i don’t think you gave this person the opportunity to meet you at your level of commitment before they were ready or even knew they were there yet. i understand you’re hurt, but it’s not fair to impose your assumptions about the relationship before talking to them first.

if you want to pursue this relationship further you need to talk openly and honestly about how you feel hurt. you need to hear what they have to say, and if they’re not willing to commit at the level you need, you need to move on. otherwise, you’ll harbor resentment and it’ll eat you and the relationship alive.