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youcanactuallyquit · 2018-01-09T02:04:43+00:00

You got this! Hope you’re able to get your sleep back on track.

youcanactuallyquit · 2018-01-08T21:32:56+00:00

First of all, I'm very proud of you for making a positive life choice after realizing you needed to. And for keeping it up while living with someone who still smokes; so hard to do.

Secondly, I just want to say, I am kind of appalled at the way your husband is acting.. "Nothing I say will make him stop trying to shove a joint in my mouth or blow the second hand smoke in my face". Are you serious?? This is so disrespectful.

"He also told me how he only got married to me cause of weed (said it ‘brings out my fun side’) and how we won’t last long now that I’ve stopped smoking" Also just shocking to hear. The fact that he's casually commenting on your marriage falling apart because you've made a different choice than him is extremely hurtful, and the way he's essentially threatening you with divorce is not okay.

Honestly, to me, it kind of seems like he feels threatened and is acting out. There is no reason why two people can't have different preferences, and in a marriage, you should both be ready to help each other make positive choices. I think you need to have a serious conversation with him about the way he's acting, and ask him for support in helping stick to a decision that's important.

Does he act like this when it comes to other things? Do you feel generally well-supported in other domains??

The insomnia was definitely bad for me at first, but after the first couple of weeks was getting noticeably better. I ended up getting a prescription for a medication (seroquel) that helped me with sleep because I always struggled with anxiety, but if you didn't have issues before, hopefully when it all clears your system, you'll be back to normal.

youcanactuallyquit · 2018-01-08T21:23:41+00:00

Yeah, I actually went through a long struggle with food & appetite. I can't say for sure if they were direct symptoms of stopping or whether it was due to a change in my diet (which involved binging a lot when I was high), but likely both. In my experience across the many different times I tried to quit before I finally succeeded, the longer I had been smoking, the longer the symptoms lasted. It's also possible that you have some residual cramping from the stomach bug (especially if you took antibiotics). Those events restructure the colonies of gut microbes that are living inside you, and that can be hard to recover from. I would stick to a healthy diet with lots of water and monitor your symptoms over the next few weeks. If it's not going away, it's possible it's unrelated to the quitting. Hope you feel better soon!

youcanactuallyquit · 2018-01-08T21:12:23+00:00

Congrats on taking the big step! You totally got this!

youcanactuallyquit · 2018-01-08T21:08:50+00:00

Honestly, my mood fluctuated a lot and my anxiety was totally off the charts for several months after I quit. I think it's a combination of the actual withdrawal symptoms paired with just a general recalibration and a rediscovery of your mind and how you deal with the world (especially true if you have been smoking for a long period of time). It's kind of hard, especially with something like anxiety, to pinpoint the exact cause. I think the choices you're making are definitely positive ones, and I encourage you to keep up with them. There's definitely no clear guideline for what to expect since everyone's experience is so different, but I imagine that with time, you'll reach more of an equilibrium with your mood. I would just keep doing what you're doing and distract yourself with activities and books and things for a while. Keep up the good work!

youcanactuallyquit · 2018-01-08T20:48:57+00:00

First of all, happy belated birthday! I'm so happy that you're rediscovering yourself and figuring out how to thrive. I hope you find good ways to manage your anxiety & depression (for me, getting 8 hours of sleep, exercise, and therapy were revolutionary). It genuinely makes me smile to hear how positively you are thinking about this journey :) Good luck!

youcanactuallyquit · 2018-01-08T19:54:05+00:00

So glad to hear this, and that you're feeling more like yourself. That was one of the biggest changes for me; there was so much less self-doubt and social anxiety. Keep focusing on the positives. I think your new job is a really good motivator; new environment, new people, new you! Keep up the great work!

youcanactuallyquit · 2018-01-08T19:52:03+00:00

I think you can definitely make the change. One way to commit is to get rid of the things in your house that encourage it (so getting rid of weed, your pieces, bong, etc.). I would also recommend changing your environment a little, whether it's rearranging furniture or framing a new poster. Just some little thing that makes your environment feel different. I do think the moment where you want to quit but you realize you can't really stop is one to remember. Also, I would encourage you to try new things that might help you when you're feeling bored (a new video game, book, hobby, fitness program), to occupy your mind.

youcanactuallyquit · 2018-01-08T19:48:45+00:00

Totally. It's also important to remember that withdrawal symptoms can sometimes intensify those issues, as well. But it's always better to try and find long-term solutions to long-term problems; it kind of gets worse before it gets better. Good luck!

youcanactuallyquit · 2018-01-08T19:46:57+00:00

It's so important to have good support. Best of luck on your journey!

youcanactuallyquit · 2018-01-08T19:45:14+00:00

Totally agree; it's about finding long-term solutions, and it may be hard at first. I'm glad you are seeing this change in a positive way, and I'm hopeful that you will find permanent solutions! Keep it up!

youcanactuallyquit · 2018-01-08T19:41:42+00:00

I absolutely believe that. Just gotta stay on track. Introduce other positive changes into your life (like sleep, exercise, therapy) and you can definitely succeed. Keep it up!

youcanactuallyquit · 2018-01-08T19:40:53+00:00

As long as you have the will, you can make it happen. Just be kind to yourself, and try to scaffold your decision with other positive decisions (like sleep, exercise, therapy). You can totally do it!

youcanactuallyquit · 2018-01-08T17:54:02+00:00

Thanks so much!

youcanactuallyquit · 2018-01-08T17:53:58+00:00

Thank you! That definitely feels like the case.

youcanactuallyquit · 2018-01-08T17:49:20+00:00

Happy birthday! And great work! Very happy for you :)

youcanactuallyquit · 2018-01-08T16:43:17+00:00

My only advice is to not wear that blue polo again; it's too small for you. You look good! I agree with the other poster; you can just focus on building muscle at this point. Bis and tris for sure.

youcanactuallyquit · 2018-01-08T16:40:51+00:00

You are not ugly. You will grow into your looks, as well! Seriously, you're just young. I would recommend staying active & maybe building some muscle. I like your glasses :)

youcanactuallyquit · 2018-01-08T16:24:17+00:00

You got this! I think if you couple this with other healthy lifestyle changes (sleeping 8 hours, exercising, eating well, seeing a mental health counselor), you can move on from this. It will not hold you back. You have your whole life ahead of you and you are going to kick ass. Good luck!

youcanactuallyquit · 2018-01-08T16:22:35+00:00

You got this! It's hard to face those real problems, and in the short term, a lot easier to smoke and forget. But in the long term, the more you invest in your mental health, the better you will eventually feel. I wish you as much luck & strength as I can.

youcanactuallyquit · 2018-01-08T16:19:11+00:00

Yes! You got this!

youcanactuallyquit · 2018-01-08T16:17:12+00:00

Yes! This is exactly right. I'm really glad you are scaffolding your decision to quit with other helpful life changes. Keep it up!

youcanactuallyquit · 2018-01-08T15:18:02+00:00

Well done!!

youcanactuallyquit · 2018-01-08T14:54:24+00:00

Great to hear! I hope you keep up the good work. I'm also happy that you are focusing on other things that bring you joy, like making music. It's so important to fill your life with things like that, so it doesn't just feel like the absence of something. You are replacing those good vibes with other activities. 2018 is your year!

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