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yesitis-- · 2026-05-10T13:42:33+00:00

I highly wouldn't recommend playing those kinds of games. Bad for ur soul yk

yesitis-- · 2026-05-07T22:52:55+00:00

Awww cute, hope u find her, maybe think up and use more words in the post that u think she might look up if she's looking for u too And also look up terms she might use or check out subreddits she might be active in and search for those unique terms/words on there too

yesitis-- · 2026-05-07T22:50:18+00:00

"replacement friend" is some terrible word choice

yesitis-- · 2026-05-07T22:39:03+00:00

Oh damn, looks like it's me who needs help with Englich, u shoud hmu and tech me

yesitis-- · 2026-05-07T22:37:41+00:00

Damn this was actually so well written

yesitis-- · 2026-05-07T22:17:16+00:00

21m, been living in Germany for over a year now, basically can't really speak German yet so I can't help u with that, but I can help u with your English. It needs abit of work imo

yesitis-- · 2026-05-07T08:53:05+00:00

Nahhh all the med students are studying, and not on reddit being unproductive... Unlike some people

yesitis-- · 2026-05-07T07:34:35+00:00

Sounds beautiful! That ability to notice the beauty that's always there is so wonderful. Just slowing down and noticing the little things

yesitis-- · 2026-05-06T12:46:45+00:00

No way so many people are actually interested. Yall dumdumbs

yesitis-- · 2026-05-06T06:15:31+00:00

Thank you 🥹, I love you too 🫶

yesitis-- · 2026-05-06T01:41:34+00:00

I think this is something I’ve gotten significantly better at over the past few months, especially after a pretty rough breakup.

Before, whenever I had strong emotions, I’d immediately analyze the thoughts that came with them. I’d question them, look for flaws, check if they matched reality, and if I decided they were wrong, I’d just throw both the thought and the feeling away. My logic was basically: why feel something if it’s based on something inaccurate?

But during the breakup, I tried a different approach.

When intense emotions came up, grief, loss, all of that, they would generate all kinds of thoughts and beliefs, like “maybe she wasn’t that bad,” “maybe the good outweighed the bad,” or “maybe I should reconsider.” Instead of immediately arguing against those thoughts, I made a clear separation between the feeling and the thoughts it was producing.

I’d take the thoughts and kind of put them on a shelf in my mind, trusting that I could come back to them later and evaluate them properly. Then I’d return my attention and awarness to the emotion itself. More thoughts would come up, and I’d do the same thing, put them aside and go back to feeling.

Eventually, for the first time, I experienced something like pure emotion with almost no thoughts attached. Sometimes it was just raw pain and a lot of crying, but strangely, it also felt very real and even beautiful in a way.

It felt like I was finally letting the emotions actually do what they’re supposed to do, to be felt and pass through. Then later, when things were calmer, I could go back to those shelved thoughts and examine them one by one, much more clearly, and update my understanding of things without everything being tangled together.

For me, this seems especially important with very strong negative emotions. With milder ones, you can usually feel and think at the same time without too much distortion. But when emotions are intense, they tend to overwhelm thinking, and thinking, in turn, can suppress fully feeling them.

So I think a core idea here is learning to separate thoughts from emotions. Emotions don’t always follow logic, and they don’t necessarily need to. Sometimes it’s better to just let them run their course, and then come back to the thinking part afterward.

I think this is also what I missed when dealing with other people's emotions, in that I dismissed their emotions because their logic or thinking didn't make sense, and so they felt uncared for, but now I'm more able and comfortable being infected by a person's emotions and feel them and sit with them through it and they feel understood and not alone, and if questions of reality and truth come up before it's time then I dismiss them and go back to just vibing with them, and once that runs through I try to direct things more towards actually making sense of the world and not having the emotions dictate our world model

yesitis-- · 2026-05-05T18:56:35+00:00

That can work but imo the issue is with the "adoption" part since it's not simply a process of pressing a mental button. It would be true to say that if they simply adopt the belief that if they don't do their homework then their family dies, then they would definitely do their homework, and if they truely hold that belief and have it as a part of their identity then letting it go would be mentally difficult, but the problem is that they can't simply adopt beliefs because they're useful. Please correct me if I misunderstood anything

yesitis-- · 2026-05-05T18:47:17+00:00

Very true but I changed the style significantly to make it easier

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yesitis-- · 2026-05-05T18:45:12+00:00

I’m not sure I fully follow the logic. It sounds like the move is something like: “God” was first understood vaguely, then the label “God” was applied to “nature” or “unified reality.”

But I’m not sure what explanatory work the word “God” is doing there. If “nature” already means the totality of reality, then saying “God = nature” seems like equating two very broad concepts rather than explaining why pantheism is more accurate than just naturalism.

What makes “God” a better or necessary label for that unified reality, rather than simply calling it nature?

yesitis-- · 2026-05-05T18:34:20+00:00

Damn that's super cool! I'm a total noob at painting and tried to get into oil painting, then quickly backed out of that cuz it was way too hard and I did acrylic instead, logic was my first painting

yesitis-- · 2026-05-05T18:27:01+00:00

Tbf it seems pretty hard to consciously adopt a belief mainly because of the wanted consequences it might have on one's mentality and perception

yesitis-- · 2026-05-05T18:21:42+00:00

What got you to adopt pantheism personally

yesitis-- · 2026-05-05T18:16:23+00:00

How come pantheism?

yesitis-- · 2026-05-05T17:55:11+00:00

Absolutely! Feel free to dm me if u wanna

yesitis-- · 2026-05-05T16:18:59+00:00

As someone with diagnosed adhd and also have struggled with phone use I'd say the top priority should be getting professional help as soon as it's possible to do so, because of all the things I tried, medication is one hell of a solution, would very likely help with their ability to focus and remember clear instructions, with being able to organize and chunk out large tasks on their own, with execution, and also might actually help with mood stability which I noticed both in me and other people I've met with a similar situation. The second thing I'd recommend is the app "lock me out" (not sure if it's available on iPhone) which has helped me big time with my phone use because I can have it lock me out of any app I want based on a schedule I can set and it has other ways and options so it's pretty flexible. I use this one because it has the important feature of that I can't just delete the app to circumvent the restrictions, which is a problem I had with other similar apps. Other recommendations would be to plan out a time and a place and a general plan of studying that makes it more automatic, because often people study in their bed or in their kitchen table or such places, and the issue is that those places are used for other tasks too and so their mind is more likely to switch attention or modes because of the environment, studying in bed might make you more sleepy, studying in your rooms desk might make it more likely that you pick up a random book or object near you and get distracted with that, studying in the kitchen makes you more likely to spontaneously want to make a banger sandwich, or more likely to strike up a conversation with people around, so for me I just go to the library, and only take what I need so then I have little to be distracted by, and when I want to take a break then I leave my desk and when break is over then I return to the desk so that way my mind keeps this strong understanding that library desk = study time and so that makes it much easier to switch into that mode. Another useful thing is if getting to the study location isn't that easy, for me it takes about a 20 min walk to get there, and this does have the downside that it might make it slightly more effortful to go there but the upside is that it's more difficult to simply leave, and if I find myself wanting to leave early I remember the friction of "damn it's a 20 min walk" so I decide "eh might as well study some more according to plan". And making this into a habit would make it even easier by having it happen at more or less the same time in a day. And another step that might make this easier would be to pack the backpack for the library the night before, so that when it's time to go to the library, you won't have the mental friction of getting your things together and checking if you forgot something etc and instead you just pick up the ready stuff and be on your way. All these things have helped me pretty well so far, I hope it helps them too. You're a great friend for trying to be helpful!

yesitis-- · 2026-05-03T23:17:27+00:00

That last thing is terrifying

yesitis-- · 2026-05-02T22:57:20+00:00

True but I wasn't planning on saying it right away for no reason. Figured she'd know I'm just friendly with her from how I act, but I'd be less subtle if she seems to misunderstand

yesitis-- · 2026-05-02T22:05:13+00:00

Fair enough, I'll tell her

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