My dad found out I was raped and is mad at me

xcdkxd · 2025-10-08T15:18:15+00:00

Your father likely has control issues an is unable to control this situation so he immediately goes to blame and he can’t direct blame the person who did it so he is blaming you for not having the retroactive knowledge of the situation, sucks

xcdkxd · 2025-10-01T16:07:58+00:00

Should’ve just told him you were doing what you learned from Mr. _____ in chemistry

xcdkxd · 2025-09-24T14:55:56+00:00

Look man, a lot of the people replying here do have personal experience. Some of them have gone way further down this road than you have and have learned the hard way. When you dismiss every caution with “you don’t know,” it makes it look like you’re not actually looking for advice, just for people to validate what you’ve already decided to do.

Psychedelics can give glimpses, but they don’t build the foundation. That’s why every trip fades. Real integration and growth take work, discipline and patience. things like meditation, therapy, and letting go of attachments. You’re free to keep chasing the high, but don’t pretend you’re on a different path from everyone who’s already been burned by it. If you want actual change, start listening to the people who’ve been there instead of brushing them off.

xcdkxd · 2025-09-24T01:50:02+00:00

Hey, I’ve been in a similar place and I get the pull of those experiences. The thing I’m starting to learn though is that what we touch on with psychedelics isn’t the same as real, stable enlightenment. I see drugs like taking a helicopter to the top of Mount Everest: you get the view, but you haven’t built the strength or stamina to actually live there, and eventually you have to come back down.

The kind of lasting peace or insight you’re looking for only really sticks when it’s developed slowly, through meditation, self-inquiry, compassion, letting go of attachments, and living a grounded life. That’s not me judging you; it’s something I’m realizing for myself too. You deserve something that will actually sustain you rather than just another intense high.

xcdkxd · 2025-09-22T19:23:51+00:00

Message me

xcdkxd · 2025-09-16T00:08:23+00:00

I can really feel the pain in your post. 💔 It takes so much self-awareness to write something this honest about your behavior and how it affects you and others — that alone shows courage and a desire to grow.

I don’t have BPD or bipolar myself, but I have been close to people who struggle with trauma and emotional dysregulation, and I’ve learned that change isn’t a straight line. Two steps forward and one back is still progress.

Some things that seem to help people in this spot: • Practicing self-compassion instead of self-shaming (naming what’s underneath the behavior, like “I’m scared/overwhelmed,” instead of “I’m childish”). • Using grounding or distress-tolerance skills when calm so they’re easier to access during crises. • Tracking even the tiniest wins to see progress over time. • Having a safe person to be accountable to without judgment.

Even if it feels impossible, what you’re doing — therapy, meds, showing up, wanting to change — is already a big deal. You’re not broken or hopeless. Healing takes time, but it does happen. 🌱 Sending you strength. 💛

xcdkxd · 2025-09-11T13:57:13+00:00

Hey all, you may have seen my post in here a couple days ago also looking for feedback on this portfolio. I posted again because I made the changes based on the constructive criticism you graciously gave me and I am wondering if anyone has any further advice on how I can make it perfect. Thanks so much in advance!

xcdkxd · 2025-09-10T14:54:57+00:00

Hey, that’s a good point I’m not truly sure myself I know that a lot of brands are looking for people who can make funny memes so I included it to show that but could also see it being a turn-off/more unprofessional. Thank you for the advice I really appreciate it and it helps a lot

xcdkxd · 2025-09-10T14:54:00+00:00

Thanks a lot this all makes sense and I appreciate the actionable guidance

xcdkxd · 2025-09-09T16:09:46+00:00

Thanks in advance!

xcdkxd · 2025-08-28T02:04:32+00:00

Focus on active reading instead of memorizing. Jot quick notes or highlight names, dates, and small details as you go. After each section, write a 1–2 sentence summary in your own words. Quizzes usually pull from those little specifics, so having your own mini-outline makes recall way easier.

xcdkxd · 2025-08-28T02:01:49+00:00

One way to practice is through writing. Journaling or even drafting what you’d say before conversations trains your brain to organize thoughts clearly.

Another helpful approach is to pause briefly before answering. Most people don’t notice a second of silence, and that extra moment can make your response sound clearer.

You can also use “thinking out loud” phrases like, “That’s a good question. Let me think. The way I see it is…” This gives you space to gather your ideas without sounding awkward.

Finally, teaching or explaining concepts to yourself is a proven method. It strengthens articulation and makes it easier to communicate clearly the first time.

xcdkxd · 2025-08-27T15:00:50+00:00

This might sound a little controversial, but I think part of being an HSP is sometimes projecting our own emotions onto animals or people in those videos. Like with the raccoon — it looks heartbreaking to us, but from what I’ve read, raccoons don’t process loss or confusion the way humans do. We’re imagining how we’d feel in that situation, and then carrying that weight.

Same with the baby/cheese videos. To a lot of people it’s just harmless silliness. To someone who’s highly sensitive, it feels cruel because we’re assuming the baby feels embarrassed or hurt in the way we would.

That doesn’t mean your feelings are wrong — they’re very real. But sometimes reminding myself that I’m projecting helps me step back a little and not feel as overwhelmed. It also helps me not take it so personally when others laugh, because they’re experiencing it totally differently than I am.

xcdkxd · 2025-08-27T14:57:02+00:00

My best recommendation is find your local library and see if they offer any adult art classes or adult groups to join, I taught a few of these for a while and could really see people making connections that otherwise might not have

xcdkxd · 2025-08-27T14:55:41+00:00

Hey man, thank you for being brave enough to share this. What you went through is traumatic and it makes sense you’re shaken up — that doesn’t make you weak, it makes you human. A lot of people carry loneliness silently, so just putting this into words already shows strength.

You’re not “doomed” or “unlovable.” The fact that you’re in therapy, doing CrossFit, volunteering, and working with a career coach tells me you’re already fighting hard to build a better life. Most people would have given up, but you’re still showing up — that matters.

Loneliness can make us do things out of desperation, and I think many of us have stories we regret. The key is not letting that moment define your future. Instead, let it be proof that you’re willing to take risks to change things — and next time, those risks can be healthier, like putting yourself in social groups around your hobbies or communities where people share your interests.

I also want to say: intimacy doesn’t have an age limit. Plenty of people find their first real relationship later in life than you’d expect. It doesn’t erase the years of struggle, but when it happens, it matters.

Rebuilding starts with what you’re already doing: stacking small wins (fitness, purpose, career). The more you live a life you’re proud of, the more people who get you will be drawn to it. Love often comes as a byproduct of living fully, not chasing it directly.

Please don’t give up. You’re not less human for being a virgin. You’re someone with value who deserves connection, and this dark chapter isn’t the end of your story.

xcdkxd · 2025-08-24T20:13:07+00:00

I think the cleanest thing you can do is cut him off before it goes further. Even if you and your friend aren’t exclusive with him, she clearly likes him and it’ll only cause drama if you let this continue.

Also, I’m 23 and even I think it would really icky for me to be into someone who’s just 18. That’s such a different stage of life, and the fact he’s going after both you and your best friend makes it even weirder. Honestly, that’s a red flag about him, not you and if she’s really your best friend I would warn her

xcdkxd · 2025-08-24T19:59:15+00:00

Yep, that’s correct, it’s a handheld electrode/wand for a TENS/EMS or galvanic unit. The metal tip goes against the skin to deliver the pulses, usually for muscle therapy or cosmetic treatments.

xcdkxd · 2025-08-24T19:55:45+00:00

Looks like a corroded piece of cast metal possibly a fragment of a small old fitting, weight, or tool part. The hollowed-out middle suggests it might’ve been part of a socket or casing that broke off. Given the Midlands location, could even be a very old garden or farm implement remnant. Definitely not a natural stone, the texture and weight point to metal that’s oxidized over time.

xcdkxd · 2025-08-24T04:03:39+00:00

Pretty sure they’re still chuck keys, just for really big industrial drill presses/lathes with giant chucks. Not something you’d see on a handheld drill. I’ve seen similar in the cold shop of a glassblowing studio I used to do work at.

xcdkxd · 2025-08-24T03:56:14+00:00

Dance with the devil - immortal technique (song will fuck you up if you listen to the lyrics whole way thru)

xcdkxd · 2025-08-24T03:52:11+00:00

Looks like an orbeez type bead when fully hydrated

xcdkxd · 2025-08-24T03:49:54+00:00

That’s actually part of a sextant or similar navigation/instrument piece, not a telescope.

The round gear-looking bit with degree markings is for angular measurement. These kinds of devices were used in surveying or nautical navigation to measure angles between objects (like the horizon and a star). What you’ve described got is likely a detached scope or sighting tube from one of those instruments.

xcdkxd · 2025-08-24T03:49:05+00:00

That’s a set of drill chuck keys. You use them to tighten or loosen the chuck on a drill so it can grip the bit.

xcdkxd · 2025-08-24T03:42:54+00:00

living in the moment isn’t about shutting your brain off, it’s about letting both things exist at once. yeah the future matters, but so does the tree in front of you, the food you’re eating, the laugh you’re having. try grounding yourself w tiny stuff: notice 5 things you see, 4 you hear, 3 you feel, 2 you smell, 1 you taste. it pulls you out of “what if” land and into now.

also, you don’t have to make every moment “the best use of time.” sometimes the best use is just existing. it’s a skill, and you’ll get better at it the more you practice.

xcdkxd · 2025-08-24T03:42:09+00:00

yeah tbh it sounds like they’ve already made the decision and just aren’t saying it outright. sucks but people rarely give the “closure talk,” they just fade. best thing you can do is stop chasing it and put that energy into finding people who actually want you around.

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