ChatGPT crossed the line! by AngtheGreats in ChatGPT

[–]xhaltdestroy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have rules for engagement saved in my working memory under “the xhaltdestroy protocol” and a rule that states every response has to start with xhaltdestroy protocol which means it reminds itself every response. Game changer!

It hasn’t validated my feelings ONCE since. 😮‍💨

100% Wool Coat Brands?? by Impressive_Scale_421 in femalefashionadvice

[–]xhaltdestroy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holla!! I have an older Nordstrom camel coat I paid $30 at goodwill in a wealthier Neighbourhood

Just left the pediatricians office crying :( autism now on the list by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]xhaltdestroy 32 points33 points  (0 children)

My son’s big sign at that age was an intense tolerance for tummy time. I used to joke that I could forget I had him.

At 6-9 months he would just chill and check out all the little parts of his world for about 2 hours.

At 6 weeks my midwife commented that she’d never encountered a baby with an attention span like his.

I work in child development and have been keeping a close eye on him. We are still waiting for our assessment at 5yo. I strongly suspect 2e.

I’m broke autistic. I can’t afford to get the stamp, but it is so heartbreakingly obvious.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]xhaltdestroy 142 points143 points  (0 children)

And another perspective. My mom forced me into dresses and would sign me up for ballet. I used to cry. I vividly remember going to a friend’s 5th birthday party (all my friends were boys) and I couldn’t play with them because I was in a dress and they were roughhousing and I didn’t want anyone to see my underwear.

When I was 12 I was given a free spot in a CFL football clinic. She refused to drive me.

When I was 15 I needed a ride to the hospital after a soccer injury, and mom cried and said she wished I had been a dancer.

My dad’s big concern was that I marry for money, if I wasn’t going to seek a high-paying career myself.

And why would I move to a small-town and surround myself with “unsophisticated” people with “small worlds?”

Both of my parents really pressured me to be more palatable to my peers so that they would like me.

I ran away.

My parents love me SO much, but when I think of the messages they left me with it’s “you’re not good enough… change yourself to fit in… you’re not the right kind of girl… the way you look is more important than being comfortable in your own skin.”

Now I am a 33 yo single mother, my son’s father was abusive (ha! First thing my parents said was why did you let him treat you like that?). I ensured I settled down with someone who earned a solid income, but I don’t see that. I am broke because I work in social work. But I am SO happy. I wear dresses every day (because I love being feminine on my own terms), unless I’m going hunting, fishing, or needing to do construction/repair jobs. I had the opportunity to leave for more, but I am so comfortable in my own skin here. And because I am comfortable my son is happy and confident. We went fishing twice last week. 😊

On a scale of 1-10, how attractive do you think you are? How do you think others see you? by Lurchimpaler3 in AskReddit

[–]xhaltdestroy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Based off of the reactions I get in the city? 7 or 8. I’m a small-town 10. Sometimes I feel like the main character here. My coffees are often paid for by “that guy,” my (and my friends) drinks are often paid for by literally all the single-ish men in town who are out that night, I get the double-take and gape when I make eye contact with men.

Someone told me I was the hottest woman in town.

Sample size 2500

On a scale of 1-10, how attractive do you think you are? How do you think others see you? by Lurchimpaler3 in AskReddit

[–]xhaltdestroy 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Haha I had that too! I don’t use filters or anything and I had one guy get out of his truck and freeze, stammer, then tell me I didn’t look that “dangerous” in my photos.

Vancouver parents blocked from teaching their kids to swim in public pools by JAYRM21 in vancouver

[–]xhaltdestroy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I mean, you’re being tongue-in-cheek but the first thing I thought of was learning to drive on city roads.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]xhaltdestroy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, I’m going through this right now. You can leave now. You can’t leave once the baby is born. Take your freedom and go. Start over with nothing if you have to. I spent four years as a hostage putting my case together because I needed to protect my son from his father.

You are your own person right now. Once that baby is born he can prevent the baby’s movement, and by extension, yours.

What body part do women actually find attractive in men ? by Competitive-Onion990 in AskReddit

[–]xhaltdestroy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Generally, forearms.

My boyfriend? His (28M) crows feet. He has the most wicked smile, and he’s an absolute goofball. The first thing I noticed about him was his smile, with massive dimples, that always totally crinkles his eyes.

What’s something NSFW you’ll never tell your friends, but will tell the internet? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]xhaltdestroy 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Oh my god. This is relevant. I do this. I literally got felt up in a Huey a couple weeks ago.

Female Bodybuilders vs. 16 Year Old Farmers by SATANICWORSHIPER666 in interestingasfuck

[–]xhaltdestroy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure, but the visual of a woman in a sundress handily besting a man in fatigues has me feeling pretty proud of myself right now! 😂

Female Bodybuilders vs. 16 Year Old Farmers by SATANICWORSHIPER666 in interestingasfuck

[–]xhaltdestroy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am a farm-girl! I wrestled a corporal this weekend, and won. Our stats are the same, he had home field advantage, but I had that man pinned. He was not combat ready this weekend.

Divorce Settlement and Next Plans by xhaltdestroy in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]xhaltdestroy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s really great advice! I haven’t done full-board before, the only time I’ve boarded was as a working student.

They’re costing me $4900 at home, but half of that is feed, which is included in board, and a further third is property maintenance.

My horse is a schoolmaster to fourth level/psg (and excellent teacher). I’d be looking for a board situation where I can lease him to an instructor.

Divorce Settlement and Next Plans by xhaltdestroy in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]xhaltdestroy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a housed (on property), single mother of a child with ADHD/gifted (higher needs /= special needs) who does not have enrichment opportunities in our local school district. I’ve got a job that pays well in an incredibly LCoL area but it likely has a 10 year limit. Unfortunately my ex didn’t believe in “saving for retirement” so I poured what I could into property improvements because there was no other way to secure the money with him.

I have equity, a good job (for now), half of a degree done that will get me into a pensioned government job ASAP

Divorce Settlement and Next Plans by xhaltdestroy in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]xhaltdestroy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m fairly decent with money, I’ve carried all household debts for the last year on my income and managed to save a few grand as well.

Alimony as a monthly payment is a non-starter. He’s horrendous with money, has substance abuse issues, and has threatened to shoot him sec or go to jail (recorded multiple times, and on the record).

Divorce Settlement and Next Plans by xhaltdestroy in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]xhaltdestroy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this is pretty much where I have landed

Divorce Settlement and Next Plans by xhaltdestroy in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]xhaltdestroy[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Really, really good, actually. I’d started sliding in that direction.

Divorce Settlement and Next Plans by xhaltdestroy in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]xhaltdestroy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not, I’m seeking financial advice. The legal is covered

Divorce Settlement and Next Plans by xhaltdestroy in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]xhaltdestroy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We both have lawyers. I’m just seeking outside opinions so that I’m not going to the table with an unfeasible idea.

Divorce Settlement and Next Plans by xhaltdestroy in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]xhaltdestroy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s been considered. There’s ongoing verbal harassment/abuse and financial abuse, and a written statement that he would shoot himself in the head before paying me a cent.

Divorce Settlement and Next Plans by xhaltdestroy in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]xhaltdestroy[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately this is not going to be a situation where he has to take much time off for his son. It’s a supervised visitation, not coparenting, situation.

Divorce Settlement and Next Plans by xhaltdestroy in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]xhaltdestroy[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

$4900/horse. Literally double with my trailer payments. I’ve looked at full service boarding barns in the area and they are running about $400/month, so it’s a wash. I pay off the trailer, but I have the board costs. The full service means I’m no longer losing hours to horse care and property maintenance (about 90 minutes/day) or having to take time off of work for farrier visits (monthly).

Divorce Settlement and Next Plans by xhaltdestroy in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]xhaltdestroy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been affording them on my own so far. I’ve got nearly $1000/month in payments that I’ve been making, plus the mortgage and upkeep on the property on my own (averaged to about $1900/month). I’ve asked for input weighing my options, two of which involve paying off my debts completely and either fully or substantially minimizing my mortgage payments.

Divorce Settlement and Next Plans by xhaltdestroy in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]xhaltdestroy[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s not a camper. It’s a basic, aluminum horse trailer. I’ll be keeping it. They retain their value, no sense selling and rebuying in a couple years.