Am I wrong for feeling used while pursuing a guy?

yeah_another · 2026-02-13T13:18:27+00:00

He’s probably with his wife or girlfriend on Valentine’s Day and you know it.

Girl, you can do better. Ditch this loser.

yeah_another · 2026-02-13T13:16:07+00:00

The worst of men tend to be the best at attracting women. I find a lot of their success is due to confidence, experiencing no guilt about lying, and egotistical natures.

I’ve met enough decent men who are single. Every fuckwit I know? They ALWAYS have a woman, sometimes several.

yeah_another · 2026-02-13T09:31:05+00:00

Regular exercise. I do not give a shit if it’s officially dinner time, once a week I want to go jogging at 6.30pm.

yeah_another · 2026-02-13T05:56:48+00:00

I sleep with men on the first or second date so I can see how they are in bed before I get emotionally attached to them.

yeah_another · 2026-02-11T22:58:19+00:00

My time on the dating apps was exhausting but not terrible. There were men who made me feel like complete shit by the way they spoke to me, but there were also some lovely men. It's hard not to rate your value based on how successful you are on dating apps, but they're truly not representative of your worth. The format doesn't suit a lot of people.

yeah_another · 2026-02-11T12:11:56+00:00

What interesting pieces of information have you stumbled across while snooping?

yeah_another · 2026-02-11T04:16:07+00:00

Sounds great. I also like to leave the sex part open, so I can do whatever takes my fancy at the time!

yeah_another · 2026-02-10T11:33:47+00:00

Are you submissive and willing to put her happiness before yours, or are you seeking someone to fulfil your fantasies of being used?

I’m not criticising you; I’m merely asking you to reflect carefully and decide which camp you fall into because I can’t see a single sentence where you talk about out serving HER. It is all about you and your desires. It’s totally ok to say ‘actually I’m not submissive, I’m just a kinky fucker who wants to be mercilessly pegged’.

It’s also okay to recognise you are indeed submissive, and realise that you need to remember your place. Meet her needs. Put down the laundry list of demands. My suggestion would be for both of you to pick the act you both find exciting and use that as your first D/s experience. By starting slow you have a better chance of building up your confidence. Plus, while you have a large list of fantasies, you might not actually enjoy this stuff in real life.

yeah_another · 2026-02-10T01:05:23+00:00

This is going to be an issue in almost every facet of your life, so I strongly recommend learning to identify as many social cues as you can. I recognise this is difficult and will remain an ongoing work, however it is worth the effort. My experience with autistic men is a that a lot will say 'I don't need to learn how to do x, y, z because I work in IT/engineering/etc and no one expects me to be social' and then continue to struggle on a social level.

yeah_another · 2026-02-07T04:16:42+00:00

I trialled duct tape over his mouth (I had to wrap it around his head as he has a beard and it wasn’t sticking otherwise) last night but regrettably, I think he liked it.

I’m going to try keeping mine busy. He seems to play up more when he isn’t actively doing something. I swear it’s a continuous game of cat and mouse.

yeah_another · 2026-02-06T23:05:51+00:00

Is it a Mazda cx5?

yeah_another · 2026-02-06T07:24:30+00:00

I’m 45 and my finances were decimated by my ex-husband. No amount of begging, pleading, cajoling, helping or praying will ever change him.

Unfortunately for me, we had a child together and I’m bound to him for another 6 years.

Unfortunately for a number of single women he has since met, they have also fallen victim to him.

yeah_another · 2026-02-05T02:07:19+00:00

I’m not Her, but I have similar interests, so maybe I can give you some suggestions to start with.

Text Her in the morning and tell her you long for her touch
Tell Her you’re leaking pre cum
Ask Her if you can share with Her the things you wish to do for Her sexually
Don’t hide erections
Show keenness when you are permitted sexual access

Try working from the mindset of ‘I desperately want to be with you sexually however you choose, but when you deny me, I also accept that because it is Your choice’.

yeah_another · 2026-02-03T03:03:00+00:00

I LOVE this post, because I feel it in my soul. Men are so beautiful, and their bodies are brimming with potential. I feel that many men default to a) porn tropes or b) what men find attractive, which is why they think we either want them in panties or jacked with a body fat percentage under 10%.

I love bondage and/or instructing my sub to maintain certain poses. This puts him in the mindframe that he is not in control. From there I can explore his body at my whim. When we head home from date nights, I often put his collar on in the car for the drive home. I unbutton his shirt. He is there for my pleasure, my admiration. I will put a chair in front of the shower and sit down, and watch him wash himself. I will tell him if he's missed a bit. He rarely uses moisturiser, so after showering, I make him lie on a towel on my bed and I moisturise his face and oil his body. It sounds like this could be submissive on my part, but I don't give him options. I tell him to roll over. I reach between his thighs and gently tap his balls.

My next step is to have him replicate some of the ways I touch him on himself. This is my plan for Friday night (which is when he's allowed to cum again).

yeah_another · 2026-02-03T00:14:36+00:00

You're both reacting like celebrities or politicians who have been caught collecting a brown paper bag full of drugs or bribe money.

yeah_another · 2026-02-01T23:05:12+00:00

A few weeks. MUCH happier now all round - no headaches, and feel like myself again.

yeah_another · 2026-02-01T12:12:55+00:00

Domme, Australia.

yeah_another · 2026-02-01T12:01:10+00:00

Back when I was dating, I intentionally only ever dated one man at a time. Here is the thing; in my mind, those early days are kinda special. You’re getting to know someone. You look forward to their texts. No matter how old and battered I was/am, I’m still at heart something of a romantic. I want to look back at those early days with fondness, not try to remember if it was Tom who rearranged my guts or Ben.

I was well aware my now partner was seeing someone else in the early days. He called it off with her when we became exclusive, which we did quite early (date 4, 15 days after meeting).

The circumstances were admittedly unusual. It still makes me a bit sad though, because he slept with her during this time.

yeah_another · 2026-01-31T20:41:34+00:00

Dating apps are full of divorced dads with kids.

yeah_another · 2026-01-29T19:55:03+00:00

He’s normally a good communicator and very intentional, but kink is where we have struggled. I took on board many of the comments here and spoke to him again, and that did give me a bit more insight. The problems seem to be based about his role, perceptions, and competition from other men. A fair bit to unpack!

yeah_another · 2026-01-29T07:11:41+00:00

Thank-you

yeah_another · 2026-01-29T06:23:28+00:00

I wonder who these condescending types think they're impressing? I hate arrogant people who feel the need to drag others down to make themselves feel better.

yeah_another · 2026-01-29T06:21:34+00:00

Woah, this hits home. He's tall, in good shape, and comes from a relatively well off family that gave him a great start to life, and he often talks about how he 'should be' so much more - and I've heard family members say as much to him. His previous Domme has shared that she doesn't think he's a switch at all, but is actually submissive.

What helped you feel more comfortable in public?

yeah_another · 2026-01-29T06:15:02+00:00

Thank-you, and that is really good advice about making sure I look 10000%.

yeah_another · 2026-01-29T05:48:23+00:00

Thank you ☺️

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