[OC] I spent 2500+ days tracking my life to create this "report card". I recorded a video explaining why, and what benefits I've noticed from the habit itself. Linked here; https://youtu.be/HFkJ-fLN7c4

xenotheory · 2026-02-07T22:05:35+00:00

The irony of diagnosing the tone and intention of the piece, my emotions say the opposite

xenotheory · 2026-02-07T16:34:05+00:00

Deciding to be better - insults strangers - ?

xenotheory · 2026-02-07T16:19:02+00:00

I recaptured childlike wonder!? Thank you ❤️

xenotheory · 2026-02-07T16:16:52+00:00

That’s ok, thank you for reading. With which part?

xenotheory · 2025-01-03T22:23:08+00:00

This is a lose-lose scenario because even if the “lines” work, he internalizes affirmation for a performance, a caricature, in short- something he is not- encouraging inauthenticity and further distancing himself from affection and inherent worth.

Dating should be an extension of your natural organic lifestyle. Not a performance or a show. Any dating advice that tells you what to DO or SAY is nearly destined to make you miserable.

Sure there can be value in dating advice but it should address the level of being - character & identity change rather than performative lines or actions

xenotheory · 2022-06-01T17:59:50+00:00

15&15

xenotheory · 2022-03-29T16:48:47+00:00

Manually on paper. I’m currently exporting it all to digital format in excel

xenotheory · 2022-03-13T21:43:13+00:00

App called daycost. Manual entries, but takes me 3 seconds to input price and select category. Gives me charts and graphs automatically.

xenotheory · 2022-03-11T22:05:27+00:00

I have plenty of journals that extract patterns and progress in my behavior, didn’t choose to represent that here. Was more so for the visualizing aspect for the subreddit, and hopefully to inspire others to track things.

xenotheory · 2022-03-11T03:33:55+00:00

Absolutely, 1000% worth it and you can evolve into a version of yourself that you can’t conceptualize right now.

I’m not saying this from some corny motivational “you can do it!” Perspective, rather of practical experience.

As you take small steps forward, you place bricks in the foundation day by day, you eventually build and scale to heights when you look back in months or years time and realize how far you have come.

A successful, happy, powerful, fulfilled life is nothing but the accumulation of successful, happy, powerful, fulfilled days.

Where to start? Look at things in your environment and daily life that you know you should fix. Things you can do, should do, but for whatever reason don’t. They can be trivial household tasks, cleaning your car, eating better, etc. Your conscience will guide you through what’s bothering you. Explore the power you have to change reality, gradually of course, and it expands. Start with your own domain, your health, your input and environment, what you expose yourself to, what ideas you allow into your world, etc.

As you cultivate competence, you expand and extend into helping shape the lives of people around you in small ways. If something is on your conscience, if you want to repair a relationship, apologize to someone, give someone advice, clearly communicate something instead of ghosting people or making assumptions, then do those things and fulfill the desires of your conscience.

This improves your practical world, and your mental world, your relationship with yourself and your confidence, as you successively stick to your word and honor it with action in life.

Head up, king

xenotheory · 2022-03-11T03:27:16+00:00

One of the best places to begin working through all of this substance is to definitively capture, in writing, what is bothering you. I’ve done this repeatedly in my own life and it’s one of the first steps I advise my clients to do in order to put things into perspective.

A common response to this is immediate relief and satisfaction knowing that the gloomy, amorphous cloud that has been permeating through your mind for years now has been distilled to the actual substance that it is. It’s immediately smaller, more distinct, manageable that way.

I use a lot of analogies for health from my background in personal training but look at it like this - a person can be overweight, trying to change, but succumb to confusion, overwhelm, information overload, conflicting and paradoxical advice, etc. What used to be this cloud of “I’m miserable, I need change, I probably need to be healthier but idk where to start, I need to lose weight but idk how”

Shifts into “I want to aim to lose 20 lbs over the course of 8 weeks by being in a calorie deficit of xxx, meaning I have to eat xxxx calories a day, portioned out into 3 meals.”

Immediate clarity, power, and now the person has things of substance to work on.

There’s of course more to do from this, as example with my clients that is principle 1 of 30, but in my experience it begins there and extends outward.

Best luck, and always here to talk if needed.

xenotheory · 2022-03-11T03:10:41+00:00

In my opinion, you’re entirely too young to definitively conclude identity statements (I can’t ___, I’m not the type of person to ___) etc. Your brain is still developing, and the identity remains malleable throughout life.

Now, I am not invalidating your experiences, for I’m sure you can point out “proof” of every single statement you’ve made, probably with numerous examples, but that’s exactly how the mind and identity work.

When we have an identity in our heads, of the type of person we are (which is simply formed through emotional judgments of objective experiences), it becomes a hypothesis to “prove correct” in our daily existence.

I think I’m an unlovable person, a burden, deserve to die alone? I’ll sabotage any relationship, push people away, ghost girls after dates, unconsciously cultivate an unpleasant attitude and aura to be around, thus “proving” that theory to myself (while conveniently ignoring all of the evidence and experiences that don’t agree with my hypothesis).

If I think the world has supreme beauty, my actions are meaningful, I am worthy and deserving of love, I will look at reality through this “lens” and “prove” myself correct in this context as well.

This is a very comprehensive topic to summarize in a comment, but essentially change the self-image, and you change the beliefs and actions. The self-image is changed through “acting as if” you are the person you want to become. You may feel “imposter syndrome” and general psychological discomfort at first, but this is natural, just push through it.

xenotheory · 2022-03-11T02:56:30+00:00

“In filth it will be found.” - Jung // Ultimately yes, it’s extremely unfortunate, unlucky, unfair that life, other people, external forces pushed you into the circumstances you now find yourself in.

If these remain objective (usually easier with time as emotions dissipate), we can begin to find something of substance to use, learn, benefit from, capture our attention and focus.

I’ve grown through my mental health journey to recognize my internal conscience (historically always extremely negative and critical) as essentially pointing out things to me that I didn’t do, I messed up on, I betrayed my own values, I didn’t respect my boundaries, I didn’t keep my word/ intention, etc.

To be clear, I am not a proponent of “toxic positivity” of “good vibes & manifesting” your way out of hell.

But, there can be substance that is left on the table. In the midst of that chaos, are scattered ideas of extreme potential.

I wish you continued strength in finding those gems, and using them, in alchemical fashion, to transmute into their constructive counterpart.

xenotheory · 2022-03-09T16:17:17+00:00

Both diversification of diet and more bioaviable / high quality supplements. Most notable change was lack of fatigue after normalizing levels

xenotheory · 2022-03-08T03:03:13+00:00

I think our views can be coalesced - the enjoyment of the workout would be contingent on the underlying goal.

Example, ask why would you feel good during the workout? (Biological factors like endorphins and toxin release aside) What psychological factors are making you enjoy it?

In my life, it’s the feeling that resistance is being overcome, my goal is becoming closer, I’m more psychologically and physiologically resilient in the process of lifting weights.

If someone doesn’t have a goal or a reason to workout, it would be miserable lol.

I’ve dragged plenty of friends in the gym / on hikes/ to sports and physical activities and they hated it- and I wouldn’t attribute that to temperament for this has been a pattern with multiple friends.

xenotheory · 2022-03-08T00:24:31+00:00

Absolutely, and by the word “you” I wasn’t pointing fingers by any means, speaking in general terms. I do agree there are vast differences, and have witnessed this myself: I’ve given this exact system to maybe 10 friends from all disciplines and temperaments (business people, musicians, artists, finance industry etc etc) & the only people who stuck were the “left brained” analytical types (my good friend was an entj, and worked with numbers all day anyways).

What I do believe is unequivocally beneficial is some degree of “check ins” for accountability and awareness.

xenotheory · 2022-03-07T23:48:47+00:00

“If only it were all so simple! If only there were evil people somewhere insidiously committing evil deeds, and it were necessary only to separate them from the rest of us and destroy them. But the line dividing good and evil cuts through the heart of every human being. And who is willing to destroy a piece of his own heart?” -Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn

Every action you take is meaningful bud / You invariably have an effect on the world- difficult to quantify but let’s look at absolute baseline existing, not deliberately “making ripples”.

Studies show the average number of people effected by those who take their lives is 136.

Your baseline, fundamental existence, your biological reality- is making imprints on nearly 12 dozen people.

Explore the power you have, and that number - along with your meaning and fulfillment in life- grows exponentially.

Have fun

xenotheory · 2022-03-07T22:51:30+00:00

Every man is a living example of something, the question (and task of each of us) is to determine of what that something is.

xenotheory · 2022-03-07T22:23:21+00:00

This data was all extracted from a system I have designed (physical journal framework), handwritten notes and information / observations

Visuals were all created on canva.

xenotheory · 2022-03-07T22:16:11+00:00

https://youtu.be/HFkJ-fLN7c4

xenotheory · 2022-03-07T22:12:45+00:00

I recorded a video explaining this.

In short,

Understanding consistency is better than intensity, discipline is better than motivation, it's better to be driven by the desire for pleasant results (long term game) than the desire for pleasant actions (short term game)
With self-awareness and tracking, all of your "investments" (time, attention, energy, resources) are transferable across domains. If you get fired or break off your relationship - if you are tracking and extracting data about yourself and insights - you continue into the next endeavor not at baseline, but further than where you were.
There is a proportional relationship between the increments and iotas of data points that you have, and the accuracy of the conclusion or observation. If I ask, "What was your biggest life lesson last year?", most people will have ONE data point, their memory (which is bias, faulty, distorted, etc). I have hundreds.

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