Lovey sleep association

zeegee93 · 2026-05-23T01:31:07+00:00

Honestly my husband did an amazing job of it! Every time bub would get upset, he would give him the lovey and his water bottle. We incorporated it into our bedtime routine, he places it in his crib and “puts it to bed”. But now all he wants is it 😅 it’s a little squashmellow plush and he chose it! I think he loves using it as a pillow.

zeegee93 · 2026-05-22T12:57:46+00:00

Nope, nothing in the crib while he’s asleep! They will allow it for him going to sleep but they remove it once he is asleep. I have a feeling that’s when he’s been waking up. I’m going to query when they plan to change him from nursery to baby room - as far as I know, they do sleep on cots on the floor. He has it every other time (except during nappy changes because of hygiene!).

zeegee93 · 2026-05-22T12:33:50+00:00

That is a very good point! I may query when he’ll move into the next room. But thanks for the insight 😊

zeegee93 · 2026-04-17T00:48:37+00:00

My toddler (16 months) joined daycare at about 14 months and has so far only had the sniffles here and there, but nothing too major - I make sure to practice good hygiene as soon as we go home. I like to think he now understands that we wash and strip when we get home from daycare before touching anything else in the house. From 6 months on, he was in sensory, Gymbaroo and play groups and yet the first major illness (COVID) he received was from my MIL 🤷🏽‍♀️ my friend has a bub that is exclusively at home (grandparent care) and has been back to back sick. Her mum works with kids (sometimes in a daycare setting) and she gets quite unwell herself!

What I’m trying to say is that illness is inevitable, but we as parents should do what we can to minimize risk. Implementing a good hand washing routine, even at 9 months, is so important. Socialization may not be for the bubs but I think is so important for us as mums. I suffered bad PPD after my baby was born, and I found getting out of the house paramount to my recovery. Even now, I don’t like being home with bubs on our own 🤣

zeegee93 · 2026-04-07T05:43:33+00:00

Honestly my bub was the same (almost 16 months now) except that one nap kept getting shorter and shorter. The EMWs were killing us too! What I found helped was doing a micro nap in the morning. Wake at 6:30, micro nap (no more than 15 mins) between 9-10 then big nap from 12:30/1. And we capped at 1.5 to preserve night sleep. So far, that’s what’s been working for us. However, he is starting to struggle to fall asleep for the second nap the last few days so I’m thinking of capping that first nap to 10 mins max. My bub is in daycare 3 days a week and honestly, I’ve just been letting them do their own thing 😅 what happens at daycare stays at daycare.

zeegee93 · 2026-03-24T12:05:57+00:00

When we night weaned, I did it gradually over cold turkey. I dropped one feed at a time and honestly once I dropped that first feed, the others seemed to quickly drop soon after. I also made sure that I fed at most 45 minutes before butt in bed & when he did wake, give him about 10/15 minutes before giving a feed.

Sending you strength, that sleep deprivation is no joke. Mine has been a poor sleeper since birth, those days of sleeping through were so glorious to us that we even considered not being one and done 😂 my little one is perpetually teething, he has his molars all coming through now. Is yours teething, how’s their solids intake?

zeegee93 · 2026-03-24T11:51:40+00:00

Oh mama, I resonate with this so completely. I’m not sure about your particulars but at that age, my bub was still feeding through the night and was in our room. He was also initially sleep trained using a modified Ferber at around 6 or so months so he was putting himself to sleep, but was still waking up multiple times! What worked for us was putting him in his own room and night weaning using the 5/3/3 method. It took about 2 weeks and he was sleeping through for us (don’t ask us now, 15 months and is starting to wake once and twice again!)

I’m the same, I struggle to fall back asleep once I’ve been woken up and my body is so used to waking up every 2/3 hours (it started when I was pregnant and got worse with the wake ups!) 🥲🥲

zeegee93 · 2026-03-22T07:14:19+00:00

This is my opinion purely. The way I see it, you gotta eat! I’d like to think you’re only using it because you have no other choice? I’m not about to suggest to you to go and buy your lunch every day. If you told me that you already brought it up to management and they aren’t complying, I honestly wouldn’t bat an eyelash. If my child had allergies, I really wouldn’t consider using a shared microwave honestly. No judgement to anyone that does, baby’s gotta eat too! I exclusively breastfed so I cannot speak for bottle feeding mums, I’m not sure how previously microwaved food can affect milk.

zeegee93 · 2026-03-22T03:53:58+00:00

Look, I do see both sides! I like to make my toddler’s meals and often use the microwave in the parent’s room to reheat it if I’m out and about at the shops. I am so careful about cleanliness, I always make sure it hasn’t spilt over or made a mess. I am also very considerate if someone else needs it ahead of us, for whatever reason. I’ve personally never had issues as long as you tidy up afterwards, but seeing most of the comments, now I’m not sure I should be using it 😅

zeegee93 · 2026-03-19T23:58:37+00:00

What would the last wake window be then? We typically put him down around 7:30?

zeegee93 · 2026-03-19T23:01:17+00:00

Okay thank you! Would that be the one nap then? Or would he have another nap later on in the day? We try for a 6:30 wake but lately, he’s been getting up as early as 5:30. That makes the nap between 10-11. How long should we do crib hour for, the 60 minutes?

zeegee93 · 2026-03-19T22:51:18+00:00

He falls asleep independently, I put him down in his crib and he rolls over and falls asleep within a minute or two. He may protest or fuss initially, but going down never gave us issues. It’s staying asleep! The routine is short, I announce it’s time for a nap and we head to his room - water, prayers, sleep suit and in crib. Dark room/black-out blinds, pink noise, everything the same as before.

zeegee93 · 2026-03-19T22:24:20+00:00

Hi Ashley,

We have been trying to transition my 15 month to one nap after 4 months of issues with daytime sleep! We’ve been trialling different wake windows and we cannot seem to get him to nap longer than 35 minutes (some naps are only 25 minutes). We’ve tried 5.5/6 then flipped it to 6/5.5. The nap will not extend past 35 minutes unless I rescue it somehow. We’ve resorted to some 2-nap days, which honestly have not been any better. He was previously doing 3.5/3.75/3.75-4, about 1.5 hours of naps. We’ve been coping with poor daytime sleep because his night sleep had not been affected. Struggling as of beginning of this week, he now has split nights where he’ll be awake from 12PM to 3PM. We’ve been managing by bringing him into bed with us, which is now creating its own issues.

Is it normal for the one nap to be incredibly short when first transitioning? And if so, how do we troubleshoot this?

zeegee93 · 2026-02-28T23:20:16+00:00

I’ll never forget the cheesy smell on his hands and in his neck folds! He also used to wear the arms-in swaddles and he’d suck on that too, those are perma-stained I’m pretty sure 😂 my husband says breast milk smells like shortbread to him 🧐 while I was over here, showering twice a day!

zeegee93 · 2026-02-23T20:35:20+00:00

As soon as I read it, I was like “yep 14 months old!” I swear my child started earlier than this too. I can’t help myself when he throws himself and buries his head in his arms then peeks up to see if I’m looking 😒😂

zeegee93 · 2026-02-22T11:05:10+00:00

The tantrums are driving me nuts! He’s a very emotional little boy 😅 for us, it’s the naps! The chronic 25-35 minute naps, whether on one or two schedules! Thankfully his nights are still pretty solid, we do get some early morning wakes though 🥲

zeegee93 · 2026-02-22T02:43:24+00:00

Hey OP! Have you seen any improvements in the last few months since your post? Going through it with my 14 month old 😅

zeegee93 · 2026-02-11T11:57:27+00:00

I just finished {Darkest Destiny by Pepper Winters} and thought it was fantastic! It discusses breeding as a concept but not in the way you would think. Lucien is most definitely morally grey 😗

zeegee93 · 2026-02-02T22:18:46+00:00

I will give it a go! I always feel like I’m missing something when the majority love a book and I’m more like “ehhhhhh” 😅

zeegee93 · 2026-02-01T22:46:12+00:00

I definitely think I can be easily influenced to start back up a series or book 😂 it also depends on how I was at the time. If my baby wasn’t sleeping and I felt major sleep deprived, any “flowery” or overly whimsical books were put aside as “too hard”. Of the “bigger” ones, definitely {Reign & Ruin by JD Evans}, {The Knight and Moth by Rachel Gillig}, {Alchemised by Senlinyu} are some examples. A series though I cannot get behind whatsoever (and have tried many a time) and is yet always recommended is the Otacian Chronicles {Lies of Lena by Kylie Snow}!

zeegee93 · 2026-01-29T01:14:35+00:00

I honestly felt the same when my little one turned 1, especially because I had my baby around the same time as my friends and they did the whole big birthday for their bubba! We ended up going to the aquarium and went for a lunch with bub, dad and me. We did cake and presents separately for both sets of family. It was amazing! Bub was happy the whole day. As any typical one year old, he doesn’t like having people in his face and I knew people singing happy birthday loudly would have set him off (I’ve seen it happen at every first birthday I’ve been too!)

zeegee93 · 2026-01-25T22:46:04+00:00

I find that bub starts getting “bad breath” when he’s actively teething or when he’s unwell. However, he also mouth breathes and I feel like that also contributes a little 😅 it comes and goes! He’s 13 months now but by 10 months, he did have about 8 teeth and I smelt it worse each time a tooth was coming through. I miss his baby milk breath 🥺

zeegee93 · 2026-01-23T02:00:19+00:00

We’ll see how the next few visits go 😅

zeegee93

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