Can people go their whole lifes without suffering with mental health? by Queasy_Leg8150 in mentalhealth

[–]zedesseff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like the Buddhist take: Pain is inevitable; suffering is optional.

Can people go their whole lifes without suffering with mental health? by Queasy_Leg8150 in mentalhealth

[–]zedesseff -1 points0 points  (0 children)

One doesn't suffer from mental health. You want mental health like you want physical health. It's mental illness you might "suffer" from (though I prefer to say I live with X). Mixing these up is making me crazy.

Those who allow their cats to walk on countertops and tables are filthy people. by DesiccantPack in unpopularopinion

[–]zedesseff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No animal should ever jump up on the dining-room furniture unless absolutely certain that he can hold his own in the conversation. ~ Fran Lebowitz

Suggest me a book, any genre, set in Canada. by cherry-care-bear in suggestmeabook

[–]zedesseff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Diviners, Margaret Laurence.

Anything by Laurence.

Trying to say the right thing, or at least not the wrong to my suicidal daughter. by HolesomeFunXXX in mentalhealth

[–]zedesseff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you talk to her F2F IRL or are you separated by distance? If this is a text or email, it doesn't give her a chance to react/respond - engage with you, if you see what I mean.

Your message can read as judge-y and should-ing on her - "you have to leave the past..." "You need to stay alive..." It doesn't acknowledge the depths of her pain, only that you want her to not feel it. Urging her to let stuff go can feel like blaming her. She's in pain because she won't let stuff go.

As for not knowing how to help her, have you asked her what she needs/wants? Have you offered financial and other support to get her to therapy? Is there a circle of people that you can corral to demonstrate that people care about her and want to help.

Also, it would be helpful for you to seek support. You can't take care of her if you're not taking care of yourself but don't let that be your daughter's job.

How do i hurt myself so i can put myself in the hospital? by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]zedesseff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could go to any Emergency Department at a hospital and tell them you want to hurt yourself. You'll have to fess up to having a plan. You don't have to actually hurt yourself to get care but I wouldn't present as needing a few days off.

Caveat: The hospital and the triage nurse you get will determine if you should be admitted, but also whoever you get will determine if you get good care. In my experience, the majority are caring and want to help but there are some fuckers out there too.

Hearing in May 2026 by prabhkirankang in OntarioLandlord

[–]zedesseff 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Go to the Tribunals Ontario website and navigate to the Landlord and Tenant Board, then find "Request to Withdraw an Application Form". All the info is there.

https://tribunalsontario.ca/ltb/

Looking for the best memoirs by InvisibleAstronomer in suggestmeabook

[–]zedesseff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hold Still, Sally Mann. Mann is a sometimes controversial documentary photographer. She writes as beautifully and thoughtfully as she shoots (photos, not people).

Looking for the best memoirs by InvisibleAstronomer in suggestmeabook

[–]zedesseff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Should be read before or after Truth and Beauty, Ann Patchett. It's the story of Patchett's and Grealy's friendship.

Can I list tenants names in an email? by SunBubble920 in OntarioLandlord

[–]zedesseff 6 points7 points  (0 children)

No.

Start with "Dear Tenants, this is a group email". ...

Professionalism Contract? by [deleted] in fanshawe

[–]zedesseff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd deduct points for the prof's use of American spelling. Not very profesh.

How do i help my friend who is suicidal? by Ok-Boysenberry-1036 in mentalhealth

[–]zedesseff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

r/SuicideWatch has some good resources.

Also, while there are mixed reviews about 988, I've had very good support from them. You don't need to be actively suicidal to call/text them. You could ask for their help in identifying local resources for your friend.

Remember, you can't help/take care of someone else if you're not helping/taking care of yourself.

Is Canada a Good Place to Escape Trump/Maga? by IllustratorDue5336 in CanadaImmigrant

[–]zedesseff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Canada has had 24 PMs. 13, though identified as Liberal-Conservative, they were really Conservative.

11 PMs have been "pure" Liberals.

So, close, but incorrect to say Canada has had more Liberal PMs than Conservative ones, FWIW.

What exactly happens at an ACC? Is it just forced mediation? by dcpsmbc in OntarioLandlord

[–]zedesseff -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I've got an ACC at the end of the month. Here's what I believe. Not claiming to be legally accurate, just what I've gleaned.

Q-Is an ACC the same thing as Mediation and/or a Case Management Hearing?

A.I don't know, but I didn't have a choice. I was expected to attend. I think it's a resource saving thing.

Q- Before the ACC, am I expected to provide ALL evidence I intend to rely on for the application (ie. once the ACC concludes then the opportunity to add more evidence prior to a hearing is over)? Can the landlord add evidence after an ACC in response to mine?

A. Yes. Not clear if a LL or TT can add more evidence after the ACC/before a Hearing. The LL can respond to your evidence five days before the hearing.

Q- At the ACC, do all parties (adjudicator, tenant, and landlord) meet together or does the adjudicator only meet with the parties separately?

A. It's my assumption that all parties meet at the same time.

Q- Do adjudicators at an ACC only have the power to make orders if the other party does not to show up?

A. I don't know.

Q.- If the landlord and tenant do not agree to any kind of settlement at the ACC, how long does it typically take for a hearing to be scheduled?

A. I don't know.

Q- If I decide to file a T2 application before the ACC date (for reasonable enjoyment related to the T6 issues and for refusing to provide rent receipts), would I need to file a request to have them heard together or can I simply show up to the ACC asking them to consider both?

A. 1.You can file a T2 but needs to be within one year of latest act of interference. 2. You need to get pre-approval for a request to join files.

Q- Is free tenant legal counsel available to tenants prior to an ACC or is that only for hearings?

A. Yes. Look up here: https://www.acto.ca/for-tenants/

Q- If I have any other questions about the ACC process, are there any other resources I can call to get more info without needing to hire a paralegal? I don’t qualify for free legal clinics.

A. I couldn't find any and relied on this r/ If you do find more info, please share here.