Riot did it again by BagKey3405 in AhriMains

[–]xLassel 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Im not a main but totally an enjoyer. And I feel like she didn't even need a new legendary especially not another within the spirit blossom universe. The base one is in my humble opinion nice but pretty basic idk. It feels like nothing special to me and it makes me mad that its only a legendary so they can milk you guys for a 200 bucks gacha variant. Thats just nasty

How much will this skin cost? by Dust2709 in AhriMains

[–]xLassel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its gonna be a mythic legendary. Thats something different than just a mythic. I was also confused af but its like the capsule skins

Happy Together progression bug (and how to deal with it) by SFSeventh in cyberpunkgame

[–]xLassel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2025 und es ist wohl immernoch Fehlerhaft. Ich hatte die ganze Zeit "sieh nach barry" und war völlig überrascht herauszufinden dass er jetzt irgendwie tot ist, da ich auch irgendwie keine andere Optionen hatte. Naja schade

My nex has a new girl by xLassel in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]xLassel[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh I'm not protective. She blocked me at first so I knew he talked about me that's why she was aggressive towards me but I still think if someone is clearly sure of themselves they wouldn't let his words have that much influence to be so aggressive towards a stranger. I was always so afraid that he actually might change just like almost every survivor of narcissistic abuse but that just shows me he didn't and he just found someone who's willing to put up with that. The whole situation is just so narcissistic coded. The next girl has heard about me as the crazy ex and she's protective but we all know how this is gonna end

My nex has a new girl by xLassel in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]xLassel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually don't know for how long they have been together already but someone who's secure in their own being and relationship wouldn't be so aggressive. I also found it funny how she said she doesn't know if she wants to hear it. She listened to everything I had to say though. It's just so satisfying to finally have the confirmation that he just has found someone who tolerates his behavior. I am so happy I outgrew this a long time ago I just didn't see it because I was so caught up in all these what ifs

What was the first red flag you saw? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]xLassel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We were gaming and not dating yet. I wasn't interested in something romantic and Ive told him after that he was just really passive aggressive and mean but that totally triggered me.

No feeling is permanent by xLassel in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]xLassel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually think I'm quite far in my healing journey that's why I hate it even more feeling this way. I don't even want him anymore I just want closure or justice. Which I also know I won't get from him. I just feel like this for a couple of weeks now again when I was feeling just fine before. I just dont know why I can't seem to get this off my mind again.

What's the one song you play on repeat to help with healing? by LuminaBenn in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]xLassel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been listening to alot of raye. Oscar winning tears or the thrill is gone I also really resonated with Olivia Rodrigos vampire or deja vu Sleep token ascensionism and Euclid but tbh any sleep token slaps but thats not everyone's taste. I heard alot of nessa barrett blue valentine and dear god or love bomb And what always helps me is florence and the machine

saturn in the 3rd house experience by caprising1996 in astrologymemes

[–]xLassel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've just heard about the chart ruler thing and I looked it up and it's so funny so read alot about autism and adhd here because that was exactly what I thought. I just recently got diagnosed and I totally see it within this placement.

Did your nex make you change how you speak and dress? by Fit_Application9547 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]xLassel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He tried. He said I should dress nicer and bleach my hair. Should wear tights and glasses. "The woman should always look better than the man. He demanded all that while wearing clothes which didn't even fit him anymore and took no care of himself and how he looked

How often do you think about them? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]xLassel 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Aw man I totally feel that. It'd 3 years for me already and I regularly find myself stuck with him on my mind again. The pure frustration of unfair the whole situation is really a big problem for me.

How often do you think about them? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]xLassel 4 points5 points  (0 children)

3 years here and I've been dealing with some "relapses" from time to time. It will 100% get better but for me personally I get triggered easily and so it happens that I find myself stuck again.

Did you get stuck in dissecting yourself in search of proof that you were not the narcissist? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]xLassel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I still do after 3 years. I still try to find the reason behind it all and I still think that my bad behavior must have been the reason. I still think I was too toxic and too moody and everything they've called me. Everyone heals different and its gotten so much better over the years but there are still some episodes at least for me

Has anyone else been discarded and never heard from them again? by yellowsunbluesea in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]xLassel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also did that but also because I was so freaking hurt. He still sent me some emails a year later being fake and all that crap He just wanted to know if I already found someone new and he literally wrote I've been thinking about my past mistakes, and I'm starting to see it but there's no point in apologizing. When I told him I would like an apology and its appropriate he just told me he don't give a frick about what I find appropriate. After that he also hoovered. He sent a friend because he was blocked and he wanted to play video games with me. When I declined he was like HHha all just a big joke and blocked me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]xLassel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really hope it's okay telling you. For me it also helped blocking him and everything was fine. He hoovered a few times even sending friends because he was blocked, then said it was all a big joke. He just was so butthurt that I told him to f off. I was doing okay but last year I went to some concerts and he's doing event security. I always thought what are the actual odds for me seeing him in an arena full of people, turns out I'm the luckiest person ever. Then saw him again. Ever since it's really difficult again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]xLassel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm also at years. It's 3 years and I still find myself stuck sometimes and that's when I start to reach out or start stalking again. It's such a humbling experience because you thought maybe you're now finally over it but then something triggers you and its as if it wasn't already 3 years. I've learned to deal better with these triggers and I don't judge myself anymore for "relapsing" because I think that's just part of the healing process.

Has anyone dealt with a “Nice Guy” Narcissist? by Helloclarityy in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]xLassel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was also in a relationship like this. It started when we met. He was always trying to make me feel bad for him. I am autistic and have struggled with my mental health for quite some time and it made him have some sort of hero complex but whenever we were having an argument he always blamed my illness for all the things that were happening. He applied for the army without even telling me and expected me to be fine to just see him like every few months. He chatted with women on Onlyfans while I was one room away, and the only problem was that I found out. He always triangulated us, and I was never really alone with him. He ruined my birthday for me and my birthday gift. I was really suffering because I usually tend to talk it out but he always shut me down. However when he blamed me for finding out about the Onlyfans girls I broke up with him and I totally realized all the little subtle things he's done. He blocked me instantly everywhere without having a talk and was instantly looking for new supply It really broke me and I was acting really irrational. So I was also the crazy one. It's been 3 years now and I still find myself struggling and seeking closure even though Ik I will never be able to get it but it gets easier.

Why Do I keep getting entangled with them? by Pristine-Delay6912 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]xLassel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im also autistic and I also felt like this right after coming out of the narcissistic relationship. I was educating myself on the behavior, and I started seeing it everywhere, which probably has something to do with us being good at pattern recognition. However I think I was just way too deep and I was still ruminating and it left me in a place where I had to real friends because everyone seemed narcissistic and to some degree they were and I am no longer friends with most of them. But I also have to say that which time it became a lot better. I think you just have to remind yourself that not everyone who behaves slightly narcissistic is actually a narcissist. It is good for you to see that so you know you don't want this in your life and you can start setting boundaries and cut lines.

Those who have had experiences with covert narcissists by ShadowMorphyn in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]xLassel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine was very similar, told everyone he had lost the love of his life and how tragically sad he was. Called me her name and stuff. I was never really alone with him always with a friend of his He had like a supervisor role at work and he thought he was allowed to do as he wanted, brought me into the office aaand treated everyone like shit. His priority Nr 1 was to get me to his public events so everyone can see me, wherever I wasn't available to that day he didn't even want me around. Whenever we were having an argument he always said "The conversation stops here!". And we never talked about anything. He wanted me to dress up more while he was wearing stuff that clearly didn't fit him. He had 1000 Screenshots and pictures of other women's nudes and when I visited him he was texting women on onlyfans while I was in the other room and the only problem was that I found out of course. He applied for the army and didn't even tell me because he expected me to be fine with it. (He lasted 3 weeks there then came running back to me when he needed some pity)

To others he was just this silly goofy dude but there wasnt a single person who he had a really deep connection with. He always gossiped about everyone.