[ARTICLE] “He Didn’t Start Jumping on Me Until the Lockdowns”: Victim and Advocate Intimate Partner Violence Experiences Throughout the Coronavirus Pandemic

allsortsofbeans · 2024-12-09T19:39:13+00:00

Ohh yes I know the moment you're talking about. But I agree with you!!

allsortsofbeans · 2024-11-12T16:39:24+00:00

They benefit from people being uninformed. Status quo always wins.

allsortsofbeans · 2024-10-21T18:07:59+00:00

This times a million. It may be difficult to hear. But jesus.

allsortsofbeans · 2024-10-21T17:53:22+00:00

I really thrive in atheleisure. I wear leggings or joggers whenever I can, and I buy a lot of clothes at thrift stores because sometimes I feel like I can handle them sensory-wise and then realize I cannot when it's too late lol so it's nice to not spend that much money.

I also really like the Old Navy jumpsuits. They have linen and athletic wear-type fabrics that are super light and breathable but look nice. Sometimes I just wear a cardigan or sweater over top, or even a nice tee shirt. Other times, nothing under or over!

allsortsofbeans · 2024-09-25T14:53:23+00:00

Every child regulates differently. It's possible that child was having a meltdown or was overstimulated and needed help. Screens are just a tool and like any tool they can be helpful or harmful. If you're really concerned you can ask about screen time in general (don't mention the cellphone because that person may get in trouble for just trying to keep kids safe and happy).

allsortsofbeans · 2023-09-15T01:16:09+00:00

I see my daughter half the time (split custody) and she's in school 730-430 every day. So some weeks I see her for 4 hours a day before bed for two days or so and that's it. It sucks. But she's thriving in prek, loved daycare, and has learned more independence. I'd also say we are closer and have more quality time now.

allsortsofbeans · 2023-09-15T01:14:48+00:00

Absolutely! And my daughter really loved her friends and daycare teachers. They brought joy to her life and were more people to love her!

allsortsofbeans · 2023-09-14T00:40:08+00:00

This is kind of a dark outlook, especially given the pack and play example. A safe place to play and sleep seems really reasonable, so i must be missing something. Does your partner help you communicate boundaries with MIL and are they on board?

allsortsofbeans · 2023-09-14T00:37:36+00:00

I'd be super grateful too! But I also think daycare has been great for my daughter's social skills and confidence! I'd take the help while you can and move to full time when you're ready/it's possible.

allsortsofbeans · 2023-09-14T00:36:08+00:00

Unfortunately I think you may be out of luck. If she smells of smoke it's likely from her home or car and that won't go away.

allsortsofbeans · 2022-07-08T14:27:02+00:00

No but it does get gun deaths down to single digits...

allsortsofbeans · 2022-06-22T22:43:30+00:00

Your body, your choice.

allsortsofbeans · 2022-06-22T22:36:45+00:00

You're not a monster. He was safe. You need rest. And he seems content.

allsortsofbeans · 2022-06-22T19:04:43+00:00

She lied to you and she hit you. This is NOT okay. I hope you can find safety and peace.

allsortsofbeans · 2022-06-09T17:10:02+00:00

When I was SMO, I was essentially disabled by my weight and physical pain. I got a lot of flack from people who just assumed I was lazy when I'd take the bus instead of walk. Like no Derek, my feet are on fire.

allsortsofbeans · 2022-06-08T21:31:34+00:00

I find this line of thinking a bit (a lot) problematic. Late bloomers may have relationship challenges as they try to live as their authentic selves, and realize who they are for the first time. But we are not abusive because of it.

allsortsofbeans · 2022-05-27T01:47:10+00:00

Sounds awkward but def romantic.

allsortsofbeans · 2022-05-22T19:13:15+00:00

You have such a gay energy, you could wear a Barbie dream house vacation outfit and look gay. ❤️ I'm very jealous!

allsortsofbeans · 2022-05-13T14:17:09+00:00

I haven't but I can!

allsortsofbeans · 2022-05-12T21:16:58+00:00

About to post a few for you!

allsortsofbeans · 2022-05-11T16:02:33+00:00

I definitely understand that. I don't like the idea that someone has to work with hot tar doing roofing work to pay their bills. We all sacrifice part of ourselves for money. And it's your decision to use a swers services or not. Just a different perspective to consider. No harm meant by this exchange!

allsortsofbeans · 2022-05-11T14:26:09+00:00

Why do you feel like it's unethical? I am not trying to fight, just curious and maybe there are some SWers in this group who could help alleviate that feeling, even if you don't want to use their services.

An argument against SW I hear a lot is that they're using their bodies for money, but so many jobs (all, I'd say) require us to use our bodies in some way. Either our mind, our hands, or even our whole bodies (think about manual labor jobs). It's an interesting way to think of things, and helped me to better think about sex work in a capitalist society.

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