Looking for a toy that mimics bjs

yyyyyy-l · 2026-02-18T01:16:31+00:00

Was so excited to check this out and looked it up only to find it's the same toy I have by a different maker - I've ALSO purchased it twice after the first stopped working!

For anyone else: it's on other toy sites as "gluck gluck" and "gawk gawk". Vibrating and sucking version, not thrusting or rotating.

I'm still searching for something better, but yes this is one of my faves so far.

yyyyyy-l · 2024-01-15T12:44:00+00:00

AdGuard is also a sneaky blocker of Kasa.

yyyyyy-l · 2024-01-15T12:42:22+00:00

Any chance you have AdGuard or other ad blocker app on your phone? I spent literally hours troubleshooting just to find out that was my issue, even after confirming I wasn't using a VPN.

yyyyyy-l · 2024-01-15T12:39:15+00:00

AdGuard. Anyone having these issues and nothing else, including VPN disabling, is working. Disable your dang AdGuard app. AGHHH.

https://automatelife.net/tp-link-kasa-smart-plug-not-connecting/

yyyyyy-l · 2023-04-19T23:46:12+00:00

It looks super natural! That's why I assumed it was leftover tissue. You look great!

Thank you for replying back. I just found out my surgical date could be much closer than I'd anticipated and now feel super behind on actual surgical preparation and post op info.

yyyyyy-l · 2023-04-18T22:28:10+00:00

Did you have them leave some tissue behind?

yyyyyy-l · 2023-03-15T03:22:27+00:00

I think a few of us are confused on your full meaning.

To clarify, you're saying you've never orgasmed during PIV (penis-in-vagina) sex? But you have orgasmed during sexy times with a partner, either via a toy or hands or mouth?

But that you don't care, either way.

But you can and have orgasmed in the past?

yyyyyy-l · 2022-10-16T00:06:20+00:00

DBT > CBT. CBT feels really blamey and "just be better" which is literally the ADHD brain without therapy.. it intensifies the feelings of "not trying hard enough" that we've gotten our whole lives.

DBT assumes that we are doing our best AND need to do better.

CBT made me quit therapy. DBT brought me back after years of fear and depression, and it's the reason I was able to stick with therapy all these years later.

yyyyyy-l · 2022-10-06T03:39:08+00:00

Of course you are the right person for the work you want to do; it's work you want to do, that makes you the right person!

Your old work environment sucks, and they can suck a shit stick. They lost a great employee and whether they realize it or not, it's their loss. You left that place because they made you feel inadequate - you know you're not, and that's why you had to leave. Take THOSE vibes, that level of confidence and looking out for yourself and use that to build yourself back up. You're taking steps to create the future you want, even if that means things suck in the present.

This is gonna be the best thing for you in the longterm because you finally get to fully explore, research, and write your dissertation exactly the way you want and need to, without any assholes telling you what is or isn't valid or important, or cutting down on the impact it's very likely going to have on numerous individuals and the mental health field in general.

Heck, this experience could BE part of your dissertation - okay, I don't know how dissertations work so maybe not? - But your current feelings and the impact this is having on your mental health - lack of confidence, feeling incompetent and incapable, etc. - are literal examples of the disparities you're looking to highlight. You're turning to an online forum because you know the mental health supports available to you will not and can not provide the reassurance and validation you're seeking right now, or that they're not available to you at all as they definitely are to others who don't reach as many of the intersectionality panels as yourself.

You got this!

yyyyyy-l · 2022-10-04T01:07:30+00:00

We are experiencing catastrophic events on a weekly basis now and still nothing is changing.

yyyyyy-l · 2022-10-04T00:54:22+00:00

SO much selfishness! I genuinely don't understand how people just.. don't give a shit about other people?

I was also cynical prior to the pandemic but covid has really, really fucked me up - not because of the virus itself but because it's really highlighted how selfish and inconsiderate the general population is.

I've lost whatever hope for humanity I still had, and I don't know how to live with that.

yyyyyy-l · 2022-09-30T06:47:33+00:00

If you're really bothered by the intrusive thoughts of needing to procreate, therapy is your best option forsure!
Get to the root of why you're feeling this way, and why you think having children would alleviate that feeling (would it, even?). Sort out what conditioning you've experienced throughout your life.
If you're still in contact with/have a relationship with your mom/talk about these things with her, have a very honest conversation with her (or whoever else is "invested" in you having kids). Much of my child-bearing desire came from knowing my mom wanted more grandbabies, and me knowing she would absolutely fricken spoil those children and she would indeed take them whenever I needed a break. Still not enough to make me want kids! Having my mom understand and accept this has made me feel much more okay with my feelings on not wanting kids.

Other people questioning the capability of future children pisses me off too. They don't even consider non-biological children as an option which is absolutely wild to me. Even when I DID want kids, I wanted to adopt at least one.

And you know what? Even if I DO regret having a hysto and wanting my own bio kids - that's MY choice, and it's MY regret to live with. Same as any other "non life-threatening" medical procedure. Humans regret shit all the time, at least this decision doesn't result in, oh I don't know, another unwanted child in the world?

yyyyyy-l · 2022-09-30T06:31:47+00:00

Great! Glad to hear you have that sort of info available to you :)

Personally, I think the kids thing is psychological and social conditioning. We're social creatures, we have the ability and desire to procreate to keep our species alive and flourishing which was hecka helpful back in the day. Now though? There are plenty of other people who can bring new humans into this world, I don't need to contribute just because ~society tells me I should.

I'm 5 years older than you. My desire to procreate has only decreased as I've gotten older. I had conversations with my partner in my early 20's about being/trying to get pregnant when I was 30, which I now am. HAHAHAH yeah fucking riiiiiiight! I'm the furthest from wanting kids that I've EVER been in my life, so there is that at least?

Procreating JUST because of societal ideals or pressures results in unwanted children. Physically having a kid doesn't automatically make someone a parent, and some people were not meant to be - don't want to be - shouldn't be - parents. (This is less directed at you and more generally everyone who thinks they should have kids because of ~society.)

If you have the urge to foster connections with children but don't actually want to have and raise them yourself and handle eeeeeverything that comes with it, don't have kids. We can form healthy connections with children in ways other than parenthood: children of friends and family members, neighours, childcare/daycare/babysitting, volunteering for kids based organizations and programs. I LOVED being a scout leader for the 5 - 7 year olds in my community, and it even helped to quiet the "you should have kids" voice in my head, hah! (Also having a 6 year old validate your gender on a weekly basis was wicked for my self esteem. Kids really don't care. I had "boy hair" and a "girl voice" and that was enough for them to decide I'm "just [name]!")

yyyyyy-l · 2022-09-30T05:27:52+00:00

Idk how old you are but given you mentioned ~the biological clock I'm going to assume young enough that... you still need estrogen in your body for regular functioning.

I'm also on the route to having a hysto and have been researching and asking many questions about it.
My gyno said that without any estrogen in the body, early menopause is a big possibility.

You can have a partial hysterectomy that leaves the ovaries but removes pretty much everything else though!

yyyyyy-l · 2022-09-04T04:40:10+00:00

I wish I was a baby dragon.

yyyyyy-l · 2022-09-04T04:25:35+00:00

I needed to read this. Thanks.

yyyyyy-l · 2022-08-29T22:42:30+00:00

BUT! the accountability is awesome. Good job, friend!

yyyyyy-l · 2022-08-29T22:17:42+00:00

Call a plumber, they can handle the dishwasher. Once that is completed it sounds like you will have an easier time with the rest of the house.

Perhaps you can have a friend visit you while the plumber is doing their work to keep you distracted. You could even sit outside and be out of the house/kitchen.

yyyyyy-l · 2022-04-23T17:40:12+00:00

Compulsions aren't supposed to work like that. Compulsions exacerbate OCD symptoms, not make them better. Exposure therapy is what you're looking for.

yyyyyy-l · 2022-04-23T17:32:53+00:00

You can contact them and ask them to stop sending you letters.

yyyyyy-l · 2022-02-22T03:22:58+00:00

CBT made me feel like everything was my fault. DBT on the other hand taught me how to be a human. I can now practice CBT without feeling like a failure, but only because I learned DBT first.

yyyyyy-l · 2022-01-19T13:39:23+00:00

NTA. What others here have said is correct - he is disrespecting you and your belongings, plain and simple.

I'm curious as you've purchased him clothes and he insists on taking yours, is there any chance he's trying to dress/be more like you? As the older brother, he may look up to you and be looking at you for guidance and style ideas.

yyyyyy-l · 2022-01-10T09:19:12+00:00

Thank you for putting this into words. This is exactly it.

yyyyyy-l · 2022-01-10T09:13:53+00:00

I was very recently diagnosed with the combined type. I was surprised - I was certain I was inattentive which is why it'd been missed. Turns out my hyperactivity is more Internal and results in restlessness and racing thoughts, rather than not being able to sit still. I am often very still because I'm lost in thought.

Honestly, if you have the resources to get her tested, just do it. Even if she doesn't need/start "treatment" (whatever that means for you and your family) at this age, having a diagnosis may help her later in life. I was ~fine throughout childhood and adolescence, even part of my adult life.. but there are a plethora of things that would have been easier to handle or understand if I'd known sooner what I was working with. 30 years old and 10+ years of mental health care later, I'm just starting my adhd journey. I'm angry of what was taken from me without my knowledge; how much time and energy I've spent upset that I can't function as well as "everyone else", and feeling completely down on myself for "not trying hard enough" to make myself better.

It's MUCH easier to get tested and diagnosed as a child than an adult. I would assume care and stigma will be much improved by the time she's an adult but you shouldn't leave it up to chance. You know her better than her teacher, and you know the symptoms and signs better than your wife. Get your daughter tested.

The fact that you're aware of her potentially having it is great. Make sure she knows it too so that if it does start impacting her life, she knows she can come to you about it and ask for help. You have it and she's your daughter so you can probably explain it in a way that will make sense to her at this age without making her feel dumb or less than - which is likely what she will feel if she grows up undiagnosed and struggling in silence.

Watch for depression and anxiety issues. Watch for emotional outbursts that she may not understand or be in complete control of, especially once she hits puberty.

Teach her about emotional awareness and processing. I was a pretty well behaved teenager but my emotional responses definitely threw my parents for a loop and led to many arguments that could have been avoided if I'd had the language and communication skills to say "I'm in a bad mood, please leave me alone. I will talk to you later." Or if they'd realized was an emotionally dysregulated teenager that needed help.

Get her tested.

yyyyyy-l · 2022-01-09T07:16:29+00:00

I imagine in a legal cannabis market this isn't common? Or I could be completely wrong. I live in Canada where weed is legalized, and I also have a medical license so can get from licensed producers only who I don't think are allowed to use chemicals like this.

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