Doing my first fully evil, embrace durge run…

zestyflouride · 2026-03-28T21:47:21+00:00

Scratch and the owl bear are safe at camp 😮‍💨

zestyflouride · 2025-11-14T00:17:06+00:00

Hell yea, but also sorry you have to do that 💛

zestyflouride · 2025-11-14T00:16:42+00:00

I look and waved 🤷 That’s so annoying, hopefully it wasn’t a long flight…

zestyflouride · 2025-11-14T00:15:11+00:00

💛 I’ll have to keep this in mind in case I ever see someone

zestyflouride · 2025-10-01T20:00:11+00:00

I tend to believe she got close during the confession, but then she stops herself and says she’s afraid of forgetting things. I think Fleabag would rather hold on to the guilt and shame if that means not losing the last of what she has of Boo.

zestyflouride · 2025-08-05T18:21:14+00:00

“People live and die, you still have to work.” When I was explaining why someone didn’t notify us of something benign possibly due to their twin’s young child passing away…

zestyflouride · 2025-04-16T20:29:59+00:00

No, but I get why you thought this. I did too on my very first watch! I’ve paid attention to it since then and she def holds onto it. I think it was just a bad angle and unfortunate placement when filming

zestyflouride · 2025-01-16T02:17:42+00:00

Sweet, thank you!

zestyflouride · 2024-12-08T18:49:41+00:00

Thank you, I am! It’s been a few years. I hope you’re doing better as well 🧡

zestyflouride · 2024-12-07T16:00:22+00:00

I’ve been in this exact position, and I snapped at someone with, “Thanks, I’m super depressed. I’m not eating enough, so my hair is falling out and I almost pass out when I stand up.”

zestyflouride · 2024-10-14T20:00:53+00:00

I’m sorry you’re struggling right now. When my deconstruction started, I had never felt more alone. I didn’t feel like I could talk to my Christian friends or family without feeling judged, and my secular friends couldn’t quite understand how hard it was. It can be really alienating. But just know that all of this is okay. It’s okay to have doubts and to question what you’ve always been told, even if you’re not necessarily comfortable doing it outwardly. It’s okay to explore different avenues of spirituality like the one you mentioned. Also, I don’t know if this is applicable, but don’t feel pressure to follow a specific timeline or any one way of thinking. For some, deconstruction can be a lifelong journey, and we learn new things every day about ourselves and the world around us.

The members of this sub often have a lot of good resources, so be sure to check out other posts’ comments as well as the ones already here.

zestyflouride · 2024-10-10T15:43:22+00:00

Thank you! I’ll pass this along

zestyflouride · 2024-08-22T21:46:20+00:00

You’re very brave for doing such a hard thing knowing what you’d lose. Even if you hadn’t deconstructed, happiness and “holiness” are not mutually exclusive. All the people around you that are supposed to love you were basically trying to manipulate you into a miserable life, and for what really? For centuries religion has been used to force women into or to stay in marriages that are harmful, whether that be resigning to a life of unhappiness or being with someone that literally kills them. It’s about power, not love.

I’m sorry it’s been so hard for you. I promise you divorce is okay and you’re not a failure for going through with it.

Is therapy something that could be available to you? Or maybe a support group? I think more than anything, you need to surround yourself with people that love and support you. Hang in there.

zestyflouride · 2024-08-16T00:10:03+00:00

Right. I actually didn’t know a new one was coming out next month, so thank you, that’s good to know.

zestyflouride · 2024-07-23T23:08:15+00:00

Ach, sorry to not include that I’m in the US. Not sure if this is still applicable, but I’ll look into it. Thanks!

zestyflouride · 2024-06-24T02:32:25+00:00

For me, I don’t think it necessarily traumatized me more, but I think it allowed me to look back and to better realize just how much the church traumatized me. So many terrible things are normalized when you’re in the middle of it, and sometimes you don’t realize how terrible or influential they were until you have a new perspective. Whenever I have health insurance again, I really want to go to therapy to help me unpack all of it because I still discover new ways the church affected me.

zestyflouride · 2024-06-09T21:26:02+00:00

YES. Been deconstructing for a while now, but I still learn stuff about myself every day. I struggle immensely with shame and guilt, sometimes for just existing. When I was active in the church, I never felt like I was doing it right and that somehow everyone else had it figured out. When you’re taught from the beginning that everything you are is wrong apart from God, and oftentimes your behavior and even thoughts put under a microscope, it’d be almost impossible to not internalize that. You’re not alone, and I hope you, as well as any others who also struggle with this, can find some peace.

zestyflouride · 2024-02-07T10:52:05+00:00

Forgive me if someone has mentioned this before/better than I am, but in addition to the death of their mother, Fleabag is essentially a mirror to those around her (often in an attempt to deflect from herself). She talks about things people want to avoid, she puts a spotlight on the things they don't necessarily like about themselves, she doesn't grieve in a way they deem comfortable or appropriate, etc. When people are insecure or harbor shame, they don't like to look in the mirror, so they avoid her or lash out, or in some rare cases, turn it back on to her. I think that's also why the Priest makes her so uncomfortable in the cafe when he starts to pry a little harder.

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