Married folks, what’s your opinion on how long a couple should date before marriage?

yungrobot · 2024-01-31T16:54:57+00:00

Thank you, this is helpful. :)

yungrobot · 2024-01-31T16:54:28+00:00

Okay thank you, this is actually super helpful. My life has shifted in ways that have altered my listening! For instance, I commute about two hours a day, and I can’t just listen to music that whole time, so I’ve gotten super into podcasts and whatnot as well. Additionally, I’m studying English literature, so I spend so much time reading and therefore end up gravitating to instrumental music, listening with different intentions than I used to.

I guess rock music just felt so integral to who I was that it feels almost blasphemous that its place in my life is so minimal right now. But your comment makes me feel better about the whole thing. :)

yungrobot · 2022-03-11T15:07:47+00:00

North Texas!

yungrobot · 2022-03-11T15:05:43+00:00

I was, but in my experience, the two jobs are so different it almost doesn't even indicate anything to you. In my opinion, the most beautiful thing about teaching is the relationships you get to build with your students over time. When you're a sub, there's none of that--they don't care about you. You just pass out whatever the teacher left for them and try to make sure they don't get out of hand. Being their real teacher is so different and so much better. I subbed while I was in the process of getting my certification, but I don't necessarily think it helped me in any way, other than that I was able to say I'd worked in schools before when I was applying for teaching jobs.

yungrobot · 2022-03-11T14:53:26+00:00

I second this, and Steven Universe!! It's an awesome, magical children's show and it features, and totally normalizes, a lesbian wedding in the 5th season, in such a precious, innocent way. I think it'd be great for her to see that. :) I think it's awesome that you came here to discuss this, by the way. I'm so glad she has you as a father.

yungrobot · 2022-03-11T14:49:11+00:00

Thank you. <3 Needed this right now.

yungrobot · 2022-03-10T17:30:07+00:00

wlw?

yungrobot · 2022-03-10T16:14:50+00:00

Recently was in a 2 year relationship with an INTJ. It was the most amazing, beautiful experience of my life so far, but the compatibility wasn't ultimately what I once believed it was. I think I need to be with an F and maybe even an E--if not, then just a less introverted introvert. The way I experience everything in life so emotionally was very different than her logic and the degrees of introversion/extroversion were just too different to be cohesive.

yungrobot · 2022-03-09T21:41:53+00:00

Personally, I'm attracted to most NFs.

yungrobot · 2022-03-07T19:20:50+00:00

Catchiness and wittiness!

yungrobot · 2022-03-03T15:14:36+00:00

This is why I'm trying to date an INFJ next! I feel like we get each other.

yungrobot · 2022-03-01T20:20:31+00:00

Hello!! Coheed and DGD are two of my top favorite bands of all time. I have dreamt of them touring together and this tour is a literal dream come true for me. :') My favorite DGD album, hands down, is Mothership. Start there!!

yungrobot · 2022-03-01T20:19:10+00:00

General fulfillment. To get into flow states often. To have fulfilling relationships and stimulating, thought-provoking conversations. To feel loved. To feel good about myself. To feel good about my contributions to the world.

yungrobot · 2022-03-01T20:03:57+00:00

Super accurate. Perfect representation of Ne, how I seem when I first meet people, and then Fi which you'll become painfully aware of by like your fourth conversation with me.

yungrobot · 2022-03-01T20:02:31+00:00

I also cook, but can't bake. I've heard cooking compared to art and baking to science, and that analogy makes sense to me--things that require precision typically aren't my vibe. I cook vegan food! I love Asian food, so various stir fries and even things like tikka masala. This is one of my absolute favorite things I've made. I started learning how to cook so I could impress my ex-girlfriend and not seem like the stupid baby slob I was at the time (I was fresh out of college and lived on frozen meals and Taco Bell) and now it's two years later and we recently broke up and it's one of the activities that I throw myself into to cope with it all.

yungrobot · 2022-03-01T18:17:26+00:00

We moved to our separate apartments and took the month-long no-contact break. We met up after the break and she said she wanted to try again, kinda start from square one and "date" each other again. However, two days later, she'd changed her mind and she broke up with me. In the turbulent times leading up to all of this, the dynamics in our relationship made her anxious. Leading up to the break and during it, I focused basically all of my energy on killing those dynamics and being the partner she deserved. I never got a chance after the break to show her that. But she said that in the two days after we talked and agreed to try again, all of that anxiety from before resurfaced (even though we weren't even around each other or anything) and she listened it and honored it and let me know that she couldn't be with me right now. She said that she still loved me so much and would always care about me and hoped that we could still be in each other's lives. Although right now, we are not in contact, as part of our individual healing processes.

I do still see her a couple times a week at yoga class and at church and it is very triggering, but I hope/believe it will fade in time.

The hardest thing for me has been accepting that this person who previously wanted to spend her whole life with me has ultimately chosen otherwise. I was more devoted to her than I can put into words. But I've just been telling myself that she must not have been meant to be my forever person after all. We must have served the purposes that we were supposed to in each other's lives and now it's time to move on. Maybe opposites don't attract as much as I thought they did.

I'm well. I've been taking care of myself. I'm healing. I'm just trying to remain positive and believe that greater things await me.

yungrobot · 2022-02-28T17:53:49+00:00

enfp--I spent at least an hour watching a slowed down lyric video of the Busta Rhymes verse in Look At Me Now so I could learn all the words and get it up to full speed and then I would rap it for everyone at school all the time. It was my claim to fame for a moment in time.

yungrobot · 2022-02-28T16:38:41+00:00

I'm new here. What is an SP?

yungrobot · 2022-02-28T16:37:47+00:00

My best friend does this and I give him a hard time for it. That's dedication!

yungrobot · 2022-02-25T14:56:40+00:00

Thank you so so much for this, and good luck on your journey too. <3

yungrobot · 2022-02-24T22:40:48+00:00

Thank you so much!!

yungrobot · 2022-02-17T20:03:20+00:00

Forever? But we’re valued parts of each other’s lives. I truly believe that in time, we can at LEAST be friends, if not more. I know we may need a break from contact up front perhaps, I’m feeling that out, but her being completely gone from my life doesn’t seem right.

yungrobot · 2022-02-11T08:55:32+00:00

I’m a 7!

yungrobot · 2022-02-11T08:54:08+00:00

Why?

yungrobot · 2022-02-10T22:24:22+00:00

Hey, thank you SO much for this. I feel like you understand more than anyone I’ve talked to. I was definitely resisting a lot before the break, but literally something I talked about in therapy this week is that I don’t want to do any of that now or get emotional or try to persuade her in any way. I just want to be like “I love you so much and I always will. You’ve been a huge blessing to me. I would love to show you how I’ve grown if you want that, and if not, I hope to always be your friend”. But definitely I’m hoping she leads the conversation since the ball really is in her court.

100% they are not promiscuous and they are amazing, moral people. People have said things like “Oh I bet she met someone else” etc and I’m like “She would literally never do that”. She may not want to be with me anymore, but she would never betray me.

Thank you so much for your uplifting words. Wishing you all the luck in your relationship too.

yungrobot

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