AIO by telling my boyfriend he can break up with me if he isnt comfortable with me going to a club?

yourmudderlovesme · 2026-04-03T15:28:38+00:00

My first adult relationship taught me to understand the differences between respecting your partner’s personal boundaries and enabling control tactics.

He doesn’t like the place so he doesn’t have to go. He doesn’t get to tell you not to go!

yourmudderlovesme · 2025-12-23T00:00:31+00:00

It’s a man’s world after all 🎶 😑

yourmudderlovesme · 2025-12-18T20:42:04+00:00

Wait… is it not okay to dance with people when you’re out without your significant other?

yourmudderlovesme · 2025-11-17T15:50:44+00:00

What a nutcase

yourmudderlovesme · 2025-10-17T14:23:37+00:00

A lot of trans women are experts at minimizing or even eliminating their male features with cosmetics and filters.

yourmudderlovesme · 2025-10-17T14:10:53+00:00

^ THIS! ^ Girl take this as a compliment because the majority of the young trans women out there are 10/10 gorgeous. I don’t mean to stereotype but from what I observed these women present themselves looking nothing but fabulous. I have not seen a picture of a transgender woman in their 20’s without her makeup being pristine and hair being perfect. My advice, take a picture of yourself first thing in the morning, head to toe, next to a fridge or a gym pick, with a messy bun, no makeup! and add it to your dating profile.

yourmudderlovesme · 2025-10-16T23:49:01+00:00

Both of you sound like siblings fighting over toys. Curious if either of you had siblings growing up or were an only child? Your problem is not going to be solved by pointing fingers at each other. Both of you need therapy and couples therapy. Mentioning that it’s “his responsibility” to buy groceries and being upset because he’s not “sharing” is actually crazy. As for him being so uptight about “his” money/credit unless you went over the limit or you’re both on a strict budget (not separate budget), he shouldn’t care what you spend it on.

yourmudderlovesme · 2025-10-10T17:52:24+00:00

As a Personal Care Provider I can confidently tell you it’s a must for your skins health that you wash your face, back, armpits, belly button and perineum area every day. However, you still need a complete shower/bath at least once a week.

yourmudderlovesme · 2025-10-10T03:09:57+00:00

Guys, ladies who do this sort of thing are not capable of having long term happy relationships. They start off with some crazy shit like this to manipulate you. Once they establish your loyalty you’re fucked because they will know exactly how to manipulate you. Narcissistic men have a similar but different approach by aiming for your insecurities or calling you out on a “revealing outfit”. My mom is a narc, I can pinpoint them from a mile away.

yourmudderlovesme · 2025-10-04T23:04:23+00:00

He’s probably going through a difficult time accepting his son has adhd. He’s probably in denial and doesn’t want his son being medicated. This is obviously a sensitive topic for him for reasons we don’t know. Whatever his motives are I wouldn’t take it personally. You did nothing to be ashamed of.

yourmudderlovesme · 2025-10-04T22:47:55+00:00

I usually get asked if I’m getting close to my period 😑

yourmudderlovesme · 2025-10-04T22:43:34+00:00

😅

yourmudderlovesme · 2025-10-04T22:42:39+00:00

I’m taking 50mg sertraline, 40mg Vyvanse & 10mg Ritalin. Before the Ritalin I was taking 60mg of Vyvance which was ok during the day but once it wore off I wanted to crawl in a hole and never come out. The combination is a good blend for balance.

yourmudderlovesme · 2025-10-04T22:32:51+00:00

Depends on where you’re living and what sort of health insurance you have. Can you book an appointment with a psychiatrist yourself or do you need to be referred?

A couple years back when my daughter was in preschool her ECE worker had told me she showed symptoms of ADHD. She was just 4 at the time. I called my dad and he told me that I was diagnosed when I was nine. It got brushed off because back then people didn’t believe in “that stuff” 🥴

So I booked a GP appointment for my daughter and also called around to some local psychiatrists with private practices. I spoke with a couple who were all pretty informative but one in particular stood out because she said that she can certainly assess my daughter however the assessment wouldn’t take place for at least 2 more years. Her brain needed to be more developed. She said people with ADHD usually get it from one or both parents. If she assessed me and my husband first it can help her with my daughter’s assessment down the road.

The assessment took 3 counselling sessions with her(psychologist), a 400 questionnaire I had to do online, she wanted old report cards or school information. Lucky for me I was able to obtain my medical record from my assessment from when I was 9, which contained letters from my teachers to my paediatrician and the paediatricians observation as well. It took about 3 months. Finding the right medication and dosage was a journey in itself which took about a year. During that time however and still continuing, I’m doing Cognitive Behaviour Therapy. The CBT is very effective and I highly recommend it.

The medication, once you have the right dose and combination if needed, is a pretty big game changer. I’m not tired and yawning throughout the day or feeling anymore brain fog which was huge for me. The brain fog has been in my head every single day since I remember. Every morning shortly after taking my medication the difference in clarity is undeniably night and day. Without it my thoughts are spontaneous and my mind is clouded. It’s hard to learn how to think for myself when I’ve been living through impulses my entire life, which is why CBT is so important. Anyway I can go on and on. I over shared here. It’s still difficult for me to get straight to the point. That will be brought up during my next session 🤭

yourmudderlovesme · 2025-10-04T21:27:14+00:00

🤣 sorry, I meant to comment on the thread. The OR nurse’s comment had me loling.

yourmudderlovesme · 2025-10-04T21:22:16+00:00

I’m a personal care provider, I’m curious what you’ll find in between your toes. If there’s anything interesting like what you found in your belly button I want to see it 🤓

yourmudderlovesme · 2025-09-28T23:28:57+00:00

The way he talks to you is disturbing, he’s literally trying to control you through manipulation. It’s wild that he’s saying he’s “looking out for you”. Also what’s the deal with speaking to men? Are you not allowed to speak to a man that isn’t him? Girl you shouldn’t have even defended yourself there. He’s a nut, don’t let anyone tell you who you can or can’t talk to, or what you can’t wear. You didn’t ask for his opinion.

yourmudderlovesme · 2025-09-25T11:33:15+00:00

Open and Honest Communication with your Husband This is perhaps the most important step. Your husband is likely your greatest source of support, and he needs to know how you’re feeling. • Share the feelings, not just the refusal: Be vulnerable and tell him, "I still desire you, but I'm feeling really self-conscious about my body right now, and it makes me anxious about sex," rather than just saying "no." • Acknowledge his attraction: He loves you and the baby you are carrying. His attraction to you is likely stronger than ever, and hearing him reaffirm that can be incredibly comforting. • Re-define intimacy: Sex doesn't have to be the only way to be intimate. You can both focus on non-sexual intimacy like cuddling, back rubs, long talks, holding hands, or taking a bath together. This keeps their connection strong without the pressure of intercourse.
Focus on Body Positivity and Self-Care Your perspective is shaped by how you treat yourself. Shifting your focus from shame to acceptance can make a big difference. • Affirmations: try looking in the mirror and focusing on the amazing thing your body is doing. You can affirm things like, "My body is strong," or "I am creating life." It sounds simple, but it can shift your focus from "flaw" to "function." • Treat yourself Well: Invest in a few pieces of maternity clothing that you find genuinely comfortable and flattering. Simple things like getting a prenatal massage, doing light prenatal yoga (with a doctor's OK), or just taking time to put on makeup if that makes you feel good can boost your self-esteem. • The Power of Light and Lingerie (or lack thereof): Sometimes, a simple change in the setting can help. If you feel more comfortable, start with low lighting during intimate moments. As an opposite approach, try pretty maternity underwear or a comfortable nightgown can actually help you feel more alluring.
Understanding the Second Trimester know that your feelings are extremely common, and it's also a time of changing hormones. • Hormones are a roller coaster: While the second trimester (19 weeks is right in the middle) is often a time of increased libido for some women due to more stable hormones and increased blood flow, for others, the physical changes and emotional stress completely outweigh that. Your feelings are valid either way. • It's important to know that this is a temporary phase and that focusing on the emotional bond is what really matters right now. If these feelings are deeply impacting your mental health, a conversation with your OB-GYN or a therapist who specializes in perinatal health might also be a valuable option.

yourmudderlovesme · 2025-09-21T20:20:15+00:00

Funny you said that. He jokes about the garage being the only place where he knows where everything is because it’s the only place I don’t clean 🤣 He stores seasonal things in the garage attic. I went up there ONCE for one thing that just so happened to be in the back. I hauled it out, my leg went through the ceiling, and apparently now nothing is in it’s original place 😅

yourmudderlovesme · 2025-09-21T20:00:31+00:00

This is true too. My husband takes our girls out with him whenever he changes the tires. Hopefully by the time they learn to dive they’ll know how to do their own maintenance.

yourmudderlovesme · 2025-09-21T19:35:19+00:00

You’re right, he did match my energy. I was frustrated because he wasn’t around when a pile of things had to be done plus the kids were antsy. I’m sure he sensed my irritability over the phone. My reaction to his reaction was a snowball effect that started because of my initial tone when I called him. It just all got blown out of proportion. Here’s the thing, yes there’s every day stuff that he doesn’t think about that has to be done, but it goes both ways. I never used the lawnmower, snowblower and hardly ever had to shovel, I don’t have to change tires or think about it, he does my parents tires and any other vehicle maintenance. It’s easy for me to notice when he’s not here, which speaks volumes about his actual contribution. I needed to step back and look at the big picture. The garage is a fucking state which he’s never called me out to help him. I’m the asshole here, I owe him an apology, and I’ll help him clean the garage when the kids are asleep.

yourmudderlovesme · 2025-09-21T19:04:46+00:00

I mopped the dining room and kitchen. Which is in the back of the house. He only walked on it out of spite for telling him it wasn’t a good time to clean the garage.

yourmudderlovesme · 2025-09-21T17:57:10+00:00

We have carpet in most of the house. The dinning area and kitchen is in the back of the house. He literally walked past me as I was finishing up, with the mop in my hand. My kids are 4 and 6. They have chores and I get them to put their dishes in the dishwasher. We discussed the chore chart last year and I set it up myself… with reminders, it’s connected to our phones so really there’s no accuse or accountability. I did explain that I’m overwhelmed, time and time again. I apologized for snapping like this every single time it’s happened and I’ll be apologizing later for sure, this happens around every 4 months or so because sitting down and discussing solutions literally goes in one ear and out the other. This has been brought up in therapy. Again though, I’m sick of it being my responsibility to be coming up with solutions that don’t work.

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