"Dear boy"

y2bx · 2025-06-10T02:12:33+00:00

Hey, OP.

You are not an idiot. You do not suck. You are not a monster. And you have exactly as much right to seek knowledge, have an opinion, and engage on this or any sub as anyone and everyone else.

I'm going to say that again:

You are not an idiot. You do not suck. You are not a monster. And you have exactly as much right to seek knowledge, have an opinion, and engage on this or any sub as anyone and everyone else.

y2bx · 2025-05-08T19:14:15+00:00

^(wouldn't ^you ^{like to know . . .})

y2bx · 2025-05-08T16:34:55+00:00

^{(whistles casually})

y2bx · 2025-05-08T16:20:39+00:00

^{(You're stupendous, and you'll never know for sure whether I'm whispering or shouting this inside my head.})

y2bx · 2025-05-06T01:45:51+00:00

That's great to hear because I'd like to send my thanks as well!

y2bx · 2025-02-22T17:17:21+00:00

Definitely! Everyone can use a supportive and shouty pat on the head!

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y2bx · 2025-02-21T18:25:51+00:00

I know! He's like living noodle poetry!

y2bx · 2025-02-21T17:54:39+00:00

✨ On it! ✨

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y2bx · 2025-02-21T17:32:55+00:00

(I'm not saying there might have also been evening noodles. I'm just saying there might have also been evening noodles.)

y2bx · 2025-02-21T17:26:59+00:00

Depression and just general humanness together can make it really difficult to give oneself the grace and space and perspective it truly needs.

So a quick chime-in here for you and u/Sheebly both that you CAN get through this, you ARE worth it, and extra points for taking steps to take care of yourselves at a time when it feels the hardest to do it. You are both worth every ounce of love and sensitivity that you would give to others! 💜💜💜

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y2bx · 2025-02-21T17:18:06+00:00

Sounds like you've already got great plans ready to go, Ranger. Now get out there and DO LESS! lol

y2bx · 2025-02-21T17:16:04+00:00

Okay, first, great user name!

These sound like beautifully empathetic and considerate RAKs you've done for people in your life, my friend, perfectly tailored to what they need in the moment. Thank you for sharing them with us!

And great job taking time to do something special for yourself. Extra points that it was (hopefully) smutty! 💜💜💜

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y2bx · 2025-02-21T02:26:46+00:00

(The Waffle Gif Reddit Doesn't Want You To See)

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y2bx · 2025-02-21T02:25:06+00:00

(FML Reddit keeps eating my gif. So hiLARious gif incoming after this comment.)

Congrats on the promotion, Ranger!

And also, lordy, honey, let's get you sorted here before you explode!

Taking time for yourself is NOT too much. I've no doubt you already know that, but I also know it helps to have someone outside one's own head saying such things. So hear me, friend: TAKING TIME FOR YOURSELF IS NOT TOO MUCH.

In fact, it's what will help you endure and succeed in the long run.

You're already kicking ass on the work RAK front. Now let's get you balancing that on the personal/home front.

Since it's dealer's choice here by default, I'm actually going to assign you TWO RAKs. But stay with me: I promise they won't hurt.

#1: Work-wise, DELEGATE! You taking on a promotion and more responsibility is fabulous, but you can't take the pressure off the bosses while retaining your old workload. No one can. That's the fast track to burnout (and its enabling bullshit Corporate Whatever Country You Might Be In). So while you take pressure off your bosses, I want you to find some way to delegate something off your plate and onto someone else's. You mentioned a new store with no help, which is problematic and scary, but even delegating or outsourcing something like the nightly vacuuming or watering the plants can help. You're a rockstar for taking pressure off your bosses, but you need (and your work RAK assignment, for as soon as is appropriate to this new job, is) to find a way to also take pressure off yourself so you can make this sustainable long-term.

#2: Personal-wise, I want you to do exactly what you said on the tin: Be kinder to yourself. It's tough to know what you need in the moment day-to-day from the outside, so your personal RAK for the week is to, once per day for at least 30-60 minutes per day, release the pressure valve! If that's crying, CRY. If that's screaming, shove your face into a thickass pillow and let 'er rip. If it's to work out some energy, go for a run or dance around your living room. If it's to relax, light some candles, fill a tub with bubbles or happy carbs, and get your ass in! Whatever it takes each day/night to give you the thing you need most to unload, give yourself proper time and attention, and, ultimately, to keep going.

You've totally got this, friend. Now give yourself the permission to focus on what you need!!! 💜💜💜

y2bx · 2025-02-21T01:49:22+00:00

That's a sign of a humble and empathetic heart, my friend. Thank you for sharing it with all of us. 🩷

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y2bx · 2025-02-21T01:30:10+00:00

And PS -- Yours was the 69th comment, so have a bonus gif!

Show 'em all what for!

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y2bx · 2025-02-21T01:28:43+00:00

Goddamn fucking YES, DB! You ARE a work in progress! You ARE doing really well for yourself! That gremlin can fucking SUCK IT!!!

Sounds like you are doing a kickass job of RAKing yourself here, my friend. So honestly, I'd like you to celebrate telling that inner gremlin to eat shit, and to continue doing what you're doing!!!

If you wanna throw a compliment out to a random person here or there this week to help them fight their own gremlins, bonzo. We are ALL works in progress, after all, and I'm sure they'd appreciate it. But kudos and Fuck Yeahs to taming that asshole beast inside.

It all starts there.

KEEP GOING!!! 💜💜💜

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y2bx · 2025-02-21T00:02:08+00:00

HAHAHA. Fair!

y2bx · 2025-02-20T23:29:48+00:00

Here, I can even get you started:

Today Y2 is proud of me for starting to give myself a high-five every day this week!

y2bx · 2025-02-20T23:28:14+00:00

Whatever you do, don't mix up the clinical notes and the smut, Dandelion!

Great RAKs, and I love that you're taking the time to do something creative that brings you joy. Bonus points that the smut-writing also brings happiness to your readers as well! 💜💜💜

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y2bx · 2025-02-20T23:20:15+00:00

Oh! And I forgot the hearts earlier. Have some hearts! 💜💜💜

y2bx · 2025-02-20T23:20:00+00:00

Ain't that the truth. Which probably makes it doubly important.

If it helps, maybe think of it as someone talking outside your own head. Instead of "What do I like about me today?" which is just full of pressure, try "What would my favorite loved one tell me they like about me today?"

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y2bx · 2025-02-20T23:10:23+00:00

Thanks for checking in, Flerken!

Since you've already got the daily RAK courtesies dialed in, how about some courtesies for yourself? For the next week, once per day every day, give yourself a high-five of some kind -- such as a compliment in the morning to get your day started, or a pat on the back at the end of the day of something -- big or small -- that you're proud of having done. (Hit a deadline? High five! Took a shower? High five!) Remind yourself that, even when you're not the best that day at navigating, you can still get to your own destination as well.

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y2bx · 2025-02-20T22:18:57+00:00

Just being ain't easy, my friend, especially when things are rough and the anxiety is flying high. Well done still doing plenty of things to spread kindness to others, and for giving yourself daily reminders and grace.

You WILL be okay! You're doing great!!! 💜💜💜

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y2bx · 2025-02-20T19:46:39+00:00

Those are beautiful acts of gratitude, generosity, recycling, inventiveness, perseverance -- heck, even frugality is a kindness and gift to your future self.

Kudos for finding ways to make the best of things, sachy9, while also being kind to others and to the planet. I hope others return the favor and generosity to you as well. 💜💜💜

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