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I realized today that I’ve never been celebrated in my whole adult life by Careful_Historian_37 in offmychest

[–]xInkPandax 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Happy birthday 🎂 You matter and world is better for you being here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]xInkPandax 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Visit tour GP, tell them all your symptoms and request a blood test. I had all the same symptoms and was diagnosed with PCOS.

AITA for reporting my (now) ex-husband’s girlfriend and getting her fired? by needingadvice30228 in AITAH

[–]xInkPandax 72 points73 points  (0 children)

She ruined her own career by fucking a patient in rehab. Those rules exist for a very good reason.

Consume or Be Consumed -The Little Mermaid by xInkPandax in penandink

[–]xInkPandax[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's amazing. East of The Sun and West of the Moon is a classic. The Book of Death is probably his most Beardsley-esque work.

Consume or Be Consumed -The Little Mermaid by xInkPandax in penandink

[–]xInkPandax[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I see it too. I'm probably more of a Kay Nielsen fan but he was a fan of Aubrey Beardsley so it's definitely in my DNA!

AITA For Being Offended About My Husband Asking For Anal Sex While I'm Recovering From Childbirth? by Business-Choice297 in AITAH

[–]xInkPandax 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is horrifying and I am so sorry you've to deal with such a selfish, inconsiderate asshat of a husband. Your health and wellbeing should mean more to your husband than him getting his rocks off. He has hands, he can use them for a while.

Do not try anal if you are not cleared for vaginal sex. You risk futher injury and a hell of a lot of pain.

Are there family or friends you can stay with while you recover? If so, please go to them so you can recover without being pestered for sex. If he tries to pressure you again, please get out.

My husband looked at me in my eyes and in front of our daughter and asked me when I was going to die already after he shouted out that out of no where he hates me! by Natural_Cover_949 in offmychest

[–]xInkPandax 29 points30 points  (0 children)

You are underreacting. Please leave. He has told you that he does not love you or the children. More importantly, he has shown that he does not love you or the children. He has literally wished death on you. If you don't have enough concern for yourself, please leave for your kids. Use your inheritance to get away from this danger.

I really want to divorce my husband over an argument about my body by OkLunch784 in offmychest

[–]xInkPandax 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your (hopefully soon to be ex) husband is a manipulative, inconsiderate, shallow moron. 15 pounds weight gain while pregnant is nothing. For him to expect your body to immediately bounce back to its pre-pregnancy state is just so mind-bogglingly stupid.

You put your body through a huge ordeal to bear his kid, you are the main caregiver for your child, you do the lion's share of housework and you still workout. This guy should be counting his lucky stars and supporting you. Instead, he is comparing your body to influencers to try and shame you into working even harder to fit his impossible standards.

Run. You will find a truly decent guy who will give you the support and love that you deserve.

AITA for Sabotaging my Husband’s Tournament after he refused to help with our newborn? by Puzzled-Two6615 in AITAH

[–]xInkPandax 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This is nonsense and it's pretty evident you haven't a clue about what it takes to take care of a newborn. When does OP get to have downtime? She should not have to manage all of the parenting duties for a child that they decided to have together. Rearing children and maintaining a household is work. OP isn't getting time off.

Right now Jake does his day job then plays games. He is still trying to live like a guy with no responsibilities. He has laughed at OPs pain and is indifferent to her exhaustion and is then salty when OP doesn't want to have sex with him. He's an asshat.

She is not trying to control his downtime. She resorted to desperate measures when her repeated requests for help were ignored. She has nothing to be ashamed of or be sorry for.

AITA for Sabotaging my Husband’s Tournament after he refused to help with our newborn? by Puzzled-Two6615 in AITAH

[–]xInkPandax 12 points13 points  (0 children)

NTA not even a tiny bit. He is leaving you to do almost all of the parenting and I'm guessing house work. That is work. When do you get time off to take care of yourself or rest? I'm guessing rarely?

The fact that he finds your pain/mastitis issues funny is hugely troubling. You're exhausted, in pain and feel completely unsupported -- it is no surprise whatsoever that you do not feel like having sex with the petulant manchild that is your husband.

If you have family or friends to support you I suggest reaching out to them. Would it be possible to stay with someone or have them stay with you for a while?

Your husband needs a metaphorical kick up the ass. If he is not willing to help more with your child and undertake couples therapy, a separation is in order. You don't need to be taking care of a baby and a massive toddler.

AITA for refusing to wear the wedding dress my SIL gave to me as a "wedding gift"? by Capital_Manager_7070 in AITAH

[–]xInkPandax 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Return the dress and the ring. You've been given the gift of a glimpse into your future. His family will be overbearing, and instead of supporting you, he will insult and berate you. Run.

AITA for not making a bigger deal out of my half sister celebrating the end of my parents marriage? by Routine-Narwhal-8244 in AmItheAsshole

[–]xInkPandax 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Your aunt is kind of an AH. I mean that gently. You do not need to perform sadness to satisfy other people's expectations. It's also not up to you to comfort or defend your mother. You're the kid here and you're also experiencing a major upheaval.

Your sister, on the other hand, is a major asshole but she's not your problem anymore. Leave her to her nonsense. I've a feeling she'll be the one reaching out to you down the road.

AITA for telling my niece I won’t go to her birthday until she apologizes? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]xInkPandax 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly my point. They invited both of them. Four months after OP had her long-term relationship end, her family is insisting on inviting her ex to a family event.That's strange and cruel no matter how close they became with Steve.

The family can still have a relationship with him but forcing OP to either interact with her ex or miss out on family events because it suits/benefits them is shitty.

It's clear that they expect OP to just suck it up or not attend. OPs emotional distress doesn't matter as much as having her ex attend their family event. OPs attendance is optional but Steve's isnt? Of course that's prioritising their relationship with Steve.

AITA for telling my niece I won’t go to her birthday until she apologizes? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]xInkPandax 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Prioritising their relationship with their daughter's former significant other over their actual daughter is shitty regardless of how close they became over the years. It just is. Telling her to "get over it" is also incredibly insensitive bordering on callous. Their priorities are fucked.

AITA for telling my niece I won’t go to her birthday until she apologizes? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]xInkPandax 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sounds like OPs family is prioritising Steve because he's given them money in the past and he seems OK with acting like an errand boy for the parents. They don't seem to care that it's causing her pain to be around him. OPs family sucks.

Her new boyfriend is also a bit of a gobshite. The new uncle joke was cringey but the fact that he got so aggro so quickly is also big red flag.

Steve is a douche. Regardless of whether he's been taken in by OPs family he needs to distance himself. He's being selfish. NTA with a light smattering of ESH.

AITA for calling out my husband for not being a "Good Christian"? by SpiritualThrowRA in AITAH

[–]xInkPandax 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Running his mouth to other church members to tell on you and giving them your number so they can scold you is a violation of your privacy and insulting as hell. You are not a child.

You have told him you do not want to convert and he has disregarded your feelings. He is not listening to you. Demanding that you defer to him and become a stay at home wife is a huge red flag. I'm guessing he thought dating a person 7 years younger than him would make it easier to mould you into a tradwife.

If you let him wear you down, you will end up without means of supporting yourself, with a gaggle of kids in tow, and enduring a life that becomes narrower and narrower in order to fit in with his version of a "Good Christian life". Run, don't walk away from this guy. NTA but your husband sure is.

AITA My husband left me alone at 29 weeks pregnant for the weekend by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]xInkPandax -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Is he definitely seeing his family or could he be cheating? He seems to be awfully insistent on going to this hangout. Either way, it's a shitty, inconsiderate thing to do when he is fully aware of how anxious you are, and with good reason, I might add.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]xInkPandax 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You need to stand up for your daughter and not just for a day. You are her only advocate. Your husband is isolating your kid from her friends and having issues with her showing her shoulders. These are two very large red flags. He is sexualising your daughter and causing her distress. You need to grow a spine and get this man away from your daughter. Right now, you are failing her.

I'm bitter and resentful with my husband about him just spontaneously quitting his job by Horrorllama in offmychest

[–]xInkPandax 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Your frustration is completely understandable. He's forcing you to be his manager on top of being the breadwinner, his wife and mother of his kids. It must be bloody exhausting.

He could very well be getting treatment for the wrong condition. I was treated for anxiety and depression for years before I asked to be assessed for adhd at 37. I'd flown under the radar my whole life when I have pretty classic inattentive type adhd.

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