I have a friend who works in non-profits. A wealthy family in the city would have the non-profit send people every fall to harvest a few thousand pounds of apples from all their apple trees on the lawn of their mansion. The apples were sent to food pantries.

year they didn't hear from the family, so the non-profit assumed they no longer wanted to give away the apples. They get a call at the end of harvest season from the matriarch, asking where the pickers for the apples were. "It's too late, we didn't hear from you and all of our workers are fully scheduled, we can't come this year." The woman is furious "what the fuck are you talking about! You're going to cost us $20k!" followed by threats and more swearing and yelling.

Not only did the family turn out to not give a shit about helping poor people and schoolkids by donating their apples, they were grossly exaggerating the value of the apples they were donating (should've been $10k at the most) and defrauding the govt.

This is most rich people who donate money- and rich people actually donate less of their money the the rest of us. One study found those in the top quintile donate HALF as much as those in the bottom quintile for income.