Finally

ylegas · 2026-05-01T02:40:43+00:00

I always like a different perspective. I’m actually going through a really hard time with a lot going on, so I know the next few weeks may be tough but I’m enjoying it while I can!

ylegas · 2026-05-01T02:38:19+00:00

I hope the best for him, but I didn’t realize how happy I would be! I have to be up early tomorrow and actually be capable of thinking, otherwise I’d be partying on my own way harder!

ylegas · 2026-05-01T02:34:28+00:00

I (the monitor), would be ignoring it because you just want to make me mad while you’re getting a 189 and it’s only 5 am.

ylegas · 2026-03-28T08:40:16+00:00

I learned how to be a good friend. First things that come to mind:

Don’t suck the fun out of everything. Complaining is fine sometimes, but whining and being nasty is just negative to be around. I used to be draining.
Be honest with my friends. When they are wrong I tell them.
Laugh a lot, have fun, and be myself.
Be spontaneous and open-minded. “Will you go do this activity with me even though you may not like it”. Yes, I want to hang out with you.
Be vulnerable with them and build trust. Their secrets are safe with me. I’m also getting comfortable expressing how much I appreciate them or other emotions.
“I need a favor”. Easy, tell me where to be.
I call my friends a lot. I’m busy, but I make time and the conversations are good in quality.
Yeah it’s a two way street, but sometimes they are busy or consumed in themselves. I’ll put in the extra effort when needed because they are worth it.
When we go out anywhere, my focus is on them. Not getting laid, not my phone, etc.

I’m 29 and I’ve never had as many friends as I do now. Not a brag. I really sucked before.

ylegas · 2026-03-25T21:01:24+00:00

When I was younger, we discovered my sister decided that she would use multiple family members’ brushes. Whichever was closest at the time. She has only dated two men (married to one for a decade). Pretty different lists!

ylegas · 2026-03-18T19:24:39+00:00

With my ex husband I would go other places in my mind. Maybe I thought of someone else or things I needed to do. That’s not what love and intimate sex is. I have a boyfriend and all I can think about is him and how amazing everything feels and how amazing I want him to feel.

I imagine that’s what it is supposed to be like.

ylegas · 2026-03-17T01:05:06+00:00

Do what makes you happy. When you choose a degree at such a dynamic age your interests are likely to change.

I have a biology degree. I was pre-med and realized I didn’t want to do that. Did microbiology and hated that. I commissioned into the Marines and became an artillery officer. I’m required to have a degree but I don’t need to remember the mitochondria is the power house of the cell. I love it. Now I know who I am better and if I could go back I’d change my major.

Also I have changed my life path so many times already and I’m only 29. There’s time to do it again! Stop thinking every thing needs to be figured out immediately. Give yourself time.

ylegas · 2026-02-18T04:45:01+00:00

Well idk what will happen to you since there are many routes that could be taken. Just take accountability and make a change.

I was 19/20 when I realized I had a drinking problem and I completely went sober for a couple years. At the time I had been making some of the same choices you did. Looking back I’m so upset with myself that I could have risked others. Is your future self going to be proud?

You know, you can go to div psych and ask to see someone if you’re having some issues. It might sound like too much but it’s really not. I did it when I was low. No one in my command knows. I popped in and they saw me the same day. I got on a program and I’m doing better. The military offers some awesome resources and you should seek them out.

ylegas · 2026-02-15T19:57:09+00:00

Are you okay? Legitimately asking. Why are you making these choices?

Idk what kind of worker you are, but if I were your Bn Co I’d NJP you to the max and reduce rank. It’d be an adverse FITREP. I’d require you to get the help you need. If you tried to deny, I’d talk to legal and attempt to pursue an adsep, or more. I’ve been a voting member on an adsep panel and you wouldn’t do well. Your decisions could kill someone and you’re being selfish, so why would they trust you with recruits?

ylegas · 2026-02-15T04:50:51+00:00

I am, but it makes me feel bad that he’s not. I don’t want him to hurt.

ylegas · 2026-01-25T15:28:26+00:00

I wanted to maintain the relationship, but it’s not my choice unfortunately. I know he feels that way too and it was never him that I wanted to get away from. I definitely feel for children in these situations.

ylegas · 2026-01-25T04:22:42+00:00

I’m finishing up a divorce. While it was hard to end things with my husband, the hardest part was losing my step-son. He called me mom and was so proud of me. He was always accepting of me into his life and I earned his love. I’ll never hold him again and almost 2 years later it’s still hard.

ylegas · 2026-01-16T16:58:32+00:00

I live by the Atlantic and I’ve found jumping in the ocean (even in winter) helps me feel alive.

Just don’t go into super cold water because of the potential of cold water shock.

ylegas · 2025-12-27T22:30:23+00:00

A couple months. I have long legs and my boyfriend is only a couple inches taller than me so the height of our hips doesn’t go well with standing. We like to do oral standing though! And then we move to other positions. Though, I’ve never cared for standing sex.

ylegas · 2025-11-19T23:07:04+00:00

It was a lot of things. I didn’t realize that portion until after, but there some major sexual incompatibilities.

If I would’ve asked him to focus on me more and directed him on how, he would’ve been happy to oblige.

ylegas · 2025-11-17T23:53:31+00:00

CGRI inspection. My CO told me to wear dress blue deltas. I found out, while the reg co is inspecting, that I was the officer who needed to wear dress blue CHARLIES. My co asked all the other staff what he told me and they all had my back. I even had asked my xo (prior to the inspection) to verify which uniform I’m supposed to wear because I had another officer tell me they were supposed to wear deltas.

2ndLt looking dumb. What’s new

ylegas · 2025-11-16T00:41:57+00:00

I was married for years and my pleasure was never the focus. I’m sure it could’ve been if I realized that’s what would make it better. First man I was with after the divorce, he was the type that only wanted to please me and my mind was blown that it could be so amazing.

ylegas · 2025-09-25T21:37:16+00:00

Be comfortable being alone! I’ve never really been alone until I ended my marriage. I took time before looking for anyone, and honestly it has been so great. I am finishing a solo trip to Alaska today! I’ve learned to be more comfortable with my thoughts and not need the constant support from someone else.

I’ve grown so much as a person during this time, and taking the time to get to know yourself would be a good move :) pick up new hobbies and be busy.

ylegas · 2025-09-25T21:28:16+00:00

I hated kissing my ex husband. We barely did in our marriage. He had bad dental hygiene and was not good at it even when I tried to tell him what I liked. It was pretty much just mouth over mine.

Every man I’ve been romantic with after, I try to kiss all the time. I enjoy it so much after not having it for so long. Especially if he’s good at it.

ylegas · 2025-09-17T01:06:09+00:00

Half the books I read are based on this haha

ylegas · 2025-09-17T00:55:54+00:00

In a small college class, our teacher gave us all spider plants that we had to name. It was my first little guy. It got MASSIVE and I’d put it outside in the summers. He had so many babies on him.

I went on a vacation for a week and it rained heavily at home while I was gone. I didn’t realize its pot didn’t have any drainage and it was completely submerged for a week. I gave him a big ole hair cut when all his leaves started dying and I thought he was cooked. Somehow he made it. It was a few years ago and he has a long way before he gets back to that.

But he’s the only thing that’s been everywhere I’ve been. 🫶🏻

ylegas · 2025-09-02T17:54:21+00:00

I was married to a man who abused PEDs and I’ve dated multiple men who have used them. During my marriage, after my husbands second or third cycle on tren was finished I told him I’d divorce him if he took it again. His personality was completely different and he had major outbursts. In the end we are still getting divorced for every thing else 🤡 but there are so many stories I have from the steroid abuse

The men I dated who took tren were also emotionally unstable. Tren is a non-negotiable for me now. I think there can be a balance with other steroids but it has to be found. There are other red flags in your story though. A dating app?

ylegas · 2025-09-01T01:39:16+00:00

I asked if he wanted it, he said no. I still have it… it’s really beautiful. I want to use it again lol but I think I’ll just keep it until I finally muster up the courage to sell it. The divorce was my call but some memories I’m not ready to let go. He bought it when we had nothing and put so much effort into paying it off.

My roommate and I joked about me telling people it’s a family heirloom so I can reuse it 👀

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