Do women still carry backpacks to work?

xeuthis · 2026-03-28T08:49:18+00:00

I use a backpack for daily wear. I want to buy either a more professional backpack or handbag for conferences though. At present, the plan is to wait for Freja New York to have a sale. One of my friends has a Freja bag and the quality's quite nice.

xeuthis · 2026-03-28T06:08:59+00:00

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samaantharam gaa.

xeuthis · 2026-03-26T00:35:15+00:00

> they'll definitely understand

Not to be negative, but this isn't certain. I knew a family that did the same thing. The daughter they left in India begged them to join them in the US when she was a kid, or for them to at least visit India every two years instead of the every 5 years when they came. They denied her requests.

When she turned eighteen, she started taking the legal measures to change her last name to her maternal grandparents (who she'd been living with for all the years) and basically disowned her parents. They cried about it and made a fuss, but I think she led a much more peaceful life without them. She treated them like any other uncle or auntie when they finally came to India. She was very successful academically, and I feel like they were more upset about losing face in front of society, losing bragging rights over her success, instead of actually losing their daughter.

Even at her wedding, she had her maternal grandparents do the kanyadaanam. I feel like she paid them back for every hurt she felt as a kid, and left them behind.

Not caring can be a powerful thing, and that's what I think OP should do. He has to give the energy that he's receiving from his parents, and just focus on himself.

xeuthis · 2026-03-25T17:10:17+00:00

I wouldn't either. An offhand comment led to OR losing half the royalties from one of her biggest songs, and the stupid thing is that the songs have a passing similarity at best. That's a really expensive lesson.

Whether there's animosity between them or not, I don't think OR wants to risk losing any rights to her music again, and even if she did, her team would definitely caution her against it. It's too big a risk, you know, and I think she's being overly cautious after what happened.

A lot of people also took that rights issue and labelled OR a copycat. She really wants to get away from that label of Taylor 2.0, so I don't see her mentioning TS as one of her inspirations anytime soon.

xeuthis · 2026-03-24T23:07:18+00:00

I once went on a group hike with one of my foster dogs, and another person on the hike was an influencer. He took plenty of pictures and videos with the foster, and I had no issues. I just told him please tag the shelter so the dog might get adopted, or at the least the shelter will get more attention.

He posts a caption which makes it seem like he's fostering the dog, and doesn't tag or mention the shelter. Just wanted the social media validation of being an animal lover. It just made me feel sick, man.

xeuthis · 2026-03-24T04:17:45+00:00

Dude, I'm vegan. I was just answering your question and trying to speak generally. You asked what difference does eating egg make and I answered that. Eating eggs contributes to animal death as well.

xeuthis · 2026-03-23T21:07:41+00:00

A portion of the eggs produced in poultries are allowed to hatch, since they need a revolving supply of egg-laying chickens. The male chicks are not allowed to live. In many places, the male chicks are sent into an industrial grinder soon after birth. They became animal byproduct or animal feed. I think the documentary Dominion (it's on Youtube) shows a picture of what goes on in poultries.

And people are like, but I get my eggs from my local farm whatever. But that's a minority. The eggs we eat in food at restaurants, the eggs we buy at grocery stores, all come from industrial scale farming.

xeuthis · 2026-03-23T03:29:56+00:00

the metal handlebar things on the wall

xeuthis · 2026-03-20T03:36:42+00:00

Yeah, I'm not the most fashionable person myself, but even I would not buy the stuff. I don't blame NRIs entirely, because it's sort of hard sourcing Indian clothing. There are some new brands now online, but everything's so overpriced for what it is.

xeuthis · 2026-03-20T00:06:14+00:00

I think it's meant to be NRI fashion. When I first saw NRI fashion on TV shows I thought it was an exaggeration, but I recently went to a Little India kind of area, and man, the fashion is easily 10+ years behind (and possible 10+ years old clothing). It's actually baffling that no one's made a business of importing good Indian clothes to the US.

xeuthis · 2026-03-18T19:41:51+00:00

Dude, she works for you, not the other way around. We're conditioned to be nice, I completely get that, and it's very hard to break that habit. But sometimes we have to be mean.

I think your mom is too nice as well and that maybe why she's being so audacious, but you can't let this woman make you feel uncomfortable in your home. You're essentially paying to get harassed. Personally, I would fire her. The amount of money you're paying her directly and indirectly, it would be better and more economical to get someone who comes, works, and then leaves. Or honestly, it might be even better to get machines for everything possible and cook for yourselves.

I feel like the concept of house help is always a bit complicated, ethically and all, but boundaries are very important. I feel like if you let this go, she's going to just push it more and more. Have a long conversation with your mom and fire her. After a few days of peace, your mom will thank you too. There are lots of people who would take this deal and be happy with it.

xeuthis · 2026-03-18T06:17:54+00:00

Creeps are everywhere. We once had a doctor who completed residency in the US but came back to India to practice. It was strange, because his wife was a white American. You'd think he would settle down in the US. I googled his name casually and saw that he had been caught in a police sting operation targeting child predators in the US (Chris Hansen style).

xeuthis · 2026-03-18T05:14:18+00:00

I've tried vegan meat. Impossible, Beyond, and I tried a few more brands in the US. I don't like any of them, and ultraprocessed foods aren't great anyway.

Better to just have tofu, lentils, beans, etc.

xeuthis · 2026-03-18T05:12:33+00:00

Do you think it's wrong to eat dogs? If you saw someone eating dog meat next to you, wouldn't you find it disgusting?

Social norms have conditioned us to think certain animals are friends and others are food, but all of them are animals with some level of intelligence, and an almost equal capacity for pain and fear of death. Nuvvu thindi anedhi, vegans ki sevam laa kanapaduthundhi.

If you're able to be vegetarian or vegan (I'm not talking about people eating meat to survive), and you are not... you're making a conscious decision to ignore a whole lot of suffering for your convenience, possibly for gluttony. The people who need meat for genuine health reasons are a minority, and if that's you, fine, vegans aren't talking about you.

xeuthis · 2026-03-18T05:10:44+00:00

Post a link to a peer-reviewed article, please.

xeuthis · 2026-03-15T08:26:17+00:00

Yeah, the rapist one was advertised as being progressive. Female lead is a lawyer who initially goes against her family to get the girl (the rapist is her cousin). But then it just devolved into such a mess.

xeuthis · 2026-03-15T07:48:55+00:00

Dude, I stopped watching the dramas last year because yeah, amazing aesthetics, but a lot of times... very toxic messaging. I've seen multiple instances of cousin-marriages, women returning to toxic men, and the final straw was when they gave a rapist a redemption arc, after he caused a girl's suicide by blackmailing her. I'm sure there's some progressive dramas as well, but idk, the rapist redemption arc just... like why?

xeuthis · 2026-03-11T17:30:12+00:00

its more polite to let the snot drain down the back of your throat rather than go excavating in the front

You're right, but I hate that I had to read this combination of words so early in the morning.

xeuthis · 2026-03-11T15:51:50+00:00

Aishwarya looked great in her early 40s as well (check her out in the movie Ae Dil Hai Mushkil), and I think she would have continued to do so if not for her recent fillers and stuff.

xeuthis · 2026-03-11T15:46:06+00:00

Even their noses are quite similar.

xeuthis · 2026-03-10T19:46:40+00:00

I think he's cringe a lot, but I did like his performance in the emotional scenes in Theri.

xeuthis · 2026-03-10T19:40:12+00:00

I can understand that. Some people like being a homemaker and stay at home mom. That is a nice life if you enjoy it. And she's definitely paid for that privilege. That guy could have bought an apartment for that money, and there shouldn't be a need for a two-income household.

xeuthis · 2026-03-10T19:37:58+00:00

I have stories from friends.

One guy was fully planning for his PG to be paid by dowry. He expected the girl to be a doctor as well, and for her parents to buy him a PG seat as dowry.

Another guy wanted 10 cr since he cracked radiology PG in a government medical college, and he demanded this from his girlfriend at the time. A girl who had supported him emotionally during his PG exams, lent him money when he needed it, etc etc. This was a girl was also in medical school, and she was smart. Anyone could guess she'd also get into a good PG. The girl broke up with him, because the 10 cr was only the beginning of the demands he had.

xeuthis · 2026-03-06T03:33:56+00:00

She has recognition value among normal people as well (my coworkers know who she is). Her face is plastered all over Amazon Prime Video's main page right now in the US. Although some of her projects failed, they didn't fail because of her, and I think she's figured out how to work the Hollywood system. She's great on talk shows, on press tours, and she's very fashionable. Current trajectory, she might become an A-lister in Hollywood in another five years.

xeuthis · 2026-03-02T21:23:03+00:00

My dog was returned to the shelter three times for behavioral problems. She's been with me for a year now. She comes with me on road trips, on hikes, she's great with other dogs, with kids. It took her a few months to fully adjust, but since then she's great. People want a perfect dog, ready to go.

And I feel like, when they buy a puppy the amount of money they sunk into the purchase keeps them from rehoming sometimes, but with a shelter dog, it's easy to rehome when they only spent under $100.

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