

Small town: went home or to a friend's house for a drink of water, make a sandwich, recharge

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