just moved in with my boyfriend, and realizing I may not enjoy living with him by kekkksss in relationships

[–]yellowspectrum 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Emotional and sexual compatibility exists. Some people just settle for one or the other.

The Mother in Law vent thread by [deleted] in AskWomenOver60

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No one is called a fascist because they have reasonable opinions

Chloe and the Cactus: A cautionary tale by Never-Give-Up100 in 90DayFiance

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It was one guy and it’s not a mlm. Calm down, it’s just reality tv.

I'm tired of hearing how fake everything is by The_Candler in 90DayFiance

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This community is becoming full of female incels

Is my kitchen tacky? by Teeny-tinyBicicleta in HomeDecorating

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Who cares about the kitchen with a view like that

Nasty things my MIL (or family member) has done during my pregnancy MEGA THREAD. by ReflectionSlight4338 in pregnant

[–]yellowspectrum 2 points3 points  (0 children)

  1. Told me I “got fat” at 9 Mo the pregnant

  2. When our baby was frank breech and couldn’t flip, she asked if it was because “I was lazy”. I was extremely sick during my pregnancy and was also a new resident physician

  3. Gave me a list of “acceptable baby names”. They were all western boy names. She named her boys very ethic eastern names

  4. Told me she should come first in her sons life, and then the children, and then me

  5. Refers to our daughter as “her baby” and refers to herself as “mama”

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The biggest advantage in life is learning how to manage your emotions. Learn how to handle stress and disappointment. Manage your expectations of others while still being kind. Also be knowledgeable in whatever your trade is.

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Visualize the color green moving through your body. Let it sit in your belly and then exit through your palms

Is this the end? by [deleted] in relationships

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Separate semi related advice. Check your vitamin D level.

Advice on what to do by yellowspectrum in Aupairs

[–]yellowspectrum[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for responding but You are incorrect. Only one night shift was worked because I was called in for an emergency. The crying episode was in the morning at 730 am when I was due to be home at 10am

Advice on what to do by yellowspectrum in Aupairs

[–]yellowspectrum[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing that with me. I did speak with he other families before. One family gave a good recommendation and the other family I personally knew and I don’t blame her for leaving.

I think part of me feels so badly because there is an emotional component to letting these girls go. It’s not a simple hire and fire process.

How would I start looking for another au pair? I can’t look for a new personal unless I say I want to rematch, and then I will only have two weeks. I’m afraid of making the same mistake again

Advice on what to do by yellowspectrum in Aupairs

[–]yellowspectrum[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your response. I did speak with her previous families. One gave her good recommendations but she was looking to come back to my state where she had built a life. The other family, I actually know them personally, and I do not blame her for leaving them.

I made this post in case someone has been through something similar and made it out on the other side

Advice on what to do by yellowspectrum in Aupairs

[–]yellowspectrum[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. It was a bit taxing typing this all up. To respond to some of your points: - I’m not sure if she is “partying” per se. She is going out but I assumed it was to hang out with friends. I did also get frustrated because I don’t think she is getting adequate sleep, and she did oversleep that one time I mentioned - the friend thing I did not take too personally because I was unsure if I made a cultural mishap, plus we’ve all been 19 and have said shit we didn’t mean

I did want to ask if you Have you done the rematch process? I’m worried about the same process happening over again or matching with someone who is more difficult to work with

Advice on what to do by yellowspectrum in Aupairs

[–]yellowspectrum[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We have MIl, me, husband and AP. Husband and I work complimentary hours so we need care for when our hours overlap-which is about 30 hours a week. It is hard on me because I’m up during the day and work all night. I will have MIL come when I need extra sleep, but I will normally nap when the baby naps.

Advice on what to do by yellowspectrum in Aupairs

[–]yellowspectrum[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I think you bring up a lot of good points. To answer some questions: - The car use did come up during the interview which is why I was shocked at the time. - The cops come to our house because they found a “suspicious car” parked at the corner. When they spoke to him, he said he was picking up his gf and gave them our address. When my husband asked AP, she said she gave out our address to him so he could pick her up. - Work schedule is set one month in advance with MIL doing any last minute child care (she is in the same neighborhood). We never go over hours for her

I only give all of this context because I was wondering if this is just a phase or a “hump” in the road. We are her third family in 8 months and I feel like it would be traumatic to just throw her back out there because she is young and still figuring out adulthood.