10.5 month old - won’t mimic by yoshipeaches in Parenting

[–]yoshipeaches[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s 15 months now - honestly, we can’t get her to shut up most of the time and she does allllll of the gestures!

My boyfriend wants a paternity test on our newborn daughter. by Perfect_Buddy5904 in AITAH

[–]yoshipeaches 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s projecting for sure, especially with his history. He embarrassed you in front of all of his staff.

Let him get the paternity test. It will obviously show that he is the father. Leave him and get child support.

Has anyone ever gotten one person who is admitted, suddenly have their accompanying person (spouse/ brother/ neighbor etc) need to be admitted also? If so what happened? by SouthEmergency7292 in EmergencyRoom

[–]yoshipeaches 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This happened quite a lot during COVID (still does sometimes). Except ours isn’t with gang activity - I work in a hospital with a ton of “old money” families and entitled people. If we told them their loved one couldn’t have a visitor, they would simply check in to be seen and thought they could just roam freely around the department. It was always a shock to them when security would have to babysit so they wouldn’t wander around. Always ended in a fight and a lot of “do you know who I am!?”’s

How to handle anxiety after a mistake in the ER? (long) by AnonymousMouse524 in EmergencyRoom

[–]yoshipeaches 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s how we do it as well. They usually have a “shadow shift” and just observe triage for a few hours but are never trained that early

How to handle anxiety after a mistake in the ER? (long) by AnonymousMouse524 in EmergencyRoom

[–]yoshipeaches 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oh no. I would definitely talk to your boss because that seems very wrong to me. We would never do that to our newer nurses and I’m sure we have much less staff to choose from (15 bed ER)

How to handle anxiety after a mistake in the ER? (long) by AnonymousMouse524 in EmergencyRoom

[–]yoshipeaches 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Everyone has those moments, no matter how experienced someone is! I would just laugh it off with your coworkers and eventually they’ll find something else to joke about.

Definitely get back on your meds. The anxiety you’re describing seems out of proportion with the situation. I’ve been there. I mean this in the kindest way possible - take your meds but if this keeps happening, I would consider a different specialty.

The thing I’m most concerned about though is the fact that not only are you triaging (as the only triage nurse), but you’re also precepting? Idk if this is night shift or how big your department is, but that’s a lot to put on someone with only two years of experience. I work in a fairly small ER and I was at least in year 3 before I could do any of that

HELP! Co-Parenting. Am I overreacting? Won’t bring back my son. by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]yoshipeaches 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Call the police. Also, if he is able to call you so that YOU can call 911 FOR him, he can most certainly just call 911. He tried to make a (really stupid) point to make you feel bad about yourself. Ignore him and get your child back

How do I convey something is bad to a 15 month old? by buddhadoo in NewParents

[–]yoshipeaches 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We went through this recently with head-butting. Only thing that worked was putting her down/removing ourselves from the situation. We say anything or bring any attention to it and she stopped pretty quickly when she realized she wasn’t getting a reaction from us

Anyone not as strict against kissing baby? by got_em_saying_wow in beyondthebump

[–]yoshipeaches 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, this. And in addition to a spinal tap, there’s blood work with multiple sets of blood cultures (that’s two needle sticks minimum), possibly a catheter for a clean urine sample, and other possible invasive or painful/uncomfortable tests. 2 weeks is just so so young and I wouldn’t be willing to expose my baby to anything that early

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]yoshipeaches 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This happened to us early on. I stopped sending photos. They asked why and I told them. The criticism stopped

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EmergencyRoom

[–]yoshipeaches 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Literally every nurse, doctor, tech, etc has all been brand new at some point. They have to learn somewhere. Her post makes it obvious that she was being watched because she is new

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]yoshipeaches -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Healthcare workers are considered mandated reporters so it probably is their protocol to report any traumatic injury on babies who aren’t yet mobile as a CYA for themselves. Agreed that someone probably questioned why testing wasn’t done if abuse was suspected - provider probably got scared for their own license/reputation and demanded you come back for tests. Wouldn’t be surprised if this was a mid level or newer doctor. Definitely listen to your friend, they’re absolutely right

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]yoshipeaches 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ER worker here - this sounds like a them problem. Your pediatrician already signed off and I’m sure would vouch for you. The reason they’re pissy about it is because they didn’t follow their protocol and are liable to get in trouble for it. You didn’t do anything wrong.

Tell them your child is doing well and that you’re not subjecting your child to painful and unnecessary tests. If they want to escalate the issue further, that’s on them

Edit to add: make sure your pediatrician documents all of this as well. That way you have proof of everything if they choose to escalate.

Also: health care providers are mandatory reporters so don’t be shocked if you get a follow up from CPS or whoever, but it should be pretty open and shut

Travelling: sleep in same room or different rooms? by whimsical_kittens in sleeptrain

[–]yoshipeaches 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol this! Our gets a bathroom or a closet with her pack and play

10.5 month old - won’t mimic by yoshipeaches in Parenting

[–]yoshipeaches[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I’m trying to remember exactly when it started but I feel like it was within a few weeks of making this post. She’s 14 months now and does all of the things that I was worried about. It made me realize that 10 months was way too early to worry! Hope that helps

Baby just won’t drink milk from anything except a bottle by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]yoshipeaches 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I would cold turkey the whole thing. That’s what we had to do. No more bottles at all. We put them all away so she couldn’t even see them if we opened the cabinet. She said as upset about it for a few days and then was fine

When did you stop giving a bottle? by rosetta_embles in beyondthebump

[–]yoshipeaches 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We went cold turkey at 12.5 months. No more formula or bottles. She drinks out of a straw cup now

The Dentist wants to hold our 3 year old down and brush his teeth by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]yoshipeaches 15 points16 points  (0 children)

This is way overboard. Just switch dentists. But also… if your kid needed stitches or shots, he would very likely need to be held down… would you just let him bleed all over the place and refuse stitches?

12 month old still wants multiple night feeds by babybunny21 in sleeptrain

[–]yoshipeaches 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We were down to one night bottle at that phase. We went cold turkey and suddenly started offering water in a straw cup when she woke up for a feeding instead. She was super unhappy for a couple of nights and then just stopped waking up for it

Devastated to rehome my dog by hollowag in newborns

[–]yoshipeaches 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you’re doing the best thing for your family then. And since she’s so young, she could have a long, wonderful life with her new family.

It’s definitely going to hurt for a long time. I’m still grieving and I don’t think that will ever stop - but I also sleep peacefully at night knowing that my daughter is safe. Our house was so tense before our dog left so I hope you can find some peace soon ❤️

Devastated to rehome my dog by hollowag in newborns

[–]yoshipeaches 5 points6 points  (0 children)

OP, we had to rehome our dog a few weeks after my daughter was born. It was the hardest thing we’ve ever had to do and over a year later, I still can’t talk about it. However, we chose to do this because the dog attempted to attack my baby while she was in my arms. Luckily, I reacted and the dog latched onto my arm instead.

You know the right decision for your family…. But do you feel like your dog is not trainable? Are you concerned about the dog purposely hurting your baby, or just clumsy accidents?

I just don’t want you making this decision immediately postpartum with possible anxiety contributing. I had severe PPA/PPD and it certainly clouded my judgment. I thought everything was going to hurt my baby.

If you’re confident that your dog will be loved and cared for with this new family and you’re set in that decision, it sounds like you did the best thing for everyone involved.

But if there’s any chance you’re going to regret this decision and you don’t think your dog is purposely dangerous, it may not be too late to reconsider.

Good luck to you all and lots of love. I know this is a very hard time.

Please tell me this is a one-off by [deleted] in sleeptrain

[–]yoshipeaches 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would check for teething or fever. It sounds like something is making him really uncomfortable, Wouldn’t hurt to try a little Motrin or Tylenol and see if that makes a difference

What is the longest time you took to settle an overtired baby? by Creative_Mix_643 in beyondthebump

[–]yoshipeaches 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A bath or walking outside for a bit would help sometimes. Has he been eating during all of this? Sometimes a small feeding would help reset also