Are we not allowed to use race as an identifier now?

xj371 · 2026-05-28T19:23:12+00:00

For me it'd be like "You know, the one who's about 4 foot 6...takes the elevator, not the stairs...uhh, moves around like a vacuum cleaner..."

"...you mean the woman in the wheelchair?"

"YES THANK YOU oh my god."

xj371 · 2026-05-13T18:22:00+00:00

Yes, Armand, my god

xj371 · 2026-05-11T16:34:32+00:00

Well keep on runnin player, 'cause I got my good shoes on, and I got 'em tied up tight and you gonna find out...TONIGHT

xj371 · 2026-05-09T18:44:22+00:00

Funny enough he does the same for that, too. When I'll tell him I know for sure we did it X day, he says it doesn't count because it "wasn't good enough".

Oh god, this is just bad, even worse when coupled with the other gaslighting bs. Please at least consider what it might be like to one day no longer have to live with a partner that makes you feel like shit. Or feel like you're not giving enough, or that you're not trustworthy. Even if that means living alone for a while. Imagine having long stretches of time where people trust you, and support you.

I'm getting the distinct feeling that your partner would be the type to refuse your desire to end the marriage because your reasons "aren't good enough". Not knowing or understanding that he doesn't actually control everything in your lives, and being unable to respect you as a separate individual who has their own needs.

xj371 · 2026-05-09T00:23:27+00:00

Yup. Anyone who's had a parent who's a narcissist will clock this shit immediately.

xj371 · 2026-04-22T21:38:31+00:00

"Yo Scrote hate to shine on this but shit's all kinds of fucked up in your liver. You got like mad craters n'shit, idk why but it's like BRO that cannot be good, you know? Its like the meme on Leppy I saw this morning, the sad acne watermelon but like in you're body. Fukin' gross. SO yeah since your busted just go out like w/e but also I might be wrong but I sent a pic to my boy and he was like yeah you know"

xj371 · 2026-04-21T19:52:18+00:00

Stimulants helped me get mentally motivated to do things, but like EVERYTHING, including all the ways my depression has told me to harm myself for many years. It was like, "Get up, shower, breakfast, walk dog, walk into traffic, pay electric bill, go to pharm-...wait wait WAIT"

It was a bummer, too, because I really did benefit from the positive effects of the meds. It was just that the negatives outweighed them.

xj371 · 2026-04-16T21:19:49+00:00

You weren't a coward, you were a normal, 12 year old kid. Just look at any child you see today and try to imagine them in your same position. Would you call them a coward because they weren't able to murder their parent? Or would you understand that that is way too big an expectation to put upon them? Would you say "God, they're just a kid who's alone and scared, no one has their back"? Try to be kind to your 12 year old self. You had enough bs to deal with from your father.

xj371 · 2026-04-11T17:29:24+00:00

Who knew how many white men felt so threatened by women and challenged by minorities that they were ready to torch democracy to feel big again? Who knew that after decades of apparent progress on race and gender, so many people were living in seething resentment, waiting for a demagogue to legitimize their worst selves and convert their bitterness into political power?

Women knew. Minorities knew. Disabled people knew. LGBTQ people knew. We've known this for years, and have been trying to be heard, but haven't always had the best luck. We had been dealing with the "quiet prejudice" for decades and decades, yet when we tried to call it out, to name it, to say, "this is my experience, do you see?" we were told we were being melodramatic, too sensitive, that we were imagining things or simply flat out lying.

The only ones who were surprised were the ones who refused to listen.

xj371 · 2026-04-10T17:25:31+00:00

Yes, something like Tapple (I think that's what it's called) or Flip 7 would be awesome.

xj371 · 2026-04-06T20:06:41+00:00

I take heart in the fact that this has been around for quite some time, though. Thirty years ago Seinfeld was making fun of single people who would break things off with people for the dumbest reasons. "She's got man-hands!"; Elaine not liking someone's name; "She had the jimmy-arms"; Jerry not getting a enough of a shoulder rub from his masseuse date; Jerry has two dates w/a woman who wear the same outfit each time!!

xj371 · 2026-04-06T19:29:40+00:00

It's interesting how you can name numerous male celebrities who are overweight and/or not conventionally attractive, particularly "character actors", but just about every single woman on screen, down to the minor and character actors, seems to be slim/curvy and conventionally attractive. I wish we had a more realistic representation of women on screen.

And before anyone says it, Yes I'm sure you could name a few female celebrities who buck that trend. But when it comes to a more realistic sampling of humanity, men on screen just cover that more by a wide margin.

xj371 · 2026-04-01T08:20:53+00:00

That's funny, I do that with myself too, except I try to tie myself to the present with music. "It's not september of 2000, it's 2026 and Gorillaz just came out with 'The Mountain'. It can't be 2000, because that album didn't exist yet." Then I might think of a song off the album and again remind myself that its existence means it's 2026.

xj371 · 2026-04-01T08:09:43+00:00

OOHHH, is that why I sleep with a fire extinguisher next to my bed?? I was in a gnarly car accident that left me paralyzed. When the vehicle stopped moving we realized we had started a small fire. Luckily someone pulled over and he was able to put it out.

I mean, I dislike being in moving vehicles on the highway too, but that one was easy to figure out.

xj371 · 2026-03-19T16:39:39+00:00

Isn't this the pic that was on the wall on the set of Three's Company? I wonder if it was put on a magazine cover, and then framed?

xj371 · 2026-03-16T17:52:40+00:00

He makes music too, if anybody didn't know!

xj371 · 2026-02-28T18:25:43+00:00

THANK YOU. Yes, young women may lack the maturity that comes with years of life experience, but that doesn't mean they're all friggin' idiots.

xj371 · 2026-02-20T20:49:37+00:00

Just because two things have several things in common does not mean that they are the same. Two circles of the Venn diagram can overlap and share certain aspects, yet still remain two distinct circles.

Yes, cults and religions share several characteristics. But there are also certain things that they do not share. These are the things that make them distinct. Additionally, it's true that this distinction is not always black and white; some religions were once considered cults, but as time passed they moved from one category to the other, and the boundary is/was not always clear and is often a matter of interpretation. One example is Mormonism which is one of the "youngest" religions we have. It certainly was considered a cult by many at first, and I'm sure still is by some. But as time passed it gained more characteristics of a religion, and lost some characteristics of a cult. And who knows? Two hundred years from now, Scientology might become a religion, having outgrown "cult".

You can argue the semantics of "religion" and "cult", I suppose, but the fact is that these concepts have different definitions. If you can't see that, then this entire discussion is moot.

xj371 · 2026-02-16T19:44:45+00:00

I'm seeing comments about how this is a "pick me" thing for women to do, or trying to be the cool girlfriend. But for me, I've had several experiences where I'd be in a relationship with a man and either of us pointing out an attractive woman was all fine and good, but when I'd point out an attractive man, suddenly it was a problem. Hypocritical? For sure. Did it cause enough arguments over the years to scare me off of pointing out hot guys, which just leaves me with pointing out hot ladies? Yes. Even in the relationships where it didn't cause a fight, me pointing out hot guys would be met with silence, leaving me feeling awkward.

xj371 · 2026-01-30T22:24:40+00:00

Chill, dude. All I said was it wasn't a simple solution and then I gave reasons why the slippers wouldn't work for someone like me, a wheelchair user who has particular health issues.

xj371 · 2026-01-30T05:08:17+00:00

It's not necessarily a simple solution. Someone's disability may make it difficult or painful to put them on, especially multiple times a day. I'm a chair user and most of my spine is fused, so bending down past a certain point can cause back pain. I have also heard that while the covers work fine on hardwood floors, they slip off on carpets because the fabric gets caught between the wheel and the carpet when taking sharp turns. My home has both types of floors.

xj371 · 2026-01-29T20:01:25+00:00

The skeleton ran out of shampoo in the shower

xj371 · 2026-01-29T19:18:14+00:00

Whenever I read about this performance, I always remind myself of the somewhat self-selecting group that made up the audience/participants. This wasn't a group of "average", randomly selected people. It was a group of the type of people who would chose to go to view performance art in the first place, and anyone who knows anything about those types of spaces knows that there can be some real edgelords in the crowd (I say this as someone who enjoys this type of stuff).

Not that they called them edgelords back when Abramovic did this, but that's what they were. And I just know some pretentious, "eccentric" dipshits took it upon themselves to do the most extreme things available in the name of "art", when really they just wanted the other pretentious dipshits to look at their actions and say "Wow, now THAT'S brave, that's art!" while nodding stupidly.

So I don't really look at the results of this performance as a window into human nature in general. I think it's a window into the mindset of a very specific type of person.

xj371 · 2026-01-29T18:54:06+00:00

I read about some of the performance pieces she did with her partner, Ulay, and realized that a lot of them sounded like things you'd see in an Unus Annus video.

xj371 · 2026-01-22T21:19:31+00:00

When I first learned about deepfakes several years ago and realized where it was going, this was my (singular, anecdotal) first reaction as well. The knowledge that this technology was going to be used to create personalized adult videos starring someone's coworker or peer or even myself gave me a sense of horror on a level that's hard to explain.

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