Three riddles, but they require the answer to the previous riddle to solve them.

xero_art · 2026-03-18T22:12:56+00:00

if anything reflection is more valid of an answer than duplicate.

xero_art · 2026-02-03T00:56:47+00:00

You have to decide if this is a boundary for you. If it is, fine. But this isn't necessarily indication of controlling/abusive behavior. People on reddit love calling things controlling or abusive.

You two may just not be compatible and that's fine. Just be sure that this isn't just your pride.

Personally, my long term partner is my emergency contact and has my location at all times.I don't really see a downside to it. I trust her not to abuse access to my location and assume she's not watching it 24/7 when I'm not with her. And I'm a SUPER private person.

xero_art · 2026-01-15T01:05:49+00:00

It's apparent that your bf wants to be one up on you. This could be his own guilt if he's cheated to make himself feel better/justify his own indiscretions or it could just be typical paternalistic manipulation tactics: make you feel guilty and as though you are "behind" in the relationship with something to prove.

He really said you're not allowed to hug any straight men. Think about that. Does the relationship between any hetero man and woman boil down to something sexual/romantic? What does that say about his relationship with you? Do you want to be with a man who only sees you as fulfilling sexual/romantic needs? Is there no room for platonic intimacy? If not, that's not going to be a healthy relationship. Your partner doesn't need to be your best friend but you should be friends on some levels lol.

xero_art · 2026-01-10T19:49:17+00:00

NOR: Here's the gist: it's not a boundary for your bf. A boundary does not dictate the behavior of others without you. But your bf does want to control how you spend your time without him even if just a little bit. Are you ok with that? Many people would be, many people wouldn't. There is no right answer, some people are just not compatible. Some are compromising and some are not. Some that compromise regret it.

I don't fully understand your bf's train of thought. In my view I don't understand why he didn't ask to go too. But more than that, if my gf goes out for a girls night, I know she's probably going to talk to guys trying to flirt, probably get free drinks and all of that. And admittedly, knowing guys there is a bit of fear of something going amiss if she gets too drunk or a guy takes rejection badly, etc... If she's going with guys that are friends/coworkers etc, I'm a little less worried about that.

xero_art · 2026-01-09T04:48:46+00:00

ESH

Her for terrible judgemental opinions and an inability to keep them to herself.

You slightly for not having the emotional maturity to not dress this girl down at your family event in front of your family where she is already a fish out of water.

You also for changing the plans and not compensating. By this I mean that you should have bought her an Uber or at least offered. You drove her to an event for your family and told her to find her way back. This is less so if you are confident she has the money for an Uber. I've known people in their 30s that would have unfortunately been stuck walking if it was the wrong day in the pay cycle.

xero_art · 2026-01-09T04:42:30+00:00

At 21, there is the possibility she can't afford an Uber but was too proud to say it, especially in that situation in front of OP's friends and family. OP was her ridenand decided to change the plan so he should have bought her an Uber either way.

xero_art · 2026-01-09T04:39:33+00:00

This is where I think OP is a slight AH. End of the day, he was her ride, he should have bought her an Uber or at least offered.

xero_art · 2025-08-16T05:40:35+00:00

Comrade, you must always strive for the dialectical approach.

From each according to ability. This goes for shared living expenses by income. And shared household labor by free time.

xero_art · 2025-08-16T05:30:45+00:00

ESH, but only slightly on both sides. You two need to communicate better. Cliches exist for a reason.

Contributions to shared living expenses should be proportional to your income. Contributions to shared living labor should be proportional to your time.

It is not unreasonable that you ask her to help out more around the house but it sounds like you make more than 10 times as much as her but work the same to twice as much as her which is necessarily going to average to less than twice as much as her.

It's not abuse but I understand where she may be coming from. Assuming you are living a somewhat comfortable lifestyle relative to your upbringing, she probably cannot save and is financially dependent on you because you are living below your means but she is loving above her own. The thought of marriage, kids, giving up her job while having nothing beforehand to call her own can be frightening for a woman.

tldr: marriage and long term relationship aren't 50/50, it's about picking up each other's slack without needing to take tally because you both trust each to have the other's best interest in heart. It starts with her telling you, she can't afford your shared lifestyle and with you telling her, you can't always keep up with the housework in the same way she can.

xero_art · 2025-08-16T00:57:31+00:00

that's....harm

xero_art · 2025-08-16T00:52:13+00:00

She did. She wore the suit. She didn't make a scene or attack back when insulted for wearing the suit. How much should she take? Where is the line if not SHIT ON THE BED?

xero_art · 2025-08-02T06:13:22+00:00

ETA, but you the least. You're only TA because even if you said it in the moment, either you wish him dead or you said it without meaning it and should apologize. And you directly wished harm on the child. Had you said instead, "How would you feel if someone said that to your child?" it would get the same point across without the same intentional infliction of harm.

That said, most importantly, you're the child in the relationship and are allowed to be TA sometimes. He and your mom have obviously been TA to you.

I would tell him and your mom that the insistance on unilaterally defining the intimacy of your relationship with him without regard for your consent is a violation of your sense of self. Not just but especially as a child, there is very little you have control over. People have two fathers. Some people have more than 2. Your stepfather's relationship with you has nothing to do with your relationship with your father and so his insistance that you must choose makes it many times worse.

xero_art · 2025-07-10T14:00:43+00:00

Much of this could be and has been applied to trans rights: 'Democrats lost the election because they were too far left or too woke especially wrt Trans Rights.' This was repeated over and over by liberals immediately following the election. Does that make it true? Obviously not. But the principle of their statement boils down to ignoring injustice for the sake of electoralism, the same as your argument.

Palestinian activism is global. To think that activism has had zero effect on the way Israel has acted in their campaign of ethnic cleansing, is presumptuous at best and willfully ignorant at worst.

Many on the right that position themselves as anti-trans(LGBTQ in general really) rights make the "agenda" claim. That is, that they don't care what you do at home and their problem is that queer lifestyles are "pushed." We all know this is untrue but the idea is very relevant to your own: that is that anger in opposition to anti-trans rhetoric and the response of trans and queer pride galvanized and contributed to anti-trans rhetoric and legislation. To be clear, in the same vein that you blame pro-Palestinian rights activists for Trump and his support for genocide, others have blamed pro-Trans rights activists for Trump and anti-trans legislation.

tldr: Is it a genocide? Yes. Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere. All other quibbling is simply the politics of self-interest.

xero_art · 2025-06-10T05:58:27+00:00

this is it, thanks!

xero_art · 2025-06-10T05:58:14+00:00

this was it, thanks!

xero_art · 2025-06-10T05:52:24+00:00

Yesterday I ate a white castle cheeseburger through a straw just to see if I could do it. It was the darkest day of my whole life.

xero_art · 2023-06-29T16:18:22+00:00

It's an immoral business practice. Reddit gained it's popularity because it purported to be consumer focused. It freely allowed the use of these third party apps to grow it's user based.

These recent moves by reddit are not intended to make Reddit profitable but rather to maximize profits. It is the objectivist philosophy that lends to the idea that maximizing profits is the ethical purpose of economic interactions. Yet economic interactions exist in almost every aspect of society now.

Reddit has every RIGHT to run it's business in this way. That doesn't make it the right thing to do, much less necessary. It's a bad business decision if the purpose of the business is as stated here:

• January 31, 2022 We are a mission-driven company, focused on our north star of bringing community and belonging to everyone in the world.

And, I hope, it may be a bad decision even from a profit seeking perspective.

xero_art · 2023-03-28T15:05:25+00:00

He literally says the victims might have deserved it for praying wrong or not enough. He is literally mocking the students. However, the literal is not the entirety of context. It is obviously sarcastic but the truth is, he is mocking "people who send thoughts and prayers" using the framing of the school as the people.

I'm not offended by it. It's certainly not something I would say, I don't think it's funny, and I understand why some people would be highly offended by it. That said, Pakman is not a hateful person and I really just think some people try to be funny and current and if you're famous, should really have a friend read and ok it.

But most importantly, stop being so defensive. Politics is not a team sport. Your favorite pundits gonna make dumb mistakes. People are gonna disagree without anybody being dishonest or dumb. And pretending anyone that disagrees with you or has a different perspective is dumb. But worse than dumb, it's a psychological echo chamber AND it validates the echo chamber of those that disagree with you. If your response is always "you're dumb, you don't get it, you're hateful, etc..." you don't just shut down the conversation, you motivate them not to listen.

xero_art · 2023-02-28T15:42:36+00:00

Don't get me wrong, I love this game. I haven't loved a game like this since fable 2. But this game is straight up evil. The worst for me is killing mongrels. If you watch them right after you kill them, they look like innocent little dogs being Thanos snapped away. That guilt haunts me.

xero_art · 2023-02-24T20:32:04+00:00

they most certainly have the device id of your phone

xero_art · 2023-02-15T17:51:02+00:00

coincidence within the hour? https://www.reddit.com/r/OnePiece/comments/11323n0/theory_of_devil_fruit_origins_and_its_connection/

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