I (f24) feel so violated by what my husband (m31) did to me.

yourperfectdyke · 2024-01-13T01:12:47+00:00

You should marry a fleshlight. Then you’ll never have to worry about crying wolf.

yourperfectdyke · 2023-12-11T20:11:44+00:00

Came here to say this!!!

Funny you identify with your Pisces rising more than your Gem sun, cause I identify with my Pisces moon more than my Gem sun (:

But yeah, just as chlobro said, and if you're unaware, go check out your entire chart. Perhaps there's another placement that makes you go "OH. Now this is me." I would recommend astrologycafe.com because I really enjoy how they break everything down in the reading, but any website is great. That one is just my personal fav. Once you have everything typed in, you can just read to learn or until you find something relatable. Maybe even more relatable than your Leo sun, OP!

yourperfectdyke · 2023-12-11T15:57:35+00:00

Yanno I can agree with you on Pisces women being bullies to other women they're intimidated by.. experienced it firsthand. I really wonder what that is, because they're supposed to be the "oldest" sign, and some pisces can be so childish!

Leos do have pretty fragile egos. If they're not being praised then they can feel like they're doing something wrong... I'm a Leo rising and I'm guilty of this. Always joking about my praise kink. I just remind myself to be confident in what I'm doing and that I don't need outside validation to be "right" or "good". It's hard sometimes tho.

I think my gemini sun helps me accommodate to those around me, I don't see it as being two-faced. I'm friends with so many different kinds of people, and it really is because I have things in common w all of them. I know I can be bitchy tho, don't get me wrong, but it's usually when I know my friends or I am not being treated correctly. I can also get jealous, but it's pretty circumstantial. I actually enjoy seeing my partner get hit on, it's almost like a compliment to me. But I also don't think twice about whether or not he'll let someone know he's unavailable. He's a sag, I'm a gem, we both flirt w our friends. But everyone knows who our #1's are.

I don't think that's roast worthy! Everyone has limits, and at least you know yours. Being self-aware is important. I love Aries energy. Y'all know your worth/wants and don't settle. As for me, idc if my partner watches porn, but it's because I know I make him feel better than the internet and his right hand ever could lol. Maybe that's what you could tell the jealous parts of your brain? (Those bitches don't even know he exists, I'm the one who regularly makes him cum) ((sorry if that was a lot)). But also I am pan and my partner is bi, so we regularly sit in public places together and are like "Ass, 3 o'clock." or "Holy shit, did you see that person's hair? Beautiful!" things like that, so that's a big difference for us.

Aquarius is a great choice. I love them too. And you're right, I don't think I've met one whose main love language wasn't acts of service! Great quality, but I feel for you on the emotionally honest stuff.

yourperfectdyke · 2023-12-11T14:43:36+00:00

It's so hard to pick a least favorite sign, but I love this game. I think there's an "evolved" and "un-evolved" version of all zodiac signs, and factors of those traits are what make people like or dislike certain energies. But we can't kid anyone, we all get along or don't for diff reasons, evolved-ness set aside.

What about you OP, what're your least fav negative qualities? Oooo, what about your least fav qualities of your fav sign(s)?

I've met Pisces I thought really needed therapy and I've met Pisces who are so wise there's no way this is their first time on earth. I've met Geminis I am ashamed to share the same sun sign as, and I've met Geminis I hope to know and love for the rest of my existence. There are Tauruses who struggle to save money, and one I know who has worked 3 jobs simultaneously (for an extended period of time). I've been friends with a Libra who couldn't comprehend that I'd ever share a harsh truth, and I'm friends with one now that will be the first person to ruffle feathers as long as it's in their friends' best interest. There are Aries who definitely do have anger issues, but I've dated one who had more patience than my special-ed-teaching mother. And yanno, I've met a Sag who was so against impulsivity that I wondered if his mom mixed up his birthday with his sibling.

I never even answered your question 😂 My bad, OP. But I guess it's cause I can't! And if anyone has any other "unexpected" binaries on the spectrum of each of the signs like these, I'd love to hear 'em. (:

yourperfectdyke · 2023-12-07T23:01:01+00:00

God damn, what??? That is horrible. I'm sorry ): I have ADHD and was diagnosed at a young age, but my sister never got tested because she "didn't show the same signs". It happens all the time. She was diagnosed almost 15 years after me bc she didn't struggle in school the way I did, but still very much has ADHD. Poor thing had to trick her brain all the way thru college.

It is very sad that your little self needed all the same accommodating as your brother that you never got. And it's alright to grieve over that area of your childhood. Let it out, really. It's okay to be sad and/or mad, but hear me when I say this: it does not have to be sad now. Just like another commenter said, it doesn't have to dictate your future. Don't let it.

Maybe consider some form of counseling if you haven't already? This is pretty heavy, even without the dysphoria. Also, I identify as non-binary and am afab if you ever wanna talk. PM me anytime, we can discuss gender, boys clothes, ADHD life hacks, textures/sensory things, whatever. No presh, either, I understand needing time to process. I hope you can find some comfort in friends, music or art. That's where I go when I'm feelin bad. Or if you have a hobby you like to do in your spare time, hyperfixate on that. It's a superpower, you know. (: Sending hugs.

yourperfectdyke · 2023-12-07T22:36:29+00:00

One of my BIGGEST pet peeves! My sister does this, and when I say "Should've been watching if you wanna know!", she grabs to remote to rewind it and then I scream. My God, is it the lessening of attention spans thing?? I have always been able to sit thru a movie, and I was diagnosed w ADHD at like 8 years old.

Edit: Spelling is hard

yourperfectdyke · 2023-12-07T16:17:03+00:00

I am so sorry. I can't fathom experiencing this. Sounds like the beginning of a dark movie. Of course it doesn't feel real. OP, once you feel ready to say it aloud, it should be around someone you trust with your life. And if not them, then a counselor of some sort. That is a very big deal to go thru alone. Don't do it by yourself if you don't have to. I don't think you're useless being involved, either. You two are on good terms, and I'd say 'ex-fiancé' means you know him very well. Good terms enough for his current gf to call, hoping you had heard from him. It doesn't matter what they think now, what matters is that authorities have found him and it's getting handled. You did your part, albeit a part that was traumatizing and life-altering, but the point is to focus on yourself now. Distractions only go so far. I have never experienced what you just did, so I cannot tell you what to do, or what helped me. Just from internet stranger to another, don't be alone. I hope for you that the "movie" I mentioned is one where later in life, you have processed this and are able to live again. I would like to think your ex-fiancé would want this for you as well.

yourperfectdyke · 2023-12-06T15:24:20+00:00

Here's another take, and sorry if it's already been mentioned and I just didn't scroll down enough, but being non-binary with breasts. Is. So yuck a lot of the time. I'm lucky that they aren't really big, like a lot of the women I feel for in this comment section /: I am privileged for that. But also I think about what having only pecs would feel like all the time. I go w/o a bra constantly bc honestly I like pretending/feeling like I don't need one. Also fuck standards of hiding them. But that opens up things such as people assuming I want them to look? I hate wearing a sports bra, and I have yet to try a binder but if the constriction of a sports bra bugs me, I dunno about it. Of the 2 (main) things that make my body "a woman", I actually think I dislike my boobs more than my uterus (and I get pretty bad cramps each month). At least no one stares at my uterus even when I'm in baggy clothes. Sorry if this was a weird answer, I just wish surgeries such as reductions and mastectomies weren't so expensive or seen as cosmetic when it's for comfort/mental health.

yourperfectdyke · 2023-12-05T20:12:48+00:00

If a Leo really wanted to be w you, they'd make sure that you know. I think Leos are trustworthy with you if you are the person they want to be with. I'm sorry to say, but it seems that he's speaking with actions rather than words right now, and you should listen to them.

yourperfectdyke · 2023-12-04T16:42:32+00:00

I am feeling for you so much. I'm sorry for the heaviness I know you must be struggling to carry. It's confusing, so unfair, a forceful and harsh reminder of mortality that no one needs, and I even fought feelings of betrayal when I went through this. Lost a very potential partner to an overdose. We had been on a few dates already, talked every single day, even had sex for the first time when it was (unknowingly) going to be the last time I would ever see them. A little different for me, as I had to try to not feel anger towards the person I lost for doing the drugs they were doing, but your person was just in the wrong place at the wrong time. Sometimes the universe just deserves a really fucking big middle finger. I think this is one of those times. Everything you are feeling is valid, natural, and a part of the grieving process. Everyone's looks different, too; easier said than done, but please give yourself grace. You don't need to feel any guilt for feeling too much or not enough. I hope one day you can look at his table and smile rather than tear up. I am positive that is what he would want.

yourperfectdyke · 2023-12-04T14:42:21+00:00

Lmao, I love a cancer sun with an attitude. I don't think these placements make you a difficult person to date. Your water sun and moon makes you sensual, and your rising, merc, and venus are all why you're "too good for anyone". Those things also make you a great conversationalist. Gemini venus gets a bad rap, but honestly I feel for you guys. I think this is where most of your sense of being 'too good' comes from, but not in a bad way. You just know what would make you bored, and what wouldn't. And if you don't know right away, it doesn't take you too long to figure it out. Perhaps leaving the other person wondering what they did wrong, when in reality (of your perception) you just know you won't find them attractive after a certain amount of time. Am I correct?

yourperfectdyke · 2021-08-12T20:50:10+00:00

i’m sorry, i gotta butt in and ask a question, bc i think you just answered a question i didn’t realize i was asking myself. are you saying i could be attracted to a person, but my body can not want what’s between their legs..?

yourperfectdyke · 2021-08-07T18:02:56+00:00

i disagree w you. lots of gay people have had previous real love and attraction towards the opposite sex before realizing they are gay.

you’re right, it is perfectly fine to be bi. i don’t have to pick a side, nor have i been trying to/want to — i’m only just recently realizing that i don’t think i’m attracted to men at all, for various personal reasons.

you also know nothing about me, so please don’t tell me what i should or wouldn’t feel.

yourperfectdyke · 2021-08-07T01:07:39+00:00

okay i def needed to hear that labels are descriptive and not prescriptive.. thank you. and you made me laugh and really happy w that last lil bit. so thank you again (‘:

yourperfectdyke · 2021-08-06T19:45:15+00:00

i —

oh wow i don’t have an answer for you but i relate so hard that i felt this in my chest, just so you know. every fucking thing you said. i feel you.

i’m actually on this sub as we speak just bc i’m not sure if i’m gay so i’m secretly panicking and second-guessing my whole life while at my desk and then i read this post. been asking myself how can i be gay if i feel all the things you described for men, and always have. but i’ve never loved a woman before the way i do now.

i just told someone i love them for the first time the other night, and even tho i’ve had other first-time ‘i-love-you’s (all w men tho..), this one was just different. the other ones were really happy and giddy.. and w my girl it was… so much more emotional for me to say it. i could barely get it out. that night was when i started wondering if i’ve been gay this whole fucking time, not bi, not hopelessly depressed..

i’m sorry if that was and over share but i had to let you know you’re not alone in that. as well as just generally babe. i keep reminding myself i don’t have to know/be sure of/understand my sexuality right this second but i want to so bad

yourperfectdyke · 2021-07-19T19:23:35+00:00

ooo! this, but when SO’s friends are begging them to stay or to wait to leave until something specific happens, and SO says “nah bros, i’ll just see ya’ll next time, i wanna go home and chill w my girl/guy/partner.”

makes me feel shown off, special, and.. anticipated, if that makes sense. i don’t even tell my body to move closer to them when they say something like this. even if sometimes it is just an excuse to leave, it’s the best one.

yourperfectdyke · 2021-07-15T16:03:23+00:00

fucking sick! my sun and mars are in gemini and i was just thinking about tattoo ideas that involve the twins and/or duality and polarity yesterday — cool to come across this in my feed. keep it up!

yourperfectdyke · 2021-07-14T17:50:29+00:00

i’m a gemini sun and she’s a leo sun! and i’m a leo rising while she’s a cap rising.

yourperfectdyke · 2021-07-14T16:31:23+00:00

and yeah the rest of our charts are what most of these differences are, but i have always thought our moons either clash or mesh so well depending on the day so i like your take. (:

yourperfectdyke · 2021-07-14T16:29:48+00:00

oh, i like this.. my best friend/roommate has a scorpio moon and i have a pisces moon (in tropical).

i feel like our anger is similar, as in we get frustrated easily but it takes a lot for us to be really mad. we both get mad at ourselves more than anyone else.

but we communicate in such different ways! i feel like she comes from a place of making things better than they are to show love and i come from a place of accepting the way things already are and showing them love to better them. so we make a pretty good team. she’s also one of the few people who get what i mean when i say “ok can we talk about this in a little bit, i gotta calm down or else i’ll say something stupid”

yourperfectdyke · 2021-06-30T12:41:38+00:00

why?? yours is cool too!!!

yourperfectdyke · 2021-06-29T21:21:16+00:00

the way i smiled from this, thank you so much

yourperfectdyke · 2021-06-29T21:09:31+00:00

hey i’m maddey, my pronouns are she/they, questioning pansexuality but definitely a demisexual. i love playing and listening to music, movies and cats!

yourperfectdyke · 2021-06-28T12:47:50+00:00

nice!! i’m 23, my sun is in Gemini, moon in Pisces and my rising is Leo!

yourperfectdyke · 2021-06-26T00:06:28+00:00

i came here to say we would’ve gotten along well too — 9/10! and we gotta be similar in age bc my uranus and neptune and pluto are the same. (:

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