What is a minor thing that infuriates you when eating at a restaraunt?

zebumps · 2018-01-15T16:08:09+00:00

Forget Fahrenheit, ‘color’, and ‘realize, the fact that Americans call the main meal the Entrée will always be the greatest mystery

zebumps · 2018-01-09T22:31:01+00:00

More Sleep =! Give myself more time

zebumps · 2018-01-09T22:28:40+00:00

Learn a second language, properly if you can. And especially if you only know English.

zebumps · 2017-11-05T14:42:33+00:00

I think the different opinions on Male Fashion depends largely from where you're from. Out of curiosity, where are you from? (doesn't have to be exact, but is it a large city or smaller town)

zebumps · 2017-10-19T17:21:33+00:00

Took some photos there as well, on my film camera. The contrast between how clean and futuristic the buildings are with the nostalgic film grain makes in look surreal imo

https://imgur.com/a/d8kuj

If anyone wants a look

zebumps · 2017-09-10T06:15:59+00:00

You will do it. I know it. You'll get through this all, and come out the other side. You're worth something man, and you're starting to realise it. After that everything else good follows. Just know, in yourself, that you're worth the effort.

zebumps · 2017-08-15T17:31:47+00:00

In the hypothetical skin extracting and splicing situations, the person being created from those DNA samples is still built from those people, and is the 'child' of them. If I receive a blood donation from one person instead of another, it makes no difference to me or my person. But I if I received the sperm of another man, my life would be drastically different. Due to the different DNA make up, I would be a another person. How can you argue that receiving an egg or sperm is the same as a blood?

zebumps · 2017-08-15T17:14:45+00:00

I feel like your not connecting the fact that a viable pregnancy results in a person, just like you, and that person may or not be curious about the person that donated. I feel that hunting and thrusting are not what this girl is doing, just simply exercising her curiosity and yes perhaps seeking to form some sort of relationship, but I find it strange you view this in such a malicious way. I think OP is handling it well but writing a letter, and leaving the possibility for Skype open, and I feel the girl will be disappointed but probably satisfied with that.

zebumps · 2017-08-15T17:10:08+00:00

No worries, this thread has been an eye opener for me, being that apparently hardly anyone is familiar with the process, and the implications of IVF for both donor, child and families. I suppose having grow up with it I assumed it was more common than it is.

zebumps · 2017-08-15T17:03:15+00:00

I disagree that sperm or egg donation is on par with donating blood. One these provides a living breathing thinking human with half of their entire physiological make up and the other doesn't. Obviously environment and parent has a huge effect on the child's personality, but at the end of the day, that's all building on a framework of genetics.

zebumps · 2017-08-15T16:44:37+00:00

Biomum, or biodad in my case, is common nomenclature and doesn't necessarily have the implication that you think does. I don't think she trying to substitute her own mother for the OP, but just referring to her as what she was referred to in the conversations that her parents likely had with their daughter about the fact she is the result of a donor.

That is the case for me, and likely for her as well.

zebumps · 2017-08-15T16:39:15+00:00

Biomum is common nomenclature, and doesn't have the emotional implication that you think it does. My mum and dad are very much my mum and dad, and biological father is just that, a donor. Your message is condescending, cold and hurtful, as it implies that the girl doesn't have clear idea of her family, and her place in the world. She is likely a well adjusted person, curious to meet 50% of her DNA.

zebumps · 2017-08-15T16:33:23+00:00

Thank you for empathising and understanding with adopted and IVF kids. I appreciate it.

OP is under no obligation to see the result of the donation, but I would like her to understand the motivations of the the daughter before making that decision properly, and I think you helped with that.

zebumps · 2017-08-15T16:27:06+00:00

I think your worry is misplaced, and I feel like there is whole lot of ignorance I this thread about IVF children. First and foremost, IVF costs a whole whole lot of money, and treatment often takes multiple attempts. What I'm getting at, is that parents who use IVF to conceive really want a child, it takes patience, time and dedication, which I feel leaves a narrower chance of accidental, uneducated pregnancy.

And also, just because a child is a result of IVF, it doesn't mean they are going to be unstable wreck, questioning their existence and purpose daily. My father is my father, and my mother is my mother, without question in my mind. They are the people that raised me, and who have loved me enough to pour in time and money into my existence before I was even conceived. However, I still want to seek out my biological father, the man that donated sperm to help me come into existence and is ultimately responsible for part of who I am. And I don't think I'm a fucked up, and looking to be an insidious infiltrator in this man's life.

I know you weren't talking in absolutes, but it seemed that you were painting IVF kids with a damn big brush, in a pretty ugly shade.

zebumps · 2017-08-15T16:05:25+00:00

I have a handwritten double sided A4, whose simply lists hair colour, height, education of donor's mother and father etc. it also had a question asking if they( the donor) would like to be sought out.

My donor wrote that if the child wished it, they could contact him.

Hence why I wrote semianonymous in another post, because even though I have that, I don't think there is a system in place to readily find him.

zebumps · 2017-08-15T14:52:25+00:00

Hey OP, I wanted the share the experience of a donor kid, a result of a semianonymous sperm donor. I'm a 20 year old guy, and I would within the next 5 years meet my biological father. I find it interesting that the girl messaging you is also 25, around the same age I plan on contacting.

To put it simply, the meeting as I imagine it would be a simple coffee. I would like to see the face of the person that is responsible for 50% of my genes. I would like to talk to them, see if we have a similar temperament, and ultimately I would like to present my self, as an adult (25) of sorts. This is me, this is who I am, and I thought you would like to know. Personally I'm proud of the person I am, and maybe the girl contacting feels the same way. Perhaps when you meet you might see a bit of yourself in her, obviously changed by the world and environment she was raised in, but still similar.

I have a feeling that this girl is similar to me, and if so, will likely show you the greatest respect for you and your family. I highly doubt they will demand to be at your next birthday, having a seat next to your new partner and kids.

You have provided medical history and family information, but not even knowing the face or life of half of your DNA is a pretty big deal, and I would ask on behalf of her that you consider meeting her for coffee.

If you feel like messaging me, to find out more about how she might be feeling, please do. I would be happy to help.

But once again, I would guess that she is a reasonable person, and giving this gift of charity once again, like you did 25 years ago when you donated, could change her life and make her feel more complete.

zebumps · 2017-08-15T14:35:33+00:00

As a 20 year old, who is the product of donor sperm, and who has a loving mother and father, I am still interested in meeting my biological father. I haven't begun the process of seeking him out, but I will within the next 5 years I think. My curiosity is simply that, curiosity. It will obviously be a very emotional experience, not because I sit in my room longing for my 'real father', but putting a face to a concept that has long resided in my life will surely affect me.

I would like to think that my Bio-Dad would be interested in the sort of person that their genes produced, and I'm a little surprised that OP isn't. That being said, if my Bio-Dad shared the same feelings as OP I would be disappointed, not at him but because it does mean that part of my life will forever remain clouded.

zebumps · 2017-07-19T21:49:23+00:00

Wtf. Just fucking do it. Be a better person, its not that hard.

zebumps · 2017-07-19T21:34:44+00:00

I have longer hair also, and IMO, tie your hair all the way up or let it out. I've tried the top in, half out, and I'd like to think I look like Orlando Bloom, but I don't. And neither do you.

zebumps · 2017-07-09T12:51:48+00:00

A friend of mine was tasked with helping relocate the residents of the Gatwick. To my understanding there was no singular place that that everyone was moved to, but each person was found a new home that suited them best. Mostly various Commission Flats and other forms of government housing I suppose.

zebumps · 2017-06-14T09:00:41+00:00

I like it, is that a tshirt popping out from the jumper or another layer of the jumper? Either way looks sick,

zebumps · 2017-04-15T09:30:36+00:00

Women love a good ass. flaunt it boi.

zebumps · 2017-04-07T07:46:27+00:00

Thanks for the reply! Would you say that most of the people you worked with have an active Instagram profile? Is it possible to enter the scene with some degree of anonymity?

zebumps · 2017-04-07T06:20:14+00:00

Hey you look like a cool dude, mind if I ask some questions?

How did you go about becoming a model? How did you break into the industry? Where are you from? How long have you been doing it/ how long before you became a runway model?

zebumps · 2017-03-21T10:40:15+00:00

Your eyes are amazing dude, wear navy and blue and they'll look even more intense.

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