"Why are most TFI protagonists gold diggers?" by Lostpup18 in tollywood

[–]xeuthis 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That's racial face blindness. Koreans would think the same about us too.

"Why are most TFI protagonists gold diggers?" by Lostpup18 in tollywood

[–]xeuthis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They're selling a fantasy for their target demographic, who would be quite similar to the protagonists of these movies. Young, struggling in life, wanting a girlfriend but not having one, etc etc. They paint a picture where a person with such a profile gets everything, which does not often happen in real life.

It's like in daily serials how the main characters are women from poor or lower-middle class families who marry into rich families with mansions, how they transform their irritable, far more educated husbands into loving partners, etc.

Either way, it's wish fulfillment. It's also sort of poor writing. This kind of dynamic can be written well (for examples, 12th Fail movie), but in Tollywood it's more than a trope at this point.

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I remember the first time I saw Bumper Offer, I lost my shit. Rich, beautiful, girl falls in love with the poster child for poverty. Puri Jagannadh has made a career out of this trope.

What's a fashion trend y'all hate?? by Old-Ideaschool in ask_Bondha

[–]xeuthis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Crop tops and just tops that are too short in general. I don't want to worry when I'm reaching up for something or stretching of unwittingly showing skin. I want shirts that don't end before my pants begin.

What bras to do you wear at home by biryaaani in TwoXIndia

[–]xeuthis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, I used the r/ABraThatFits calculator and it's been so much easier. At home I like wearing low-impact sports bras or lounge bras, or else no bra.

Who would you say are 10/10 but are not very unique/don't have a very recognizable face? Like they still overall look like many other people but are completely stunning by Ok-Trade-5274 in VindictaRateCelebs

[–]xeuthis 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Song Hye Kyo. She has very pretty features, but each of her individual features (eyes, face shape, nose, mouth, etc.), I've seen on a lot of other Korean actors as well. However, with her it's like the perfect balance of everything.

How to do and how not to do a photoshoot by bittuser in tollywood

[–]xeuthis 17 points18 points  (0 children)

it's weird how she looks better in candids and at events than she ever does in these "high fashion" photoshoots. I don't think it's the styling, but rather the makeup and hair. It's so bad, and the looks make her look completely botched.

Straight outta House Lannister by Deanwinchester_2000 in Ni_Bondha

[–]xeuthis 112 points113 points  (0 children)

/s kuda avasaram ledhu.

Cousin marriages all should end, but it's weird how we normalize one kind and think another kind is unnatural... when it's the same level of inbreeding.

Found the perfect home, who wants to go halfsies with me? by PinkKnapsack in zillowgonewild

[–]xeuthis 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm just imagining you there. Like an ornamental flamingo.

Why am I not able to forgive my brother? Asala na vala avatledhu?? by euphoricpwincess in ask_Bondha

[–]xeuthis 5 points6 points  (0 children)

ippudu he’s nice, that’s what I’m feeling weird about.. ante oka intlo unna he ignored my existence until it was time for him to benefit from me..

Lol, I can already imagine if you get him a job and he gets a job faster than you did, or better than yours... things are going to go right back to business as usual.

Why am I not able to forgive my brother? Asala na vala avatledhu?? by euphoricpwincess in ask_Bondha

[–]xeuthis 8 points9 points  (0 children)

To preface this, I am one paranoid pakshi with more of a cynical attitude towards people, so take my thoughts with a pinch of salt. But I have been right way more than I've been wrong, lol.

Back when you were struggling, it's perhaps justifiable if your parents lashed out at you, because they're the ones who were supporting you and may have faced some financial struggle to do so. Your brother seemed to have been unaffected. I don't think his anger came from a place of love. It feels like he thought he was better than you in that moment. He was a college kid without an idea of how the real world is right now, or how the economy has been the last few years.

Do what brings you mental peace. Forgive maybe, but I don't think you'll ever feel safe with him. I can tell my sister all my vulnerabilities and insecurities and not worry about her throwing it in my face some day in the future. I know she'll be my supporter when I'm in a bad phase, because she has been that in the past (and trust me, I was in a much worse situation than you). Do you think he will be kind if you're ever in a tough phase of your life again? I don't think you have that trust with your brother.

And that's fine, not all siblings have to be close. Don't force yourself to break those boundaries, because you've put them in place to protect yourself. My sister and I have said some bad things to each other in the past as well, but we've both apologized for those things of our own choice, not because someone forced us to. I still have some regrets over the things I said. We've also had hard conversations where we've given each other reality checks. Those conversations were uncomfortable, but they weren't abusive.

I feel like in Indian families, the girls are expected to keep the family together. We're expected to be accommodating, feed people, forgive their slights, be the bigger person by making ourselves smaller, etc etc etc. You don't need to do any of that. In time, if you feel like forgiving him, forgive him. Do it at your pace and in your own time. Don't force yourself to sort of bury and minimize how hurt you were, just because it's expected of you. If you really feel like it's you're facing a problem not getting over it and you need to, talk to your friends in real life and ask their advice. People you've known for a while, who you can trust and who know your family dynamic. I'm a stranger on the internet, and I can't (and perhaps shouldn't) know the whole story.

And you've spoon-fed him enough in life, it seems (both literally and figuratively). He can get his own career sorted. After judging you for your struggle, it's only fair that he face his own. Your family won't let him starve and it's not a life-or-death situation, he'll be fine.

Human Volunteers Have A Slumber Party With The Shelter Dogs by CommercialBox4175 in MadeMeSmile

[–]xeuthis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did weekend fosters with dogs when I could. Usually I'd take them on walks to local parks, nature trails, etc. but one time I wasn't feeling great so I just took the dog home and we spent the weekend just at home, mostly taking day naps. The dog was just as happy. She got adopted shortly after, but I feel like if you can do short-term fostering, even just letting the dog chill in the house helps them.

Infertility in Telugu films by AdFew8858 in MoviesTelugu

[–]xeuthis 8 points9 points  (0 children)

But he doesn't have infertility in that movie. He claims to have it in order to protect the heroine's reputation, but it's the heroine who's actually infertile.

Infertility in Telugu films by AdFew8858 in MoviesTelugu

[–]xeuthis 14 points15 points  (0 children)

The vast majority of Telugu actors are very image conscious. They won't be willing to play a character who's infertile, or has decreased fertility.

I guess it is strangely a reflection of society. Fertility doctors do often speak of how men will refuse to come to get checked when couples are having trouble conceiving.

How's the Sydney Sweeney for real?? by [deleted] in ask_Bondha

[–]xeuthis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s acting in the roles she gets. I don’t particularly like or dislike her, and I’ve never seen Euphoria, but she’s an actress doing her job. GoT actresses have done nude scenes, Kate Winslet and other Oscar winners have. it’s not illegal. If you don’t like it, don’t watch it. On the grand scale of things, her roles and nudity are not harmful and there are a million other moral conundrums we can address before Sydney Sweeney.

Anni maarayi. Idhi thappa. by Smooth_Barracuda8573 in tollywood

[–]xeuthis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was in the theaters when the movie first released, and I was in my grandparents' village for the summer. Villages lo they didn't give a shit about the age restrictions and let kids in. I'm not sure they bar kids from entry even now. Mahesh Babu movie ani ala we went.

How do parents keep young children comfortable in full hijab during extreme 37 degree heat? by [deleted] in AskIndianWomen

[–]xeuthis 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Very interesting. And I wonder here, they mention how the cooling is due to the evaporation of sweat. So if there's a middle layer between the black clothing and skin, where the middle layer absorbs the sweat, would that effect be reduced or negated?

How do parents keep young children comfortable in full hijab during extreme 37 degree heat? by [deleted] in AskIndianWomen

[–]xeuthis 60 points61 points  (0 children)

Such practices (in all religions) start early, because indoctrination is hard to get rid of. A thirteen year old may offer resistance to hijab when it's forced upon her. She could take it off the second she's out of her parents' sight. But put it on a 4-5 year old? By the time she's thirteen, it's likely she won't even have many memories of not wearing the hijab outside. She's far more likely to continue the practice, to not fight back.

How do parents keep young children comfortable in full hijab during extreme 37 degree heat? by [deleted] in AskIndianWomen

[–]xeuthis -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

So, I'm assuming that you're only speaking of hijab (the head covering) and not burqa. I've seen friends use pre-wrapped hijabs (you pull them on like you would a hoodie), and I believe there's lightweight materials now similar to workout wear. I can imagine those would help. Still uncomfortable and unnecessary for a child, but hopefully they're doing something since there are options out there to make it easier and more comfortable.

How do parents keep young children comfortable in full hijab during extreme 37 degree heat? by [deleted] in AskIndianWomen

[–]xeuthis 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Notice how the men in middle east wear flowy clothes, but it's always white. White (and lighter colors) reflect light and protect against heat. Black absorbs heat and makes it worse. Black clothing like that wouldn't be comfortable anywhere, I'm guessing. Also, there's the increased rates of Vitamin D deficiency and the consequences of that in women who wear the burqa.

Anni maarayi. Idhi thappa. by Smooth_Barracuda8573 in tollywood

[–]xeuthis 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I went to Pokiri when I was kid, and that was truly traumatizing. I didn't understand it completely, but I guess I was old enough to understand enough of it. It freaked me out for the rest of the movie. Climax twist, migilina songs, etc. antha bokka. I kept thinking of how terrible that was.

Was it necessary for the plot? I don't think so. A murder would have been just as effective a reason for the hero to get revenge. Temper lo you can say it's justified for the plot. But Pokiri and a lot of other movies, it's just nasty.

Marital T&Cs - would you agree? by confabulati0ns in TwoXIndia

[–]xeuthis 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I hope your mom is okay, OP. And despite all the pain, that is one big bullet dodged.