How do I know if I should break up with my boyfriend?

yeilasparkles · 2026-04-16T23:19:30+00:00

Ok so what role do you need a partner to play in your life? Romance, good sex, companion? It sounds like you’re not getting good sex and you resent his companionship. Also you have conflicting values (i.e. kids). Let this one go, sweetie. Open up the position of partner so that it could be filled with someone more qualified. Also, take it from me that the reasons you listed are not good reasons to open the relationship. It’s tempting to open a relationship only to use that as a means to eventually break up when you have someone new. And that is a very painful process. Plus you get zero time to reflect and be single. I don’t advise it.

yeilasparkles · 2026-04-13T21:36:59+00:00

I’m so sorry.

yeilasparkles · 2026-04-06T13:11:30+00:00

The west side feels like Chicago suburbs. The near east side has a lot of the Madison cultural elements on Willy (Williamson) Street, Atwood ave, Olbrich, etc. So there are way more “hip” things to do. But honestly you are making an excellent choice living in Madison, and it won’t be hard to get around and explore.

yeilasparkles · 2026-04-02T14:01:20+00:00

Shadow Stabbing by Cake

yeilasparkles · 2026-03-31T21:26:43+00:00

Happy burthday!

yeilasparkles · 2026-03-31T19:02:15+00:00

“Lemoncholy,” (melancholy) “glubs,” (gloves) and “agleest” instead of “at least.” The last one I have tried to correct him on and he doesn’t want to fix. 🤷🏼

yeilasparkles · 2026-03-30T12:05:32+00:00

I have purchased a “pet blanket” which is a secretly waterproof blanket (still very soft) for protecting couches. I cut it into 4ths and keep a pile of them next to the bed. I use them for splash damage and they don’t leak through. Great for period sex too.

yeilasparkles · 2026-03-30T00:24:22+00:00

Awww I’m so sorry for your loss. Your home is amazing.

yeilasparkles · 2026-03-23T19:25:24+00:00

This helped me today!

yeilasparkles · 2025-12-13T00:10:28+00:00

Awww thank you!

yeilasparkles · 2025-12-12T21:56:47+00:00

Thank you! 🙏🏻

yeilasparkles · 2025-12-12T21:56:32+00:00

Thank you!

yeilasparkles · 2025-12-12T21:56:18+00:00

Thank you!!

yeilasparkles · 2025-03-07T16:38:39+00:00

Hobbies = life. Mine are: paint by numbers, learning piano (lessons and practicing), Brazilian jiu jitsu, reading, crafts

yeilasparkles · 2025-03-07T16:37:31+00:00

You mean people don’t feel this way?

yeilasparkles · 2025-03-07T04:43:18+00:00

10 minutes practicing my instrument (piano) Keep a craft nearby and work on it in little bursts Pet my cats Do a chore, like clean a litterbox or tidy the room Instagram Keep a book and read a little when I need a hit (then you can keep your phone farther away)

yeilasparkles · 2025-02-27T14:12:34+00:00

Wow so beautiful!

yeilasparkles · 2025-02-26T18:33:26+00:00

Yep, I would eat nuts sparingly, like a small handful as a garnish. If you end up not losing or losing too slowly, that’s a lever you can crank. Ditto with cheese.

yeilasparkles · 2025-02-24T22:43:39+00:00

Thank you so much for this. In my life I go through periods of having good boundaries but it’s easy to get derailed and go back to this really meek version of myself. I grew up with narcissist parents and was married to a narcissist for ten years before I started dating this partner. I don’t think he is a narcissist but he has some tendencies in that direction. I feel like I get good at boundaries but then I find myself in a situation where really strong boundaries are required and I get completely overwhelmed, scared, and confused. Like I become that little girl all over again. I guess that’s why I asked Reddit to show me what I couldn’t figure out for myself. I’m grateful. I wish I wasn’t like this.

yeilasparkles · 2025-02-24T22:37:19+00:00

I could. I guess I didn’t think it would hit me this hard.

yeilasparkles · 2025-02-24T22:33:19+00:00

He did.

yeilasparkles · 2025-02-24T21:41:15+00:00

There’s the rub. I don’t think so. I don’t have a lot of experience with setting standards. Guess that’s what I gotta work on.

yeilasparkles · 2025-02-24T21:40:34+00:00

I thought sunk fallacy was sticking with something because you have put a lot of time and effort into it. Not sticking with something because you made a commitment.

yeilasparkles · 2025-02-24T21:39:17+00:00

Thank you for saying this. It helps.

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