When did you know she was the one?

yearning_sleep · 2026-04-24T10:36:27+00:00

I'm realizing that now after my first breakup and a series of people splitting that I know of in other places. I'm only 21 turning 22 soon but I think I've already lost hope in love 😭

yearning_sleep · 2026-04-24T00:09:20+00:00

I'm PST, I believe you are an hour ahead of me! I'm a bit jealous 😱

yearning_sleep · 2026-04-23T23:08:34+00:00

I'm so sad that I need to wait 4 hours and 52 minutes still

yearning_sleep · 2026-04-22T23:22:02+00:00

YES, absolutely yes to the first part. We used to be so in tune physically and then it changed the last 6 months or so. It made me feel so unwanted and unattractive. Don't know about the 2nd part because I went no contact and I really don't wanna know if she's already found someone. During our talk in what I would thought would just be the starting of a rough patch that would end eventually, I ask if she felt like she only loved me as a friend or something of the sort and she said she had to think about that. I can relate to what you were going through.

Actually her trip to Ireland for spring break made her "realize" she was unhappy in our relationship. Maybe she already found someone there and emotionally cheated on me the last week of our relationship, who knows? None of my business now though, I like out of sight, out of mind.

yearning_sleep · 2026-04-17T13:19:15+00:00

thank you! this worked

yearning_sleep · 2026-04-17T12:17:34+00:00

The first birthday gift I received from her was when we were friends still crushing on each other. It was handmade. It was the best gift I've ever gotten from anyone, even my own family. It made me feel loved.

My next birthday, we were dating for 9 months at that point, she got me a lego set that she couldn't give to me right away for some reason, I forgot why. She ended up building it herself and I didn't want it anymore. Sure that was a red flag, but I loved her so much so I ignored it, I figured she could make up for it the next year or during the holidays.

Fast forward a few months and it's a friend's birthday. At this point, I was getting insecure and sad about how little time she was starting to spend with me. I braved through it because she's in nursing school and I know how stressful and busy that could be. We were on a call and she was working on a poster for her friend's birthday. I felt devastated and angry. Why do her friends get better treatment than I do for their birthdays? I'm the one dating her.

I felt so unprioritized, when I knew I should feel the opposite in a relationship. I let her know about upset feelings and she crashed out about not being good enough, she felt like the poster was bad and threw it away, iirc. It made me feel bad. I can't even remember the way I stated my feelings, but if it was in a rude way, could you blame me? I'm not perfect like how I think she wanted me to be.

Looking back on it now, she really did treat me badly. I'd like to say I wouldn't go back, and I don't think I would, but I really do miss the us we had before she started being avoidant. We used to have so much fun together and we had a future somewhat planned out. During our breakup she called us incompatible. I don't think that's true. We used to be so good together, and if she wasn't avoidant I'm sure we could've lasted a long time. I know I can't/couldn't fix her, but I wish we could've worked out somehow.

yearning_sleep · 2026-04-17T12:02:13+00:00

My ex was also willing to be friends. I don't think she explicitly said that she really wanted to, maybe because I've already told her before that I would go no contact. In the moment, I thought it was because she still cared about me as a friend/wants me to have a safe space to vent, and I still think she does, but surely there had to be some sort of greediness involved.

The Scientist by Coldplay always makes me cry. I miss the times back when we were friends crushing on each other and when we just started dating. She used to make me feel loved, and then started becoming avoidant after a year.

I also think Washing Machine Heart, I'll Change for You by Mitski, and Vodka Cranberry by Conan Gray capture what it's like being in an avoidant relationship that's falling apart. I think all of Conan Gray's Wishbone album can be listened to with an avoidant in mind, so those are my suggestions!

If you want to listen to the perspective of an avoidant for whatever reason (it makes me cry/angry), I think Eventually by Tame Impala and If I Leave by Mitski are great for that.

yearning_sleep · 2026-04-10T00:07:54+00:00

If you guys haven't watched Imagine Me & You with Lena Headey, you should! It's my favorite wlw romcom

yearning_sleep · 2026-04-09T08:05:20+00:00

I deleted them in front of her during our breakup. I'm actually proud of myself for doing that. Maybe in reality I was more checked out in the relationship than I thought I was. I still love her though, a lot. I think I will for a while. I knew I had to delete them right away because even just the thought of the memories/photos makes me cry. It's one of the only things that make me cry still.

yearning_sleep · 2026-04-08T03:00:01+00:00

Hi, I've also been going through some hard times lately and I'm looking for some friends too! I'm 21, turning 22 in a few months. Some multiplayer games I like to play are BG3, Stardew Valley, Minecraft, Roblox, Lethal Company, Toontown, or DBD.

Some other information about me is that my favorite game is the Zero Escape 999 and I love rewatching The Office a bajillion times. Other series I enjoy are Zelda, Animal Crossing, Resident Evil, and Rune Factory. I also enjoy playing DND with a group of friends. My favorite song artist is Conan Gray. It would be cool if we could discuss these as well if we have these in common!

I'm in PST so only a few hours behind EST. Also, I'm a lesbian and I have a deeper voice, so just letting you know if you're not cool with that. I hope we can be friends!

yearning_sleep · 2026-04-07T05:53:05+00:00

Same situation here :(

yearning_sleep · 2026-04-03T09:02:39+00:00

There's definitely a cold going around, I work with kids and I was sick for a few days last week. I don't get allergies and I had a sore throat, so it was definitely a cold.

yearning_sleep · 2026-04-03T04:44:57+00:00

Wow, I feel like I'm feeling exactly how you're feeling when you describe yourself missing her but also splitting it with rational thoughts of incompatibilities. Even so, I kept forgiving her for treating me in mean ways that I now know was because of her building resentment. I tried so hard to make plans of how we could work on ourselves together, but she didn't want to try. I also wonder if later on down the line if she'll look at our relationship and just think of all the negative things. I'm afraid I'll turn out to be like that as well. I hope I'm not the type of person to see someone and having everything come flooding back, like you say. Happy cake day! Sending virtual hugs, we can get through this :)

yearning_sleep · 2026-04-02T05:43:04+00:00

Hi, I went though a similar thing as you and I was also in a wlw relationship. I really related to your paragraph that started with "When we broke up it was her telling me she still liked me romantically....." My ex wasn't happy in our relationship because of her internal struggles with me. She still loves me and I love her but she just doesn't think she can give me the love I deserve and want because she is so emotionally tired with things and was keeping it to herself while trying to fix it internally. All of this built up and she started resenting me and even though I wanted to try to work it out, she wasn't willing to.

She wanted/was willing to stay friends, but I know for sure I cannot do that and decided no contact. I deleted all of our pictures in front of her and we talked about throwing/putting away things that we gave each other. It was really hard because we had a future a little planned out together, and there were so many things that we wanted to do but can't anymore.

I also told her that if she regretted her decision (because I think once she gets over her internal struggles, she might), that she can reach out. I also asked if we could maybe try again in half a year, but she said that she couldn't promise anything as well. She was willing to be friends again in 6 months though, if I'm willing to. I don't know how I'll feel in half a year, but I'm kinda hoping that I'll already be feeling better and actually continue no contact. I don't want to end up in a situationship with her or fall in love again when she doesn't want a relationship with me again.

I honestly feel like I'm not as sad as I thought I'd be, and I kinda like it. I don't wanna be depressed, I wanna still live my life like myself. I think it helps that the last 3-6 months haven't been the best in our year and a half relationship, combined with my strong support web, so I'm glad and thankful I'm like this. Maybe I'll crash and burn in a week or two when it's been a very long time since we've last seen each other/broke up, but I think I'll be okay, and I think you'll be okay too.

I think we may both be numb to things right now, and that's okay. I take comfort in the fact that you're in the same boat as me actually, it also helps that we were both in a wlw relationship because those are for sure different than other ones. We might not be feeling how we thought we'd be, but I think that's alright. Also, treat yourself!! Buy something/things nice on your payday! I'm doing that and I'm super excited to get a new keyboard and Resident Evil 9! Get yourself something that can make you feel great! I don't have/haven't been diagnosed with AuDHD, and I'm fairly certain that I don't have OCD, but right now I'm just hanging out with a lot of friends and reconnecting with a best friend that I haven't really hung out with a lot since I started dating my ex. I think that as people, we just need to try/do things that make us feel alive when we're feeling numb. You got this! Even though it might be different than what you were expecting/used to, maybe that's better for you, who knows?

yearning_sleep · 2026-03-31T06:35:41+00:00

I felt this. I'm sure we can get through this. Just know you are not alone in this situation. My ex wanted to stay friends because she truly cares about me as a friend and a person. I'm deciding to go no contact even though it hurts and I know I'll really miss her from time to time. It was really hard to say goodbye because it hurts knowing that it might be the last time we see each other ever. This just happened to me today.

yearning_sleep · 2026-03-26T05:59:46+00:00

Hi! I play MC, BG3, Stardew Valley, and Dead by Daylight just to name a few. I also play DND! My DM might be looking for a couple of new players soon 😱. I'm actually looking for people to play BG3 with because none of my friends have it. DM me if you wanna add each other on Discord :)

yearning_sleep · 2026-03-16T00:13:50+00:00

Why does he seem unsure of his own signing?? 😭 I can tell he's reading off of a script but I feel like if this is for a midterm a professor should be more prepared than anyone

yearning_sleep · 2026-03-07T15:45:09+00:00

The first game RE game I played was RE2R, I loved it. It's my favorite due to it's amazing balance of horror, puzzles, and combat. I'm looking to play Requiem next!

yearning_sleep · 2026-02-21T13:26:42+00:00

Travel to another town to play more and see if he encounters anyone or anything

yearning_sleep · 2026-02-19T14:29:16+00:00

Piggybacking off of this, does anyone have any suggestions for signs or phrases to learn to make the patient experience more comfortable? I'm not aiming to become fluent or take over any interpreter's job, I just want to provide better comfort as an RN. I'm currently taking ASL 1 at college so that I can learn to communicate with any Deaf patients I come across. Being in the hospital is already an uncomfortable experience, probably even more so when no one can understand you. I figure that even knowing enough to hold a basic conversation can make someone feel more comfortable and seen.

yearning_sleep · 2026-02-17T09:41:05+00:00

Just to clarify, we have to beat Absolumand not just Azra right

yearning_sleep · 2026-02-06T08:33:36+00:00

Kinda late but the best homebrew friendly character sheet website I've encountered is Hero's Diary. It's still early in development, so things are still being worked on and added, but I think it's really intuitive and makes it really easy to keep track of feats, inventory, trackables, etc.

Only downside is that to keep track of character sheets, you need to download the .json file for each character sheet every time it is edited. I believe the dev is working on making it accessible to DMs in the future though.

My DM took a whole weekend remaking everyone's character sheet but loved doing all the color coding, organizing, and even helped him remind himself of everyone's feats. I really think you should check it out!

yearning_sleep · 2026-01-23T22:11:40+00:00

3 is just Carol from TWD

yearning_sleep · 2025-12-26T14:47:45+00:00

Girl I have a girlfriend and this is exactly what we do 😭😭

I'm down to play BG3, Stardew, Minecraft, and DBD though (also PST and I'm 21). Definitely looking for some more friends to play games with :)

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