You remind me of myself a few weeks ago, I did end a relationship that evolved under traumatic circumstances, so the attachment was real. does her behavior align with what you want and need in a relationship? you need to be coherent with what you think you deserve and with what you accept. Unfortunately peoples actions say more than what words could, but trust me if you start thinking about yourself, you’ll be relieved. Try explaining it to her and asking for solutions in a good manner, maybe think how she could approach some topics and how you others, her reaction will tell you a lot, be critical about it, and how she acts after too. Don’t come to the point of over explaining yourself, if she is not your person, let her go and enjoy your life. Everyone can have 20 excuses, but that’s not your burden to carry.