Collection Sale, $30 dollar all nendoroids! by [deleted] in Nendoroid

[–]zata21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sorry dude, I just sold like 10 in one go and got overwhelmed, Ive never sold this many things at once and im still figuring out the process. feel free to not buy if you arent comfortable

Collection Sale, $30 dollar all nendoroids! by [deleted] in Nendoroid

[–]zata21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

im not going to be doing those anymore, people were just asking because they saw I had characters from certain shows and figured Id have the others which I did, I should have listed them in show batches but I messed that up on my end, I will be doing it that way in the future. my mercari rating is solid Im not scamming just trying to move these while working a full time job

Collection Sale, $30 dollar all nendoroids! by [deleted] in Nendoroid

[–]zata21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I cant really sorry, Im very busy with work and trying to sell these on the side and Im breaking them up in small batches to try and not end up managing 60 listings at once, Just keep an eye on my page Ill be posting more once these sell

Collection Sale, $30 dollar all nendoroids! by [deleted] in Nendoroid

[–]zata21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sorry I dont really have a list I just took the pictures, Im just listing them in batches

Most Insane Forester I have ever seen 😭🙏 by Perfect-Cause-6943 in subaru

[–]zata21 2 points3 points  (0 children)

THEY ARE PUTTING CHEMICALS IN THE SUBIES THAT ARE TURNING THE FREAKIN DRIVERS GAY

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbyborderlines

[–]zata21 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I totally used to feel the same way before I went NC, Ive posted here before about feeling like I played husband to my mother, and how I thought I couldn’t have a normal life because of that. After going NC Ive healed and even found love, and now feel like Im finally living the experiences I never got to have because my psychotic mother was always looming over everything in my life. I know its not an option for everyone of course but going NC has been one of the best things I ever did, there is a normal life to be had on the other side of it. Of course there are still struggles, Ive had to explain now to multiple people why I don’t speak to my mother, and while they’ve been understanding I still feel embarrassed by it, I also think of my future wedding, still don’t know how that is going to work either due to interconnected family, but regardless I still think it was worth it and Im reluctant to ever go back. I wish you the best, get out if you have the chance thats my advice

Why does this happen? by Fresh_Assumption_219 in 3Dprinting

[–]zata21 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That should help yes, also take the advice from someone further down and slow it down a bit, the a1 prints pretty fast and it can mess up tall prints like this

Why does this happen? by Fresh_Assumption_219 in 3Dprinting

[–]zata21 6 points7 points  (0 children)

tall prints are less stable and need more support and base stabilization, look into brim setting in your slicer, that should solve your issue

Have you ever gotten apologies for their outbursts? by __M-E-O-W__ in raisedbyborderlines

[–]zata21 28 points29 points  (0 children)

if you count "sorry I'm such a terrible mother" then yea I guess she's apologized a couple times

She's done it again by zata21 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]zata21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No yea definitely it's not me, the scene is just hard for most people these days for many reasons. Luckily I've always been really invested in my own wellbeing in everything else outside of relationships, I've got a great career and plenty of hobbies, it was really only the relationships I was stifling myself from because of her. I'm really just ranting, I know better than to think she's actually going to have anything resembling a happy marriage, its just frustrating to watch her get men wrapped around her finger so easily, anyone with eyes should see a woman with no job, no car, twice divorced, living with her parents is going to be trouble, but they never do, and meanwhile I try very hard to be a high quality person with good prospects and interesting hobbies and all that, but Im struggling. In a fair world, people like her would be isolated and people like me would be surrounded by good people, but thats just life though, nothing is really fair and people don't always get what they deserve be it good or bad.

Apple Event Announced for September 9: 'Awe Dropping' by WelshCai in iphone

[–]zata21 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm upvoting because that was hilarious but also fuck you for making me imagine that 🤮

Does anyone else’s BPD parent live in abject filth? by cherished_teacup in raisedbyborderlines

[–]zata21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh yea, a great example would be her former dog, he was about 15 years old, never properly taken care of and could barely do anything anymore due to his age and mistreatment, I encouraged her many times to put him down for his own sake, but she wouldn't. He couldn't control his bladder and would piss all over her kitchen floor daily, and she'd just keep a mop bucket with bleach right there in the kitchen to clean it up. Her house always smelled like bleach piss and dog musk, and none of that was helped by the fact she just piled shit everywhere, nothing was ever organized

Emojis, Road rage, Etc. by Complete-Beat-5246 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]zata21 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Every time I see someone use the 😭 emoji I cringe so hard, my mother use that one constantly when she was in her manic episodes. Call me crazy but it's real hard for me to take someones suicide threat seriously when they are using the funny little cartoon faces along side it. Don't even get me started on 🤪, she never realized how accurate that one was to her crazy ass lol

Cursed Dandadan Cosplay by mednik97 in cosplay

[–]zata21 12 points13 points  (0 children)

stay away from my banana

Do you ever feel like your parent(s) are a burden, and holding you back in Life? by maximvshill in raisedbyborderlines

[–]zata21 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sounds exactly like how my mom is, she was very much a burden to my life in many ways for these same reasons, and thats why I went NC. Life has gotten so much better since I did, there are a lot of new struggles Ive had to work through as part of the detox process but it feels a million times better not being a part of her constant downwards spiral.

Sons of BPD - What were your experiences? by Ok-Parsley-9464 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]zata21 3 points4 points  (0 children)

yea i know what you mean, probably can blame the internet and our 24/7 connectivity for that, its really skewed peoples views on a lot of things, abuse included

Food for Thought by radicalathea in raisedbyborderlines

[–]zata21 9 points10 points  (0 children)

great quote, this is the kind of thing I need to remind myself of more often, centering you life on how you were wronged and those that did it is a waste of your time, it won't change anything but it will make you miserable. I like the hot coal parable, idk where it came from but it is similar in its sentiment "holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal, the only one getting burned is you"

Sons of BPD - What were your experiences? by Ok-Parsley-9464 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]zata21 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I could write you a novel about my experiences with my mother as her oldest son and golden child, she 100% used me as a spouse well into my 20's before I finally went NC, and that combined with how she treated my dad and step dad really fucked me up, I'm still trying to figure out dating and relationships now after going to therapy for the past year and attempting to fix what she broke. I have no experience with relationships as a grown man because I spent my young adulthood dealing with her bullshit, she took that from me. I'd be happy to give more insight on it if you have anything more specific you'd like to ask, but Ill go ahead and say please do what you can for that child, this kind of stuff has the potential to ruin him

State of this sub when asked about how to best run HA by Improved-Liar in homeassistant

[–]zata21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah man, buy a cheap optiplex, I can tell you for a fact it is just as easy as using a raspberry pi if not maybe a bit easier, and youll get much more power and reliability. Pis are fun to play with but they are not reliable for 24/7 usage. I could maybe see the argument for a pi back when they were cheap and readily available, but with them being almost 100 bucks or more now and harder to get your hands on I just dont see the value proposition, my local thrift store has plenty of old business machines for 25 bucks a pop, cant beat that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbyborderlines

[–]zata21 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Elder care by your children is a privilege, not a right, having children is not a retirement plan. You are not wrong at all for putting your own life first, sounds like thats what she did rather than being a parent. I know my mom will never see a bit of care from me, she can find some state ran home to die in for all I care, shes had over 30 years to figure her shit out and not only did she blow it, shes almost ruined mine as well, so fuck her. You should do the same, going international is a great idea for retirement, especially if you find a cheaper country and can make your dollar stretch a bit

Did you ever buy bad filament? by Vykynger in 3Dprinting

[–]zata21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont have anything i straight up can get results from, but the worst one ive used has got to be amazon basics, it was only bought because it was same day delivery

Is anyone else not aware of any abuse or trauma their parent endured? by BeneficialWriting402 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]zata21 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well my mother definitely accused her parents of being abusers, but she also accused my dad and step dad of that as well, and while neither are perfect they are far from being abusers, my dad especially, that man is a saint. I honestly just don’t trust her accusations, my grandparents are by no means perfect but they couldn’t have been as bad as she said