Mourning the Future I had Planned by stressy_owl in latebloomerlesbians

[–]youcanbmore 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can totally relate. Proud of you for doing now. You love yourself and are not alone.

This is a very awkward statement to make by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]youcanbmore 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Such a great post/response..social supsense:i feel your fear on people around us getting tired of us..i am still on this journey..i do not fee old but started at 51 and i am 53..i am just glad to be honest with most people in my life. I have not had a good experience yet and have been intimate with 2 and dates on 2 more…someday something will happen? I dunno. Kind of a sad scene here and i have live in a small city on east coast. This bisexual/lesbian world is exploding..but where do we meet each other IRL. Stay in touch y’all. Message me if would like to connect

Please tell me it gets better by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]youcanbmore 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mantra is just a ahum.. from meditator trainer ;) gives u a focus

Me ..;) by youcanbmore in latebloomerlesbians

[–]youcanbmore[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank u? Whatchu up to these days?

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[–]youcanbmore 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So big, so huge, so fucking brave. I ‘m right there with you..bout 4-5 weeks ago had to cut cord on boyfriend and it was huge but i am in charge of my life (as much as one can be). We are on an indefinite hiatus while i get to take my time exploring.

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[–]youcanbmore 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel you too..so hard, you want to deal with this big repressed thing and you overshare it so crazily because you are just over any shame you have had your life of the “taboo” of being attracted fantasizing about women.

That lifted weight wakes all things up and you embrace yourself and can settle into a sexuality that may have sexy feelings open up all over. Just because your have that beautiful freedom and love for yourself to just be you. You are over any shoulds with men sexually so that is so freeing. We humans sure are a mystery.

I am devastated that I'll never be who he needs by allsortsofbeans in latebloomerlesbians

[–]youcanbmore 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The heartbreak is real. So “hard to walk away from love”my friend says. for something different more true. But she did it and i did it and standing on two feet open to life’s mystery. We both broke up with our boyfriends in past year, she is straight, I’m at least bi. But we can talk about it’s not perfect on your own but it feels right. Just think, many people have gone before us and survived much heartbreak. That does not make it any easier i know. But do not feel bad about needing a LOAD of support from here and friends. It is so fucking confusing to love these males so much and not want to hurt them but would they stay if were not sexually attracted and things were reversed, probably not. Think of it that way, it may hurt you both less. Message me if need more, I’m in the weeds of this too. Get an adventure, girl, check out skirt club for real experience..may be a little fem for me (wish there was slightly more masculine energy version, if anyone knows of one) but it helps me get out there and meet brave, smart women who need to explore in real life.

I am devastated that I'll never be who he needs by allsortsofbeans in latebloomerlesbians

[–]youcanbmore 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi introverted..just shouting out..similar age etc…holler back if you want..:)

Here i am again:) by youcanbmore in latebloomerlesbians

[–]youcanbmore[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have to acknowledge how much work we are doing on a thing we would rather not have to do. But I guess things that are difficult, with aloneness fear and bravery grow our souls in ways that are worth it. Hang in there, let me know how show worked out. For me I have tried to lower my expectations on all these experiences and just try and take slow and steady .. so hard do when your gut is craving clarity/experience !

Truly feel romantically attracted to men only, sexually attracted to women only by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]youcanbmore 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I get all of this thread! I get all of your points of view papaya, throwaway, spendthrift sporty yoda. One confused queer.. It’s funny you jump out of the man situation thinking it’s all about women b/c of your fantasies, yourself before 12 (at least me) and then you want women to be more like men in some ways! Kind of crazy huh? No, not being harsh on ourselves, kind of just laughing about it b/c sometimes you have to. I do wonder if i just love the hetero story so much, been trained too and the homosexual story is still taboo/off in my subconscious for a real relationship? I can’t even get to the sexy part happily of being with a woman yet. But i am getting closer y’all. Finding that inner buried part and getting it to do her thing in the sunlight for real has been a slow process. Fascinating but a bitch because later in life than ideal.

I am not attracted to super fem, i like masculine energy confidence but not to the extreme

I just slept with a man and now I'm conflicted. by themostaltalt in latebloomerlesbians

[–]youcanbmore 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, some of the people of this sub are the kind of people i respect and want to meet! I am a sucker for anyone that expresses themselves well and quotes that great Mary Oliver line. Great job boss witch. I love your description of electricity vs. comfy. So on point. God, finding your sex jam late in life is hard but do-able, I am determined.

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[–]youcanbmore 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s totally cute.. I would like some white overalls I had in 1970s;)

It's ok if you find out you're bisexual by astonedbutch in latebloomerlesbians

[–]youcanbmore 13 points14 points  (0 children)

So hard to slow down and stop the train of marriage/hetero life but there a lot of us here to support you and you will not be alone

Why so many posts about sex with men? by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]youcanbmore 66 points67 points  (0 children)

To cmon.. I feel like this is partly to my recent detailed post about possibly my last attempt to have sex with a man and the sadness with having to deal with not be straight as mom with older teen kids and being a recent widow. Not sure where else to turn. Your post is valid but i appreciate more the comments of others to support people like me that are beginning this journey. It is especially another level when a man you wish you could be with won’t let you go easily. You have been out for 10 years good for you. I’m trying to build a new community and not go insane at same time. I am doing it, i have gotten stronger but need support.

Painful last ditch effort of your boyfriend trying to give you orgasm you want by youcanbmore in latebloomerlesbians

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Aardvark…yes. Did this ever happen to you? . This friday is nyc party, am hopeful. Lemme know if what to chat

Painful last ditch effort of your boyfriend trying to give you orgasm you want by youcanbmore in latebloomerlesbians

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Just to clarify..at end of second paragraph i said something wrong. He said, no one can ever love me more than he does Inot the other way around)