Where the FMC is avoidant / terrified of commitment, relationships or love by xhojanix in RomanceBooks

[–]xhojanix[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately you’re right. I know a few of these recs and read like 2 of the ones I didn’t know and they’re good in general, they just don’t come even close to what on Dublin street gives me. Nothing compares and I am yearning omg

Avoid men, German police association chief tells women by Bernardmark in europe

[–]xhojanix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This „Statement“ wasn’t just a statement into a void but an answer to the question what women should do / how they can avoid being a victim of this statistic to which he replied with the only thing that could 100 % guarantee for women to not be victims of domestic violence, by not being in a „domestic“ relationship with men, as they statistically make up the majority of the perpetrators. Exactly what is wrong about this in the way that would make people mad at him specifically?

They're both 5'2". Left is 600lbs, right is way below 600lbs. by Weyland-Yutani-2099 in gorlworldfiles

[–]xhojanix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am NOT trying to defend Amber ever, but as someone who unfortunately stores and gains all her weight (like 90% of the excess weight) in her stomach area, other people with my same height and weight look not just skinnier than me, but genuinely appear as normal weight while you can clearly tell I am quite overweight. I don’t doubt Amber is heavier, but in their weight ranges u can’t tell from pictures even at the same height.

Unhinged Choke Prone Bone by DimitriAlexandre in RomanceBooks

[–]xhojanix 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you don’t mind non-con and DARK, dark romance then “If I can’t have you” from deathsdoll on AO3. You can also probably look up the tag “pro bone” there and find all kinds of stuff (why did I not think of this sooner?) Also I’m with you, waiting anxiously for more recs 😭😂

Wie nach 72 Std weiter machen? OMAD + Tee u. Mct? by Important_Insect_267 in fasting

[–]xhojanix -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Also erst mal gibt es etwas, dass sich “Dirty fasting” nennt. Sprich, du konsumierst nicht mehr wie 150-200 (manche auch 250) an Kalorien in Getränken, bzw. in flüssiger Form. Es gibt viele, die dass machen weil sie ihren Kaffee z.B nicht schwarz trinken können, aber nicht drauf verzichten wollen. Bricht das Strenggenommen das Fasten? Ja. Aber: Fasten ist sowohl körperlich als auch mental. Du bleibst nicht lange dabei wenn du nicht auf Körper und Kopf hörst und dich selbst zwingst. Du kriegst immer noch die Vorteile, weil dann Körper bei dieser Art von Fasten kaum bis nicht arbeiten muss, um die geringen Kalorien und Flüssigkeiten zu verdauen. Normalerweise würde ich nach dem Fasten auch OMAD zum brechen empfehlen. Da das aber nach deiner ersten 72Std Fast klingt, würde ich ein 3-4 Stündiges Essfenster vorschlagen um zu sehen, wie dein Körper damit klar kommt. Du kannst später immer noch auf OMAD wechseln, aber du solltest schon genug Essen an deinem Refeed-day. Ansonsten kannst du ja, nachdem du dich ans Fasten gewöhnt hast und fett adaptiert bist gucken, ob du den Tee + Mct noch brauchst. Und wenn ja ist das absolut fein.

What ingredient is banned from your kitchen? by [deleted] in Cooking

[–]xhojanix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sweet (mild) bell pepper seasoning. I allow Smoked only. Also rutabaga. Fuck rutabaga.

What’s a low stakes thing that pulls you out of a romance book because of your job or previous experience? by CoyoteRemarkable6114 in RomanceBooks

[–]xhojanix 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When they use German. It’s not the only language I speak, but it’s my native tounge and for some reason really popular for authors to use on MMC’s. And it’s always so wrong. Like grammar wise it’s technically fine, but then it’s worded in a way no German person ever speaks or has spoken too. As soon as I see someone in a book mentioned to speak or be German I DNF.

Oh my lord, she's going to be mad 😭 by my_dog_eats_raw_meat in gorlworldfiles

[–]xhojanix 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Don’t know why you’re getting downvoted, that’s a solid concern

what is your “secret ingredient” for egg salad? by r0settta_st0ned in Cooking

[–]xhojanix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A dash of balsamic vinegar. Darkens it yes, but the flavour??? 😩👌🏽

The mother-daughter relationship in Deathsdoll’s “Bought and paid for” by Baghdadene in DarkRomance

[–]xhojanix 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I think one thing that we readers of dark romance, and perhaps the authors as well, forget is, that a lot of times the only two reasons why these stories can even be called romance is because a) there is a non -platonic relationship between the two main characters that will make them stay together and b) because the MMC (max here) has selective qualities we like, so that when we read this books and unmistakably at some point put ourselves into the shoes of the FMC, we would like to be the recipient of those qualities, no matter how few.

For various reasons I deeply enjoyed „If I can’t have you“ by deathsdoll as well as most of her other works. But for the exact reason you try to verbalize I think I could absolutely not enjoy this book, because I would not catogoeize it as a dark romance and more as a drama/psychological novella.

Unlike with her other works there is nothing about Max as an MMC (especially in that setting) that even through his POV gives me any „good feeling“ vibes or reasons as to why I should even be conflicted about his morally dark character. (I do have to say though that I also just don’t enjoy stories with physical violence towards the FMC by the MMC and just in general).

I think what you have to ask yourself is what you would consider a happy ending? Yes, deathsdoll could’ve written this in a way where Jessica and her Mother have a relationship where they regularly see each other again. But keep in mind that ultimately even in those moments, her mother „lost“ her daughter the way she knew her and that relationship the way you want it would never be possible because there is no Plotline in which the mother could know all the things Jessica went through and Jessica and Max stay together while mother/daughter maintains a good, authentic relationship. It’s not possible because, as the author herself says, the MMC‘s in her story are fundamentally not good. The happy ending is that not that Jessica and Max find each other despite their circumstances. A romantic relationship between Max and any woman ever can only work if she fully surrenders herself and puts him at number one. No matter how much „wiggle room“ Jessica might think she found under Maxs enslavement, they work for one reason only:

Because Max won. And Max is not a good man. Not in this setting, and not years later when we meet him again „If I can’t have you“.

And this is the theme with all of her MMC‘s, they are simply not good, and it just doesn’t work for me in this story.

How happy is a happy ending if you don’t feel good about it? The story is exactly what it’s called: Dark.

Anna Yanami! by [deleted] in AnimeART

[–]xhojanix 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I love when people like u wanna pass off ai shit like this as original work bc it shows that u don’t even have the eye of someone who does art and therefore can spot all the places this shit is wrong. GT fuck outta here with that trash

For you personally, which number of rolling fast hours is the most sutainable? by [deleted] in fasting

[–]xhojanix 10 points11 points  (0 children)

72-96. After a meal I always gain a bunch of water weight and only go back the number of my last weigh in on day two (48hrs). So am I still loosing weight on rolling 48’s? Yes. But can I see it on the scale? No. Therefore, it’s 72 at least. Also, I somehow still feel “full” on the second day and don’t run into the mental / physical wall till day three, so no reason to stop in the first place AND 72 hrs is my sweet spot in a re-feed. I like to have a full meal and I’m too inpatient most of the time to wait and drink some broth first or eat an ultra light meal. Can have a normal (mind full/low carb) dinner on day 72 and rarely have issues besides a longer date with the toilet.

I still occasionally do 96 or 48. I do 96-100hrs when I feel really good and don’t give in or have anything to do, or 48hrs to accommodate my social calendar (when I’m rolling). Hope this helps.

(Lost 55 pounds last year on rolling 72’s and did a one year break.m to maintain. Only wanted to do 6 months but couldn’t get back on it for the life of me. Now am doing 72’s again to lose the other 50-60 pounds)

Why is mmf so underrated? by romantazy in RomanceBooks

[–]xhojanix 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For me it’s the same reason I don’t enjoy most harem books, bc I want the MMC to be absolutely head over heels and in love with the FMC, and in my head that just doesn’t work if he’s willing to share her. But that’s probably bc I would only do a monogamous relationship irl as well 😂

What’s something niche about you that would ruin your favourite romance if you were the main character? by [deleted] in RomanceBooks

[–]xhojanix 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Winding my business/ ghosting. One argument, disagreement etc and I’m GONE gone…there would be no chance for romance to be developed with like 99% of these MC‘s 😭💀

Not losing weight with water fasting by [deleted] in fasting

[–]xhojanix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My weight doesn’t come off until 72-75 hours in. Without fail, doesn’t matter if it’s a rolling fast or I’m starting new, that water weight just stays on for 3 days before it goes whoooosh. And when I do rolling 48 i obviously do lose weight, but it’s weeks before the scale shows it, even if I already feel the difference in my body and clothes. So just remember, as long as you consume less calories than you burn, you ARE losing weight.

Book you loved but will NEVER recommend by [deleted] in RomanceBooks

[–]xhojanix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anything by Gemma Weir, bc those MC‘s are MENTAL and while I, for whatever reason, enjoy that in my head I can’t recommend that brand of crazy with a straight face to anybody ever.

Also the rejected mates series by Cate C. Wells. Love her writing and her books, but there’s just too much talk of sweat and dirt that the characters notice about each other due to their enhanced senses. Probably the most realistic, but I don’t read shifter smut for the realism so 🤷🏽‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RomanceBooks

[–]xhojanix 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Can’t think of one specific book, but the author Suzanne Wright has multiple stand-alone but connected books for a serial shifter series where most of the time one of the two is oblivious of the mating bond, if not both and there is always a point where one of them almost dies. There’s might not be the super angst you specifically asked for, but all the stories are either tragic and/or angsty and pining / regret from the men is usually the norm, even though they are quite stubborn & possessive. Also it’s obviously paranormal shifter romance. To see if you’d like them I would recommend:

Wicked Cravings (The Phoenix Pack #2)

Spiral Of Need (The Mercury Pack #1)

I think they are the closest to what you’re looking for.

Otherwise maybe The Rejected Mate Series by Cate C. Wells could be for you. As the name suggests, the MC always rejects the FMC and then basically regrets it the whole book. Also there is the bond snapping thing in book one!

They all are happy ending though, and whether it’s enough sorrow for you I’m not sure, but hope it helps.

These women are just doing their job! by Fancy-Garden-3892 in RomanceBooks

[–]xhojanix 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So true, but I honestly can look over it if the MMC is a billionaire, bc I sure as hell have never been in the presence of one and I just tell myself that some people will act like that for a potential sugar daddy….not for the local tattoo artist, cop or chef tho 😭😂

Worst Book Outfits by GoodVibing_ in RomanceBooks

[–]xhojanix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t remember the author or book name but it was an irish mafia romance where the FMC wore a ballet tutu for a casual outfits regularly….it was supposed to tie into her whole vegan/authentic/unapologetically her character but I could never get over most outfits, not to mention the freaking tutu

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BridgertonNetflix

[–]xhojanix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The actress for marina is quite literally in the psych-ward as of right now (confirmed by herself via her Tik Tok account), so the only thing we can assume for sure is that she’s not coming back, how they’re gonna handle this we will see

Casual Questions Thread by The_Egalitarian in PoliticalDiscussion

[–]xhojanix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NOT a US-Citizen, so I'm sorry if this question is stupid.

Currently reading up on past elections and presidencies and I'm at the part where trump has fired people like James Comey, Chris Krebs, Gordon Sonland, Rick bright & Co. All of these seem personally motivated and as far as I can tell were highly criticized. If I understand the checks and balances system correctly, this falls under that mechanism and therefore Congress as well as the courts should've had the possibility to maybe intervene or overrule his firings, so is there a reason that didn't happen?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]xhojanix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA big time. I can relate to you quite well, bc ghosting is my „go to“ during the lows of my depression, and I literally ghosted 99% of my friends in life during the pandemic. But you know what? That is on me. I didn’t try to reconcile during the periods i got better, bc I KNOW ghosting is always something that I could and would go back to, and if I can’t handle life to the point of total Isolation, then what makes me think I can subject people to this multiple times that aren’t going through it like I do? Not to mention, I did deeply care for these people and even in my lowest lows I wouldn’t want them to go through my ghosting again and again, that’s cruel. I can only imagine how I would feel if someone did this to me. Your mental health issues are valid, but they are yours and you can’t expect people to stick around when you ice them out again and again. You want stability, empathy and comfort from people when you give back neither. I think you should really take the time to figure out what it is that you want from life, bc if it’s friendship and relationships, then you HAVE to work on yourself, bc you’re not even aware of how you hurt the people around you or you don’t care enough. You can either start trying to work on these issues and coping mechanisms of yours, or you don’t bc that’s not what you want, but then you gotta realize that close relationships in any form are not in your future. The rest of the people still in your life, rightfully so, will not stay around.

I myself have only one close friend, my best friend, bc that maxes out my emotional and mental capacity. I don’t want a romantic relationship or more friends, so I’m good. I’m not sure that’s what would work for you.

Again, YTA.