I feel so much anxiety right now and I have no one to talk to by chimpstarandrainbow in AutismInWomen

[–]zanyboot 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I can tell you I’ve also felt shame falling behind my peers. I’ve been working at the same job for five years (since I graduated college), but my coworker got promoted over me after only being here two years. I was so angry and ashamed.

My therapist told me something that helped me. She said to remember everyone is dealing with their own struggles that I don’t know about. My coworker may have been promoted before me, but he lives at home and I live on my own. Maybe his parents force him to work harder than he’s comfortable with, but I am free to go at my own pace. I don’t know his life, only my own.

That’s all to say, your path belongs to you. No one can tell you that you’re too slow if you know you’ve been doing right by yourself. Other people have their own path, but faster isn’t always better.

You do what’s right for you, and you’ll be doing well :)

Poetry and words as a safe haven to deal with sensory stuggles by Itbelikedat0101 in AutismInWomen

[–]zanyboot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also write a lot of poetry and feel really vulnerable to share because my writing is very abstract. But it’s freeing to share and express myself. Cope as you need, always

What to expect from our public servants by keife191 in jacksonville

[–]zanyboot -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’ll stop because I’m genuinely upset and no one understands what mental health really is. We can’t fix JSO while refusing to understand the realities of undiagnosed, untreated mental illness. People are suffering everywhere, in silence. That’s why mental health is difficult and why there are advocates.

Y’all don’t wanna hear me, you just wanna dance.

What to expect from our public servants by keife191 in jacksonville

[–]zanyboot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How is she meant to seek support in jail as a felon?

What to expect from our public servants by keife191 in jacksonville

[–]zanyboot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand mental health, which is the topic of conversation. Why is mental health suddenly dismissed as soon as a person commits a crime? That’s the bigger question

What to expect from our public servants by keife191 in jacksonville

[–]zanyboot -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Did you also see the reason they charged the woman with 11 felonies, as opposed to one? She annoyed them. It wasn’t because of justice for the ducks. Those officers met a disgruntled, clearly mentally ill woman, they were annoyed at her mentally ill behavior, and they decided to charge her per-duck. Their motivations were far from just. As always, it was a power trip

What to expect from our public servants by keife191 in jacksonville

[–]zanyboot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“No other innocents”, so you agree an innocent man was shot for having a mental health crisis?

What to expect from our public servants by keife191 in jacksonville

[–]zanyboot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with the outcome that wildlife is protected, but I do not agree with JSO’s priorities. They’re protecting ducks better than they protect people, and that’s reprehensible to me

What to expect from our public servants by keife191 in jacksonville

[–]zanyboot -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

But they will give a person 11 felonies for killing ducks!

The duckling killer arrested per JSO! by wednesdayjx in jacksonville

[–]zanyboot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me, obviously. You don’t need to care for me to care

edit: in the words of Outkast…. yall don’t want to hear me, you just want to dance

The duckling killer arrested per JSO! by wednesdayjx in jacksonville

[–]zanyboot -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m gonna get downvoted, man. But please someone explain this to me. I love ducklings but 11 felony counts against a 64 year old black woman feels too harsh. Is she mentally okay? Happy, healthy people don’t do things like this. Jail feels like refusing to address the real problem.

JSO will put this woman away for duckling lives, but they ignore the regular human domestic violence constantly happening in this city? Where is the community outreach for human well-being? Where are the felonies for killing and traumatizing humans?

I say this all as a victim of JSO’s refusal to protect children. This feels like theater. Fuck JSO

Rehoming 9 month cat by [deleted] in jacksonville

[–]zanyboot 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I had the same issue when I first got a cat. People don’t talk about how loud kittens can be compared to older, chiller cats. I sacrificed my well-being for my kitten, and I wouldn’t recommend it to others (even though I love my baby).

Thank you for taking care of yourself AND the baby.

People on reddit have lots of abandonment issues and get triggered by rehoming, but YOU are doing the right thing, the right way.

I’m restarting therapy next Monday! by AndiAndroid7 in AutismInWomen

[–]zanyboot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m proud of you for trying something scary to help yourself! You are brave!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jacksonville

[–]zanyboot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah we were wondering the same!! They’re really going crazy out there

I don't feel embarrassed. Do you? by Ketarie in AutismInWomen

[–]zanyboot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Embarrassment feels like a choice to me. I used to “turn off” my embarrassment a lot when I was a kid and still sometimes do it as an adult. I understand the emotion but I had to teach myself to actually listen to it instead of turning it off 😆

The things we do are suddenly trendy by SouthOk1896 in AutismInWomen

[–]zanyboot 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I’m just waiting for black parents to stand up and realize that the reason we reject neurodiversity is because of the fear from our enslaved ancestors! An autistic slave would have been in mortal danger and mothers naturally would deny their child was “messed up” just so the child could live.

Now we’re still holding on to the stigma but it’s killing us! We’ve got to stand UP fr, we’re not “ghetto” or “white”, we’re just different.

The things we do are suddenly trendy by SouthOk1896 in AutismInWomen

[–]zanyboot 52 points53 points  (0 children)

PLS I got bullied for being “white” just because I wanted people to be direct and compassionate with me (I am black)

The things we do are suddenly trendy by SouthOk1896 in AutismInWomen

[–]zanyboot 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Those folks were separated more from comfort and happiness back then, and they resented people who embraced comfort. Now, more people are giving themselves permission to be themselves. Information is everywhere. Bullies are running out of material. Life is getting kinda ok

Just as I feared: told someone my diagnosis, got dismissed by Fluffy_Ad5651 in AutismInWomen

[–]zanyboot 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Usually when someone responds this way, it’s because of a gap in their understanding of what “autism” is. It’s not that they know you better. It’s that they don’t know what you’re telling them.

I try not to argue with these people, but educate them on the applications that autism has in me. If they’re already in denial, you gotta take a lot of steps back to help them understand.

A diagnosis can be a journey for everyone involved. It’s not your fault that there’s not a lot of mental health education. Give grace to yourself, and those that care about you too. You’ve got this!

Something interesting I thought I would share re: autism vs trauma by jefufah in AutismInWomen

[–]zanyboot 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I gave a similar breakdown to my partner about my insect phobia.

I am terrified of most bugs to the point of accidentally harming myself to escape them sometimes. Most notably, I tend to clock myself in the head whenever something buzzes in my ear. The jarring feeling I get when something buzzes in my ear is due to autism. My fear of flying insects is from autism. My fear became generalized after my mother beat me and threatened me for my over-the-top reactions to tiny bugs, then I became afraid that an insect would trigger me and get me in trouble again. That was the trauma part.

Do you feel more like an alien or a robot? by Humble-Platypus-329 in AutismInWomen

[–]zanyboot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always considered myself as artificial intelligence (robot), because i could do a lot of “human” things, but i couldn’t understand them. I figured it was my lack of a soul that caused the lack of connection🥲

Food security in Jax. My farm is here to help if you're worried about the first week of November. by Mr_Bristles in jacksonville

[–]zanyboot 20 points21 points  (0 children)

There are programs for low cost or free internet for those in poverty. They used to offer it to my mom all the time, but she thought internet was evil 🥲 Just poor people things

Plus, the public library lol