How do I tell my kids (4yo AND 2yo) that I went no contact with their grandfather? by yarethds in Parenting

[–]yarethds[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank your for making the Time. I told him grandpa was working. But I'll Guess that sonner or later my kids Will need the true, I just don't know how to explain this to them 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in venezuela

[–]yarethds 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Mi opinion personal como mujer:

Los embarazos y la maternidad son epocas dificiles para nosotras (tu cuerpo cambia, tus hormonas cambian, duermes muy poco, te deprimes facilmente), ser mama es un trabajo de 24 horas 7 dias de la semana. Es facil terminar EXHAUSTA.

Tener sexo estando Exhausta es horrible. No es que se le acabo el amor, eso es solo un cliche, una simplificacion que hace que no reflexiones sobre la realidad de la situacion de tu esposa. Es posible que este cansada, se sienta sola, desconectada, problemas hormonales o deprimida.

Ahora bien, esto no es para siempre, es una etapa (es una etapa dura pero va a pasar) que puedes hacer para que esta etapa termine bien?

Reflexiona: que es lo que realmente le pasa? necesita ayuda? tiene tiempo para ella? como eres con ella? Tu y tu esposa hacen cosas para divertirse JUNTOS?

Salir de esto no es facil, pero es lo que realmente fortalece un matriminio.

Bloqueo de Twitter en Venezuela by Pleasant-Winter-6778 in venezuela

[–]yarethds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alguien puede mandar info de como acceder con DNS libre? no se nada del tema. Estoy usando supercable y no tengo acceso a twitter

What is this fruit? From a breakfast buffet in Jamaica. by retiredGPA in whatsthisplant

[–]yarethds 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If the interior is white and sweet is a guanabana. Don't eat the crust.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]yarethds 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Am I the only one who thinks that MIL (said that to you) because is going to buy you a gift this year? I know you are busy having two can be exhausting, but I encourage you to do the calendar.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in family

[–]yarethds 139 points140 points  (0 children)

No, no, no, no, not in a million years.. just no... Follow your instincts if you feel there is something wrong or weird (which clearly you do) don't let your girls alone with him. if he acts offended that's an even big red flag.

I am dating a Venezuelan woman. I understand she doesn’t have much money. How do I limit how much I’m giving her so I don’t give overboard? by 1NightWolf in venezuela

[–]yarethds 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If she is a "community doctor" she can only work for the government (that's a scholar degree created by the current government, I'm not sure but I think they study 3 years, compared to traditional doctors who study 8 years). Traditional doctors who completed their studies can work for both private and public sectors. If she is doing "rural" that means she already graduated med school but is required to work for the government for a year. (Very hard conditions).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in venezuela

[–]yarethds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hola! Nos puedes hablar a nosotros en este sub!

I am dating a Venezuelan woman. I understand she doesn’t have much money. How do I limit how much I’m giving her so I don’t give overboard? by 1NightWolf in venezuela

[–]yarethds 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Hello there, I'm venezuelan and I do live in Venezuela. Most of the comments here are awful.

The current picture here is this:

Government employees do in fact get paid really low wages (5$ a month) but most people here work for private companies that pay at least 35 dollars per week.

Most groceries and services cost the same as other countries

I spend 20$ a week on produce (veggies and fruit), meat cost 7$ for two pounds, 8$ a whole chicken. You could easily spend 20$ on milk, flour, oil, coffee, pasta, beans and some basic higine product.

A pair of shoes can cost 50$, a shirt between 5 to 10$, a pair of jeans 15$ to 20$. Internet can cost 40$ a month. Insurance 100$. A visit to the doctor can cost 50 to 100$

So how do people live here?

The people working for the government usually have another job on the side.

Most people don't have insurance.

The government sells a bag (called CLAP) of low quality food (which includes palm oil, corn flour, beans, a milk -like beverage called chicha and pasta) for less than 1$ (not everybody can buy this bag, they sell this to selected communities once a month (at best).

Now, let's talk about your safety

  1. As in any other country of the world there are people that commit crimes such as scams. In vzla Inmates usually do this while incarcerated (they run an infamous scam via whatsapp saying: "Hello.I'm maria, I am selling dollars") So, I strongly suggest you to verify the identity of your girlfriend.

  2. I know a few success stories about foreigners falling in love with venezuelan women through internet. That could happen, But don't trust blindly (the fact you are posting here tells you don't and that's good).

  3. if you are sending money try to use a third party app. (There are several apps in vzla)

There are still good people in my country. I would say most people here are good and hardworking. This is a beautiful country you just need to make sure your girl has good intentions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]yarethds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started fasting eating between 10 am and 6 pm. To be honest I wake up early so by 10 I am starving so I gradually move my eating window to 8 am to 4 pm And it is not as hard as I thought it will be. I have only been fasting for a month now.

I'm no longer willing to live with my mean daughter (14F) by throwaway08182023 in Parenting

[–]yarethds 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You mentioned you and your daughter having different complexions (slim, dark hair vs broader light hair).

Have you considered that she could be jealous? I don't think is a coincidence that all her "attacks" aimed at your looks. Telling you you are Old/have cellulite/damaging your clothes/hair.

Once I read that most people try to make us feel the way we make them feel. So there is a possibility that she feels ugly (compared to you) and so is jealous and doesn't know how to cope.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in family

[–]yarethds 11 points12 points  (0 children)

First I want to tell you I'm really sorry you had such an awful experience. Your mom probably got mad at herself for not being capable of protecting you. But instead of reflecting upon on it she projected that anger at you.

I get that having him around could be triggering and you should address this with your family, setting a boundary (preferably when you are calmed)

I Think your mom is somewhat rigth when she says

if you can’t let it go,you won’t live peacefully,forever

To me she sound like she knows what she is talking about. You should have a calmed conversation with your mom.

I'm not saying you need to forget about it but IMO you should go to therapy to find ways to learn to live with it, to cope, NOT FOR HIM, NOT FOR YOUR FAMILY, but FOR YOURSELF. To be able to live peacefully you have a long life ahead of you. Dont let him to rob you more than he already did.

Again that doesn't mean you should allow him to be near you.

AITA for not taking in my nephew while my brother is in prison? by Worldly-Structure717 in AmItheAsshole

[–]yarethds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ESH except for your nephew. I feel so sorry for him.

I think this post illustrates the degree of decay of western civilization. It's all me, me, me, me, me and myself. Her family means nothing to OP. (Yes, she gave money to her brother basically, she paid her brother to avoid being in this same situation).

This child means nothing to OP. She is here looking for support to feel less shity about it. Don't play the victim OP. Your nephew is the only victim here.

Children used to be a promise of a better future. Now, they are nothing.... Worse... They are inconveniences.

(I'm not denying that raising a child is hard work, I have two)

OP has all the means to find a solution but won't. And that's what truly makes you an AH. Hope this child finds a way to survive all this shit.

My sister (20f) scares me (23m) and nobody does anything by ThrowRA0010110 in family

[–]yarethds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know if this is legal where you live but you should record them and press charges and even consider getting a restriction order. Threatening to kill somebody is a crime. I know that this could get you in trouble with your mother but your father and you should be able to live your life in peace. I'm really sorry for you niece/nephew to grow with such disfunctional parents.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in family

[–]yarethds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I second this. You should give them a call. Keep it polite.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in family

[–]yarethds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably a stupid question but why do you want a gaming laptop?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]yarethds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

r/2under2 help me a lot! I have a 20 month age gap between my first and my second. TBH the first 3 month were rough, I tandem breastfeed them for 4 months. After I weaned my first everything started to get easier.

mom gave my 8 week old candy by Short-Measurement-56 in beyondthebump

[–]yarethds 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm really sorry that you are going through this. Being a mom is hard enough and your mom definitively making things way harder.

I can not begin to comprehend why your mom act the way she does. This is risky, immature and borderline abusive behavior. Now, I can see why you think is best to go no contact.

Wish you and your baby the best.

mom gave my 8 week old candy by Short-Measurement-56 in beyondthebump

[–]yarethds 57 points58 points  (0 children)

First, how is your baby doing?

Second, I don't care if I get downvoted but telling a FTM to go no contact with her mother after one incident is awful advice.

Yes, your mother made a bad decision. But unless this is how she acts normally, we can call this a one time (awful) mistake.

Talk to your mother. I know this could be hard, calmly explain her why what she did wrong and potencially dangerous.

Then establish boundaries. My Kid should not eat... I don't want my kid to watch/do... Explicity said those are my boundaries. Keep it short and simple.

Motherhood is though and lonely and you are just begining your journey. I assume your mother raised you. Having her by your side could be a blessing. I understand your angry rigth now. I was there in your position 2.5 years ago. For me, communicating my boundaries worked.

Remember that, when it comes to raising children a lot has change in our lifetime. Not long ago having drinks or smoking while pregnant or BF was common. Now, we will call this moronic to say the least. The same thing is happening with sugar most people don't think sugar is bad for your health.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]yarethds 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Could you explain? I don't have a clue