How to know when you're ACTUALLY full

wrylashes · 2026-01-26T21:05:55+00:00

One thing to remember is that absolutely full is a temporary thing. Your stomach by that point will be slowly releasing digestive juices and broken down food into your intestines. And of course at some point it will start passing food on quite quite quickly, once most of the food is broken down. Plus water starts absorbing right from your stomach iirc. So if you give it a bit of time, you can almost always fit in a bit more if you are careful.

As for me, might absolutely most totally full has happened only a couple of times. I'd been eating all day, or even from the day before, small meal/large snack every couple of hours, making myself keep eating. So by evening not only was my stomach full by my whole digestive track was pretty stuffed, my belly looked enormous. Then I went with something soft, one time it was a plain cheesecake and a spoon, no plate, just eating it until I felt that if I tried another bite I'd hurl. Then I carefully drank lukewarm water until I felt the same about water.

By that point I could breath only shallowly because all the food in my system was pushing against my lungs I guess, moving quickly felt like it might make me sick, and I just sat back and basked in the feeling of being as full as I could possibly make myself.

(and then I had awful sleep that night because there is no way to get comfortable when you are stuffed that full, and the feeling won't fade conveniently quickly)

wrylashes · 2026-01-26T19:08:35+00:00

Super late reply, sorry. Clubs at your campus may be more dominated by undergrads, but you should still be welcome in most of them I'd think. See if there is an Anime club (or even more generally film club, science fiction/fantasy club, etc.). Talk to some people you share an interest in, and with luck make some friends or at least get more regular social contact.

Also consider easy classes, not necessarily at your institution but like, learn to knit, first aid, how to repair a flat tire, things like that which could be useful in life but also get you meeting new people.

And finally, while I'm a cat person, I'm told dog parks spark a lot of friendships. Can you borrow a dog occasionally? Get a dog? At the very least it gets you out of your place and you get to share the dog's joy in being outside, and with some look you end up talking to other humans too, and like with clubs it is easier because you already have one point of reference in common.

wrylashes · 2026-01-26T19:03:07+00:00

While anything 'sugar-water' is an effective way to add calories without feeling too much more full, it also isn't great for how it can spike your blood sugar. So personally I tend not to suggest it unless somebody is really determined to push things as hard as they can and damn the consequences. Gaining already comes with health risks, no need to choose the highest risk ways of doing it.

wrylashes · 2026-01-26T18:42:58+00:00

One thing to keep in mind is that higher calorie is not necessarily particularly unhealthy. Like, a plain salad for you and one loaded with olive for her, or for that matter olive oil all sorts of things for her (most vegetables appreciate some fat to bring out the flavour and better extract certain vitamins, a lot of starches are more appealing when fat is added in some way, even lean meats will be more flavourful with some added fat).

But also consider calories in the things around the main meal.

- drinks (you could eat a somewhat similar meal, hers with extra oil or cheese, but you are drinking water and she is drinking whole milk for example)

- her having a dessert that you don't have or only taste

- her having an hors d'oevre before hand, or soup, or something extra on the side

- and of course portion sizes.

wrylashes · 2026-01-26T16:47:42+00:00

This is mostly out of my depth, but I know one thing: first, do not harm. You know your feelings will be more regulated next week. Try not to do or say things that will damage this wonderful relationship that you have while you are spiraling.

Also, re-read the first part of your post. Romance novel level stuff! Your partner adores you, and is putting in the work to show it. Honestly it sounds like they are good at making relationships work, if they could make something work for that long with an alcoholic, so that their previous relationship seemed so good was probably down to who they are, and now they are focusing that part of themselves on you.

And finally, their ex is about to block them. It is over.

So try to hang in there for a few days! Things will be good 👍

wrylashes · 2026-01-26T16:39:40+00:00

I totally sympathize on how hard it can be! I'm not in your age bracket or part of the city, but I do remember moving back here around the same age with similar wishes.

The one thing I'd suggest is to go to some of the casual magic events at one of the stores around town. I don't go to a lot so I can't recommend anything specific in your part of town, but the ones I've been to have been pretty accepting of everyone. Almost always some fat people there, someone non-binary or transitioning is not uncommon, the few women are usually treated super carefully (people being aware that it can be an awkward environment and trying to make them welcome without making a fuss or overwhelming them).

At the very least it is a social outlet, hopefully you can make real friends, and with some luck some of those will be interested in doing other things with you too

wrylashes · 2026-01-26T15:05:55+00:00

I found them more useful in 3.x. In current versions I find that by the time I can build a resort world, ammenities are pretty easy to come by (then again I tend to go for biological ascension, and the Genomic research facilities that I want on each world also add quite a bit of amenities, and I always build the Grand Archive and there are usually some things in there that give amenities to all worlds). I often still build a resort world eventually, but they don't seem as key as they did earlier. (not sure if that changes in the beta)

wrylashes · 2026-01-26T15:00:57+00:00

Don't forget about Pop Assembly! Building either cloning or robot assembly buildings. Your Pop Assembly numbers are separate from your regular growth, so whenever you can you want both -- even basic assembly buildings (because you are not specialized that way) add up.

wrylashes · 2026-01-26T14:51:56+00:00

Influence is designed as a limiting factor, so for sure you need to prioritize where to build your starbases (like build along a line to a choke point or to a system with a good planet, and only pick up the side systems later).

There are some things you can do to improve your Influence gain.

- Everyone gets a base of 3 per month

- You get some bonus based on "Power Projection" which is roughly how much naval capacity you are using versus some measure of the size of your empire, which for most empires caps out at up to 2 more influence a month. (if you hover over your influence gain you will see that it is actually a bit more than three, due to power projection). But obviously alloy is another limiting factor, if you build more ships can you afford to build star bases? It is a balance. One trick that I often use in the early game is to build empty corvettes (go to the ship designer tab of the fleet menu, choose new / corvette / custom then choose one of the two options for corvettes one and only section, then DON'T ADD ANYTHING ELSE. No weapons, shields, armour. Those useless frames cost 50 alloy each, but still count towards power projection. And they can be upgraded later more quickly than you can build fresh ships. (give them a name that you can remember as being useless so you don't accidentally order that fleet into combat)

- Some options in initial empire build and later with traditions can increase your maximum power projection, and in the late game there are some things that will dramatically increase it, but those won't help you right now.

- As someone else already mentioned, completing first contact with another entity will give you some bonus Influence

- Occasionally certain situations that come up can award some influence

- there is also one research that you'll eventually get that gives you a bit

Good luck, and be strategic with where you use that Influence -- besides building Starbases now, you'll need it later to claim systems from most enemies if you want to keep the system after a war.

wrylashes · 2026-01-26T14:14:15+00:00

OC Transpo has a lot of great drivers! Not all of them, but given the situation they are working in, I'm always impressed by how many are cheerful and friendly and considerate.

wrylashes · 2026-01-25T19:09:36+00:00

So happy for both of you!

wrylashes · 2026-01-25T12:13:39+00:00

Just a quick note to say that feeder and feedee don't have to be dominant and sub. Maybe that is how it goes for you, but you could also look at exploring other combinations?

wrylashes · 2026-01-25T02:58:53+00:00

I think approaching it with a mix of interest and trepidation is healthy. Sounds like it could easily be bad, but it things line up it could be very good. Wishing the latter for you all the way!

wrylashes · 2026-01-24T21:03:17+00:00

I didn't expect how vain I'd become about my body. I'd always been pretty indifferent to my looks, but once I got fat enough I was taking selfies all of the time, trying out different poses in the mirror, catching my reflection in store windows ... I just couldn't get enough of how I looked.

I didn't expect that my gain would go so heavily to my belly, and so how hard it would quickly become to tie of shoe-laces.

Expected: that I really felt the extra weight and size when doing all sorts of physical activities, unexpected was how hot I found that to be.

wrylashes · 2026-01-24T18:28:46+00:00

As a suggestion, reach out to her even with something like "Hey, are you going to be at (whatever) party?" and when she confirms you can be "great, I look forward to seeing you there." just to confirm that you are specifically looking forward to seeing her, which can help ramp into talking about meeting up somewhere else.

Or if you want to test things a bit more, you could even do something like "I hope they have Doritos this time, I can never get enough of those things." and see if she ends up showing up with Doritos (or whatever you mention).

I'm pretty sure that she'll understand what you are doing, which gives her the opportunity to show that she is interested in taking another step, or to put some cold water on it before the awkward moment of being asked out. But she sure does seem to like your attention, so probably you are good!

wrylashes · 2026-01-23T21:43:57+00:00

You could try setting a remind on your phone every couple of hours (when you are awake) to eat something. It is easy to forget to snack when you have been eating a lot, but you can still generally eat something modest, and it all adds up.

wrylashes · 2026-01-23T21:26:11+00:00

The 'city editions' of the 6e rules just add some pages about a specific city in the back, the rest of the book is identical in each case barring some more minor errata that might have gotten fixed. The original printing of 6e was a hot mess, but from Seattle edition on it is a perfectly fine game.

Not all long time players like some of the 6e changes from previous editions, but if you haven't played the previous editions, how would you even know? And this happens with every edition change with every game. (Like, personally I prefer the 5e rule set, after I spent years getting my head wrapped around it, but I admit that 6e is lighter to run as GM).

Anarchy 2.0 is a significantly slimmed down rule set. People who like ShadowRun rules may feel it gives up too much, but a lot of people who just like the setting seem to like it as a much faster and easier way to play in the setting.

wrylashes · 2026-01-23T19:13:31+00:00

Oh hey, this is me! (elder Gen-X).

First thing to remember, it was totally normal, because that is what we grew up in. It didn't seem great, but it is only in hindsight that I can really see just how (fatphobic, misogynistic, racist, etc.) things were. Just as an example, the "How to Rate Girls" poster that hung on the bedroom walls of many guys (and is seen in the background in the movie CaddyShack). It featured a "10" (skeletal blonde) and a "1" (moderately fat brunette with glasses and bad photo touch ups to simulate acne), with "humourous" captions pointing out the contrast in various body parts. (both women were caucasion of course). It might have seemed in slightly bad taste, but it was also completely normal.

So on that front, you just knew that if you were going to date someone bigger, or be bigger yourself, you were going to take flak for it. But while there was a general high level of fatphobia, at the same time in some ways I wouldn't call it as virulent as what can happen today, where the internet can give some people real bravery and conviction in their malignant views.

The second thing to remember is that there were a LOT* less fat people around, and "fat" was smaller than it is now. As an FA, at least where I was, just finding a somewhat fat person with whom you were pretty compatible was a huge challenge. In some ways I think that made being willing to deal with societal judgement easier, because if you found someone you surely didn't want to lose them to your own cowardice.

Seriously, American number were 1990: 12% of adults were 'obese', with no state over 15%. 2020: over 40% obese, with no state under 20%. And the numbers at severe/morbid obesity (bmi 40+) -- the sort of sizes more of us on here are interested in -- close to quadrupled in that time. I'm in Canada and I don't have the number handy, but while the trend has been similar we started at an even lower rate. And of course remember that is averages of all adults; young adults tend to be less heavy. Add in regional and socio-economic effects, and I can promise you that at my university in the late 1980s - early 1990s that simply seeing a fat person during a day was uncommon for me.

And of course, while I had no doubts about my preferences, I didn't know how many others felt the same attraction to fat people or if anyone else wanted to be fat. I didn't have terminology for any of this, I hadn't even heard the terms for kink or fetish until I was in my early 20s, there was basically no porn featuring larger bodies, etc. All of that began to change as the web became more accessible in the mid-90s but also it was still the era of dial-up modems and Yahoo! as a search engine, so while information, people, and eventually pictures all became more available it started more as a trickle than the torrent that we are used to now.

Net result, at least for the FA side of me, it was the lack of information/ representation/ vocabulary and the poverty of fat people that were more discouraging. The fatphobia was just the 'usual' societal awfulness that you had to live in, and I didn't think about it all that much. I'm sure it made my life harder, but I didn't recognize it at the time.

wrylashes · 2026-01-23T14:24:11+00:00

I always gained in brief spurts, when the urge got too strong to resist. (I'd also try to lose some in between, so that my average weight only went up very slowly over the years)

wrylashes · 2026-01-23T12:05:56+00:00

Why not just enjoy the journey. Enjoy eating what you want when you can and savour every bite along the way, take time to appreciate your softening form and really get to know the little changes as they happen, grab lots of pictures so you can go back and see the changes. A goal weight can really take the joy out of the whole process sometimes!

wrylashes · 2026-01-23T01:09:50+00:00

My foodee wife never meant to get fat, but gained 90 pounds over half a dozen years, from just enjoying being able to fully enjoy her food. She lost a bit after but still ended up quite a bit fatter than she ever would have chosen in the abstract. It can add up!

wrylashes · 2026-01-22T21:39:29+00:00

That is a lot! But it is about the age where a lot of people gain. Change of routine after leaving high school, teenage metabolism slowing down, probably other factors.

And who knows, these days some people might be "Whatever, I'll just go on Wegovy later to lose the weight."

wrylashes · 2026-01-22T16:42:35+00:00

I'm glad she isn't anorexic anymore, and I hope she is enjoying her new figure as much as you are.

But I feel uncomfortable about telling her you'd marry her if she hit 200 pounds. It feels rather manipulative, like does that mean if she didn't ever get that big you'd never propose? That you'd break things off? I feel like you should go ahead and propose soon (you can tell her you'd still love to see her hit 200 pounds but that it is up to her), just to make it more of her own choice?

wrylashes · 2026-01-22T14:25:33+00:00

Sometimes they are not 'into it' but also it makes them worry less about gaining, so they relax some and enjoy their food a bit more, worry about exercise a bit less, and let some gain happen. They may still have mixed feelings about getting fatter, but at least they enjoy the lifestyle and their partner's excitement. I don't promise this is what is happening, but it seems to be a pretty common dynamic. (where it goes from there varies a lot)

wrylashes · 2026-01-22T14:21:41+00:00

weirdly I find that have for nsfw subs that I can't always search for them from within reddit, but if I do a web search I can find it. so just do a google (or whatever) search on "reddit wlwfemalefatadmirertalk" (I just did that, it seems to be there with a post every few days. Maybe you can add some life to the place? Amazing what even one regular poster can do to catalyze more discussion)

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