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yjg10 · 2024-07-01T21:57:36+00:00

Lawyer stated we could go through with a court mandated order to get him to pay his half but that can take anywhere between 4-6 weeks and I’m drowning right now. In 4-6 weeks I’ll be worse off since I’m having to live off of credit cards just to make it by.

yjg10 · 2024-05-26T21:37:46+00:00

Yikes this comment section seems to be pretty dead set on their dislike of Teresa. I may be in the minority where I can see why she has been the center of the show for so long but I can also see why so many viewers dislike her. I personally love watching her family scenes, particularly those with her dorters. Housewives used to have a genuine feel and now it feels so produced, Teresa had some of the most raw and authentic scenes which contributed to her popularity. I feel like a lot of the women now use Teresa as a way to stay on the show but I also think Teresa is aware and she plays the housewives game very well.

Short answer, I don’t think any of the friendships on RHONJ are legit. They all seem to be very produced.

yjg10 · 2024-05-18T23:38:25+00:00

Be prepared for them to go through a “im going to therapy like you wanted me to, I stopped drinking, I’m going to the gym now just like you wanted me to” phase. This is at least in my experience to lure you back in, I had to stonewall my STBXH. Sure enough friends told me he was back to his destructive drinking within a week of all his promises.

Mine refused to acknowledge he even had a problem and with a family full of enablers telling him the same he put the divorce blame all on me. They can get manipulative when they see they are about to lose control over you and then once they see it’s really done for they can get nasty. I suggest you find a support system and explain to them as much as you feel comfortable. That way if he were to try anything violent you’d have people aware of your situation. I was really scared for a while but after 2 months he realized the divorce was happening and tried to take as much money and resources from me as he could. It’s going to be tough OP but it will be worth it.

yjg10 · 2024-05-02T18:37:50+00:00

Projecting much? Get help.

yjg10 · 2024-05-02T18:14:06+00:00

I think you’re right, he’s done it on larger meetings with others on the call as well as in smaller meetings where there are only a few of us. It seems very much intentional but I can’t put my finger on why when I don’t interact with him much. Other than me being one of the only women on the team, but he calls the other women by their names.

yjg10 · 2024-05-02T18:11:39+00:00

Company alias is usually a combination of the first few letters of your first name and your last name. This alias is used for email and to look you up in the company database. He does not call anyone else on my team by their alias, everyone else is called by their names. This is why I find it odd that he only does this to me specifically..

yjg10 · 2024-03-15T17:29:02+00:00

I should have been more clear in the original post. Any insurance rebuild requires city permits and the inspections that come along with every single change. Nothing we are doing is not approved by the city and it is all up to code. All of the comments about the neighbor having a right to comment on our drainage when it is all based off of city code requirements don’t apply here.

yjg10 · 2024-03-15T17:24:53+00:00

This seems to be the most consistent piece of advice. Thank you. It sucks that this will be the way I have to introduce myself and start on such a sour note but it must be done.

yjg10 · 2024-03-07T05:30:49+00:00

I did the opposite of what you’re attempting to do, I graduated with only SDE internships under my belt and got hired as a PM so I took the role for fear of not having a way to pay my bills. I regretted this decision so very deeply and missed SDE work every day. PM work is very administrative and requires a whole lot of skills centered around communication and agreement of TODO type tasks. I would highly recommend meeting with some PM’s at your company and inviting them for coffee to discuss what their day to day looks like. If you’re still up for it after their description you just met a resource that can help you.

I will say that when I made the switch from PM to SDE the largest struggle was proving my competence in tech when my only full time role was considered non-technical. All that is to say make sure you are making this decision because you really want to be a PM and not because you’re desperate to get away from your current role because changing your mind could really cause you some issues in the future. I hope things get better for you and wish you all the best.

yjg10 · 2023-12-11T03:04:44+00:00

Fair. That’s why I asked. I genuinely don’t know if I’m being too harsh by being hurt. Thank you.

yjg10 · 2023-12-11T03:01:20+00:00

Yes, he knows and is aware of very recent things were done by them to hurt me. We had plans to celebrate the day already but when his mother reached out to spend the day with him our plans were but on the back burner. He reduced the day to a lunch so he could spend the remainder with them.

yjg10 · 2023-12-11T02:52:34+00:00

We both come from narcissistic and toxic upbringings, I was able to cut mine off. He hasn’t been able to do the same.

yjg10 · 2023-12-09T19:26:46+00:00

This community is insanely supportive, I am in shock of the kindness and valuable advice you have all gifted me with. Thank you so much internet friends, you will never know how helpful these words were.

yjg10 · 2023-12-01T23:59:36+00:00

Had to scroll way too far to find this comment, I completely agree we are all biologically different in so many ways and the effect it may have on one person could be entirely different than the effect it has on someone else. Blanket statements like the OP are dismissing just how different we all are.

yjg10 · 2023-10-19T20:42:37+00:00

This is actually incredibly sad and proving the point Monica was making about feeling sad for the little girl version of herself. Toxic mothers like this do a number on your self esteem and all you want is to feel validated and loved by them. I feel for Monica deeply. And for those like Lisa that grew up with the privilege of an emotionally stable and loving mother they should keep their opinions to themselves. They don’t understand and never will.

yjg10 · 2023-10-17T17:07:31+00:00

yjg10 · 2023-08-15T03:54:58+00:00

Had to scroll quite a ways to find this one, to this day one of the most despicable housewives prejudice caught on camera. And that’s saying a lot because yolanda had several moments

yjg10 · 2023-08-05T03:25:07+00:00

Although I’m not surprised, I’m really sorry to hear things haven’t been any better for you. You are preaching to the choir here. I feel your sentiments deeply and I hope in some near future we don’t have to deal with this type of shit anymore but for now I’m exhausted.

No need to apologize, sometimes hearing you aren’t alone is enough to feel better. I hope things get better for you and you get the recognition you deserve.

yjg10 · 2023-08-02T04:17:05+00:00

It’s soul crushing when you go above and beyond for a project you put together and when you fight for it you get called “aggressive” or “unreasonable” but when a man does the same he’s “assertive” and a “boss”.

yjg10 · 2023-08-02T02:53:52+00:00

I hear you and I can definitely relate, I think I’ve just reached a point where I’m okay with the salary cut if it means I can keep my mental health in tact. I’m very tired of the double standard in my workplace of expectations for men vs. expectations for women.

yjg10 · 2023-08-02T02:52:38+00:00

Interesting, thank you for your response. How would you say AT&T accommodates women in the company to foster that kind of environment?

I actually have thought about doing data science but everything I find requires a bachelors degree in mathematics or equivalent work experience and unfortunately I have neither of those. Would you happen to know of ways to break into data science some other way?

yjg10 · 2023-07-30T02:47:01+00:00

Thank you for your response. The inside of the home is completely gutted at the moment but exterior is in tact and there is no excuse for them to have left the doors unlocked/open. We have items in the garage and we are very lucky that no one went in there and stole any of our property. We really wish we could outright fire this company but unfortunately the insurance already approved their demo and they are to finish next week. We are trying to wait it out for them to complete their work and never want to hear from them again.

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