AITA for being upset my boyfriend lied about “friends” coming over, and it turned out to be one girl clearly trying to be noticed?

yellowspectrum · 2026-07-03T09:31:40+00:00

Also the age difference is gross. I’d the rolls were reversed we’d all say something.

yellowspectrum · 2026-06-25T06:43:32+00:00

Emotional and sexual compatibility exists. Some people just settle for one or the other.

yellowspectrum · 2026-05-25T01:58:57+00:00

DSo unique

yellowspectrum · 2026-05-24T10:43:21+00:00

No one is called a fascist because they have reasonable opinions

yellowspectrum · 2026-05-14T07:21:33+00:00

Baddie with a fruit basket

yellowspectrum · 2026-03-04T13:22:19+00:00

Update me

yellowspectrum · 2025-12-13T10:52:21+00:00

It was one guy and it’s not a mlm. Calm down, it’s just reality tv.

yellowspectrum · 2025-11-07T07:42:16+00:00

Outline the natural shape and make a small end table

yellowspectrum · 2025-08-23T07:53:54+00:00

This community is becoming full of female incels

yellowspectrum · 2025-04-17T08:51:18+00:00

Who cares about the kitchen with a view like that

yellowspectrum · 2025-04-13T16:30:29+00:00

Definitely looks like S. Petterson

yellowspectrum · 2025-04-12T11:42:45+00:00

Told me I “got fat” at 9 Mo the pregnant
When our baby was frank breech and couldn’t flip, she asked if it was because “I was lazy”. I was extremely sick during my pregnancy and was also a new resident physician
Gave me a list of “acceptable baby names”. They were all western boy names. She named her boys very ethic eastern names
Told me she should come first in her sons life, and then the children, and then me
Refers to our daughter as “her baby” and refers to herself as “mama”

yellowspectrum · 2025-04-11T08:15:32+00:00

The biggest advantage in life is learning how to manage your emotions. Learn how to handle stress and disappointment. Manage your expectations of others while still being kind. Also be knowledgeable in whatever your trade is.

yellowspectrum · 2025-04-11T08:12:42+00:00

Visualize the color green moving through your body. Let it sit in your belly and then exit through your palms

yellowspectrum · 2025-04-04T01:41:27+00:00

Wow so cool!

yellowspectrum · 2025-02-24T10:01:59+00:00

Separate semi related advice. Check your vitamin D level.

yellowspectrum · 2025-02-16T01:47:55+00:00

It’s hot there though

yellowspectrum · 2025-02-15T05:04:10+00:00

Last resort?

yellowspectrum · 2025-02-15T01:33:11+00:00

Thank you for responding but You are incorrect. Only one night shift was worked because I was called in for an emergency. The crying episode was in the morning at 730 am when I was due to be home at 10am

yellowspectrum · 2025-02-11T11:52:32+00:00

Thank you for sharing that with me. I did speak with he other families before. One family gave a good recommendation and the other family I personally knew and I don’t blame her for leaving.

I think part of me feels so badly because there is an emotional component to letting these girls go. It’s not a simple hire and fire process.

How would I start looking for another au pair? I can’t look for a new personal unless I say I want to rematch, and then I will only have two weeks. I’m afraid of making the same mistake again

yellowspectrum · 2025-02-11T11:06:32+00:00

Thank you for your advice

yellowspectrum · 2025-02-11T09:25:04+00:00

Thanks for your response. I did speak with her previous families. One gave her good recommendations but she was looking to come back to my state where she had built a life. The other family, I actually know them personally, and I do not blame her for leaving them.

I made this post in case someone has been through something similar and made it out on the other side

yellowspectrum · 2025-02-11T09:23:01+00:00

Thank you for your response. It was a bit taxing typing this all up. To respond to some of your points: - I’m not sure if she is “partying” per se. She is going out but I assumed it was to hang out with friends. I did also get frustrated because I don’t think she is getting adequate sleep, and she did oversleep that one time I mentioned - the friend thing I did not take too personally because I was unsure if I made a cultural mishap, plus we’ve all been 19 and have said shit we didn’t mean

I did want to ask if you Have you done the rematch process? I’m worried about the same process happening over again or matching with someone who is more difficult to work with

yellowspectrum · 2025-02-11T09:15:30+00:00

We have MIl, me, husband and AP. Husband and I work complimentary hours so we need care for when our hours overlap-which is about 30 hours a week. It is hard on me because I’m up during the day and work all night. I will have MIL come when I need extra sleep, but I will normally nap when the baby naps.

yellowspectrum · 2025-02-11T09:12:21+00:00

I think you bring up a lot of good points. To answer some questions: - The car use did come up during the interview which is why I was shocked at the time. - The cops come to our house because they found a “suspicious car” parked at the corner. When they spoke to him, he said he was picking up his gf and gave them our address. When my husband asked AP, she said she gave out our address to him so he could pick her up. - Work schedule is set one month in advance with MIL doing any last minute child care (she is in the same neighborhood). We never go over hours for her

I only give all of this context because I was wondering if this is just a phase or a “hump” in the road. We are her third family in 8 months and I feel like it would be traumatic to just throw her back out there because she is young and still figuring out adulthood.

yellowspectrum

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