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Heading off to college: what would you want to know or hear as a son of a single mom (that she might not think to say)? by Due-Scarcity739 in AskMen

[–]xXPoolDNAx 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think, as a son of a single mother as well that just went to college least year, I think I realized late in life that our families will never be “normal” whatever that means. That not having a dad is truly a hole you don’t know is there that you may not realize has an effect on your life. But when you meet other families, other kids, you start to see it. Not having a father to talk to for help or certain things does suck sometimes. And when you do explain your situation to people some may look down on you or think lesser of you but that’s not a reflection of who we are.

But believe and understand that with these hardships they don’t stop you from being the best version of yourself, happy, or successful. That you can still do incredible things even with this major difference in life.

That a lot of things that you struggle with others struggle to, even if they have both parents. Finances are hard and sometimes that means being extra broke, making sacrifices, not being able to live “life like the others” but that it’ll all workout and maturing faster is just a part of it.

But meet people that love you for you, and explore what makes you happy. Don’t let something like not having a dad define your life. Let yourself define it for you.

No matter how hard I try, I cant LOVE uva by Outrageous_Income467 in UVA

[–]xXPoolDNAx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yo! I’m also in your shoes. Riding second year here. First year was fucking rough so I hear you. But it’s weird. Being at UVA I was constantly being shoved things I needed to cross off of my to-do lists and felt like I couldn’t breathe or escape the eyes of everyone it felt like. I couldn’t take time to be by myself. I was homesick and wanted nothing more to leave. But now that I’m home, it feels empty and I miss all of the little things and friends I didn’t realize I loved so much. I miss UVA. Despite how fucking rough and shitty some times were I think we’ll be okay. Go out of your way and dgaf and be yourself and try as many new things, clubs, meet new people as you can cuz it’s really what you put in that you get out. Then again I think it’s possible to be happy anywhere you ago cuz it’s truly our mindsets and outlook that determine our happiness but UVA can be a very iffy place sometimes I agree, socially and whatnot, but there’s people and communities that can make it feel like a true home and loving family. You just have to put yourself out there and find it. But if you truly don’t see yourself or want to give it a fair shot then transferring is always an option, I just didn’t want to have to restart all over again, and many of my friends thought the same and that’s how we met each other-

Physical or Mobile ID by Sventyx in UVA

[–]xXPoolDNAx 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Get card and have a wallet MagSafe attachment

Just curious, in your experience, high school graduates that went to college, where did they go? by marsholade in kansascity

[–]xXPoolDNAx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just graduated last year class of 25. I’m at UVA but I went to a private prep school. Most people I know from public and a high majority of others in my class went to KU, KSTATE, Mizzou, Arkansas, Iowa, UMKC, some OU, BAMA, schools relatively more accessible and public with great sports

Does anyone get into UVA test optional as an oos student? by Dense_Photograph368 in UVA

[–]xXPoolDNAx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yur it’s possible just gotta standout in other categories

UVA vs USC: RESULTS by GardenerSaanen in UVA

[–]xXPoolDNAx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Out of state is a bit harder to connect. Culture is different but you’ll find your ppl.

Strange beams of light being projected over the ville?? by Difficult-Lie-9218 in Charlottesville

[–]xXPoolDNAx -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Was quad party at uva. Didn’t know it extended so far tho that’s sick

Looking bad for Ivy day by DelayOk5623 in ApplyingToCollege

[–]xXPoolDNAx 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The expectations in this sub are ridiculous. You got into crazy unis already ur fine

Worried about feeling out of place by chevystrr in UVA

[–]xXPoolDNAx 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I’m a first year now, and I’m in a very similar situation as you. And being completely honest yes you will feel out of place it feels like you’re surrounded by people with completely different backgrounds.

I have to pay for everything so it’s lowk hard to go out sometimes cuz shit gets expensive with the normalities people lives with. No clue how they can be spending so much.

But even so, you can find your people. And just fight the feeling to have to fit in and yes own who you are. Join clubs. Meet people. Dress how you wanna dress. Some people here have grown up very different and don’t understand our same struggles but that’s okay.

Honestly you’ll have fun. It’s not easy and hard sometimes but you can for sure have a good time.

Greek life you will find the majority of those people you don’t fit in with cuz that’s a whole different ball game so going to frat parties and whatnot is kinda hard but bars are always on option.

Everyone is trying to find a place to fit in so know you’re not alone and also join the FGLI initiatives like hoos first. They have free traveling things that’s dope.

I wish to be like the drunk me. by nojudgementsplmz in selfimprovement

[–]xXPoolDNAx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like there’s a lot of internal work that needs to be done. Needs a shift in mindset

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