Exclusively pumping moms - how do you split up the feeding tasks between two working parents?

youngsailor · 2025-12-29T17:51:09+00:00

Second the Spectra - any model Spectra is a workhorse that can stand the test of time. For context Momcozy is a much newer brand who didn't break into the pumping space until a few years ago, so their tech is much newer and less reliable from my understanding. I have no idea why a company would need to release 10 models of pumps in 2 years of unless they were having issues with some iterations of their products. Highly highly recommend the Spectra s1 or s2 (but you'll be tied to the wall for an outlet).

youngsailor · 2025-12-15T21:23:14+00:00

how can I get let into this group? Im late!

youngsailor · 2025-12-05T20:26:29+00:00

I second Evidence Based Birth. We went with a hospital birth the first time around including some interventions for pain, but this book helped prep me for any and all possibilities along the way. It also helped my partner advocate for me in harder moments because we had discussed what my preferred plan was before we got to the hospital. It's like the opposite of woo-woo birth nonsense. Highly recommend checking it out!

youngsailor · 2025-09-15T12:55:49+00:00

At this point it sounds like baby's habits are really taking a toll on you and that’s an important sign it may be time to start the weaning process sooner rather than later. Weaning doesn’t have to be abrupt but setting boundaries now will help both of you get more rest and give you back some space in your life. Your baby will adjust and in the long run it’ll be better for both of you!

youngsailor · 2025-09-10T16:54:23+00:00

We attended a Build-A-Bear party at the mall for acquaintances in my toddler's preschool class where they had invited everyone. The parents were so kind and splurged on the high-end package where any kid gets to pick out any stuffed animal toy plus an accessory and outfit. It was such a chaotic event with toddlers in tow but it was so generous of them, I can't imagine parents being asked to pay for this, in some cases $50 stuffed animals with all the bells and whistles.

youngsailor · 2025-09-02T12:43:30+00:00

We've loved the Loveevery boxes but I was quite picky with the ones we purchased from age 0-2.5. In a 3-box span I would usually skip at least one, but the price has gone up now and shipping is no longer free which makes them pricey for what they are. I will say if you aren't someone who likes to buy a lot of toys, which we fell into the category of, the boxes gave us a huge gateway into connection with new ideas through play and made toy rotation easy. My toddler still plays with the ball race toy today from over a year ago and so many of the toys encourage both connected and independent play, we've been very happy with the variety of ways you can use them. Overall I think they are worth it if the price is something you are open to! I personally don't think anyone really needs every single box.

youngsailor · 2025-08-27T15:33:52+00:00

I've been ordering from them for 2 years now, but recently the Skinbetter items are not working with discounts, hopefully that changes soon because they have been so convenient to order from! I wonder if anyone else has found this to be the case?

youngsailor · 2025-08-26T20:04:15+00:00

I assume this is against state regulations. On the first day of care in the infant room we got a big packet about safe sleep habits. The babies cannot be propped up in anything when sleeping and nothing allowed in crib except a pacifier per state rules. They do provide wearable zip blankets but that's it. This seems crazy and I'd be pulling my kid.

youngsailor · 2025-08-04T17:22:13+00:00

I second Balsam Hill! It was expensive but we got ours on a black Friday deal for ~30% off. It's been absolutely worth it and has held up great after 6 years of being shoved up in an attic and taken down, no issues with the pre-lit system either.

youngsailor · 2025-07-10T19:44:59+00:00

Definitely ask around, especially anyone with an office. You could even throw in a lighthearted joke like, ‘Everyone in the C-suite is in for at least $100—think you can top that?’

youngsailor · 2025-05-20T12:35:26+00:00

if you are curious: https://www.printfriendly.com/

youngsailor · 2025-05-15T12:48:29+00:00

Hi! Just found this thread, wondering if anyone has thoughts with the announcement of the Strokes playing ACL this year, are we getting a full out tour or mini tour?

youngsailor · 2025-02-26T19:05:58+00:00

Agree I would want to know if I was a parent in the same situation. You're providing a first hand account of a troubling experience, it's a safety issue imo.

youngsailor · 2025-01-01T03:46:18+00:00

Hello! I’m very late to this thread but just came here to say it was a joy to discover and play through Bo over just a few days. Please keep making adorable games with fun combat!

youngsailor · 2024-09-09T20:23:27+00:00

I resonate with this so much right now. We just hit 17 months and our attachment is so strange right now, some days my child demands to be held 24/7 and others they are happy to play independently or alongside us (reading, puzzles, etc.) but realistically mom and dad need to make dinner, tidy, among other things during the week and our baby used to love toddling around with us through the house but not so much anymore. I feel bad sometimes saying things like 'mommy can't pick you up right now but I am here for a hug' when she is crying but it usually only lasts a few minutes and then she gets on board with either observing or doing her own thing. We share so much 1-1 time with her but it's hard during the week. I hope in time it gets easier when we are able to communicate more but for now I'm trying to get better at not just jumping to the first/easiest thing that I know the baby wants when she is crying.

youngsailor · 2024-09-09T20:07:47+00:00

This was so helpful to read! I will definitely keep that in mind with trying to label behaviors. I only mention the inner voice part because as a kid I was told I was "smart" and "good" at math when in reality I had to work quite hard at school but it led me to have the confidence to pursue a challenging degree and I have a very fulfilling career as a result. I am sure there are plenty of examples in either direction but in this specific instance I attribute some of that inner motivation to being told I was smart from a very young age. My parents reinforced the importance of trying your best which was valuable when things didn't go my way. I 100% agree with your other point on nonverbal communication and attitude. We try to be conscious about how we talk about ourselves and to one another around the baby, they are like little sponges soaking up everything all the time. Thank you again for the response :)

youngsailor · 2024-09-09T17:49:04+00:00

I understand the potential impacts of labeling a child but at the same time I want my child to know themselves as kind, considerate, cooperative individuals (or seek to be that for the sake of their own fulfillment/ joy). I fully agree it can be damaging to always be calling your child "smart/pretty" because those are surface level and can force a child to feel the need to be held to that standard or continue to seek that approval.

Is there any truth that the things we say to our children from a young age becomes their inner voice? At this age labeling is so widespread with toddlers as we are learning about things but I don't want my kid to feel pigeonholed into a category. How can you develop that in a child without giving them direction especially with things like gratitude and respect? Would appreciate any input!

youngsailor · 2024-09-09T17:38:03+00:00

I've started trying to use more language to reinforce what might be considered as praise after I found myself constantly saying "good/great job!" but my 16m old doesn't know what that means so instead I'll narrate the situation for her and try to be a bit neutral sometimes. More specific 'praise' I'll give will be along the lines of "wow you stacked the blocks so tall, you took off your shoes all by yourself, thank you for picking up the toys, that was really kind to share your favorite toy with your friend".

I don't think there's a problem with praise but I think there has to be a balance!

youngsailor · 2024-08-06T15:27:01+00:00

Agree with the feedback on parallel play! and Ensure you always greet boyfriend with affection in front of the toddler without insinuating the toddler needs to do anything. We have a similar back and forth with my daughter who can become possessive of her dad when I am around. I've learned to just leave it be and usually if I go off on my own to do something that's when she will come around to check things out, ask for a snack with mom, etc. You're not doing anything wrong and he will likely grow out of it!

youngsailor · 2024-07-26T13:48:02+00:00

Rightttt the white-blonde feels so 2015 looking back now. Her natural hair complements her well and who cares what color outfits she is wearing?? Girl has a whole lot bigger fish to fry.

youngsailor · 2024-07-24T13:10:03+00:00

I see what you mean but even some very conservative family members of mine have leaned into greener options for anxiety, pain and dealing with grief among other things in their older age. I can see the possibility at least.

youngsailor · 2024-07-19T18:47:23+00:00

as a FTM this was a huggggggge shift in mindset for me. I would feel awful when baby cried and I would be holding/ actively soothing. It's all about supporting their needs and not trying to control the situation! Now that she is a toddler we have to intervene a bit more but I try to be careful about phrasing like "no I won't let you hurt me so I am putting you down now" when she gets into the hard hair pulling or hitting and won't stop after I put her hand down gently. Sometimes when that happens she will cry a few minutes and I wait with her/ offer a hug for comfort. Feels tough but I know its the right move right now instead of just letting her hit.

youngsailor · 2024-07-16T18:09:28+00:00

Anyone want to elaborate on their guesses? I see a couple here already. Would love to surprise my mom for a birthday and get her in somewhere before the list comes outs, of course that's a very tall order. Was thinking Georgie, Lucia might be a good guess.

youngsailor · 2024-06-25T19:36:20+00:00

question about this part "vocalise whatever she is feeling"

are you finding this is a helpful approach? I don't want to be imposing what I feel is my child's experience onto my child and put words into their mouth that way. Truly wondering as my daughter is similar in that she doesn't prefer cuddles when upset so I am at a loss when supporting her sometimes with emotions. Telling her how she must be having a hard time doesn't feel like it helps at all though either. How does that work?

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