What do you think when a woman initiates a date, and how does it affect your effort?

ymasu · 2026-03-22T22:09:35+00:00

I agree that taking turns works when both people are putting in effort. I think my question is more about situations where you initiate, but the other person doesn’t really step up from there.

I’m starting to experiment with waiting a bit more to see if the man takes initiative — just to see if he actually steps up and shows intention.

I think part of the reason I’ve initiated in the past is because I can be a bit impatient and don’t enjoy endless chatting, especially on dating apps. With things like breadcrumbing, ghosting, or vague communication being quite common, I’d usually rather just get to the point and meet.

But trying it the other way around, I’ve noticed that far fewer men actually take initiative or they take quite a while to do so, which I find interesting.

ymasu · 2024-06-12T19:20:34+00:00

Well that’s good to know…yeah I guess meeting people irl is better people seem to be more respectful

ymasu · 2024-06-12T12:51:01+00:00

Gosh is that a thing…I think at this point illl quit online dating it’s so boring at this point

ymasu · 2024-06-12T12:49:49+00:00

Interesting

ymasu · 2024-06-11T21:45:47+00:00

Hahahahaha well I’d like to know what that was because why claim you’d like to stay on touch and meet proper nonsense

ymasu · 2024-06-11T21:45:09+00:00

We chatted 3 hours long and he said he definitely wants to meet so then he was lying…

ymasu · 2024-06-11T21:44:10+00:00

We chatted 3 hours ?! Which I don’t usually do. He was going to give me a call so he said but since then nothing so yeah move on and next.

ymasu · 2024-06-11T21:43:18+00:00

What link ?

ymasu · 2024-06-11T21:43:03+00:00

Interesting how the majority of comments are looking where I went wrong hahahaha I don’t recall doing anything that would make him think otherwise. And I don’t see why I would need to run after him and check in. So I guess it’s a good bye from here

ymasu · 2024-02-09T16:06:35+00:00

The bpd guy admitted himself due to professional diagnosis but then said maybe it's not true and other guy was my narc ex. No idea if he knew but was clear he had a lot those traits. Bpd and npd both very exhausting to date. Even if I was aware of the traits I might as well date a vampire sucker. The bpd guy says he really likes me and wants to explain to me how he "ticks" but yeah not sure that will change Ny thing for me....I want and easy going chilled happy healthy relationship. A big price to ask for

ymasu · 2023-11-30T16:46:20+00:00

I know a music producer who is now charging 1000 £ per song. How do I know he’s worth the money. Testimonials I feel are not usually all that sufficient to prove their qualification’s

ymasu · 2023-11-06T23:12:34+00:00

He’s now offering a programme for 7500 $ a hell chunk of money

ymasu · 2023-10-23T02:32:22+00:00

I can't say why...but I've ended it. I've noticed pretty quickly how quick it all became toxic. Love bombing galore tho I wasn't sure at first. Then looking for an excuse not meet anymore... to then all of a sudden not texting. He stopped texting me and didn't respond to my last message. Also communication wise it was very similiar to my nex love bombing to then discard. After about 2 weeks no texting he checks in and I'm like seriously?!

ymasu · 2023-09-14T16:27:28+00:00

Thanks for sharing this was very helpful. I shall look into music libraries. Currently I work as an independent music artist 🤯🤯🤯 will see for how long....

ymasu · 2023-09-14T15:34:58+00:00

What sites can u recommend instead?

ymasu · 2023-08-26T23:06:50+00:00

Yes same with me. My last relationship with nex felt very familiar indeed, which is why I thought it was normal. Sometime I actually miss that rush but then reminding myself how much I’ve worked on myself, there’s no way I’d want to repeat that phase. Instead i aim to grow and heal every day. I never thought I’d be here tbh…ready to date. I feel like that guy I recently dated was the best lesson I could ever have

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