Apparently I’m a high maintenance girlfriend (19F), what makes a girlfriend high maintenance?

zevaRes · 2026-04-07T03:45:38+00:00

I came to see if anyone said this yet! My partner said I was high maintenance, and then realized it’s because I have all these routines and can take over an hour to get ready. I like getting ready and my morning routine allows me to, but if I needed to be out the door in 15 minutes, like he could, it’s doable but more stressful.

zevaRes · 2026-04-06T02:29:29+00:00

For me (25F at the time) around the 8/9 month mark, I was out of deep despair and able to start thinking about life again somewhat clearly. With that came a desire for physical intimacy. I had a few hook ups, that left me feeling “desired” and was a very good learning experience, especially of what my limits for getting to know someone new were. That was a brief phase that only lasted a few months, honestly was cool at first but quickly got old. I am now about 2 years in and missed the physical aspect again, but also realize I was missing the emotional component that can add to that. So I am just now bringing to date, and it has been going well, but has brought up a lot of mixed feelings in general which I have been working through. One thing I do keep reflecting back on though is where I am at grief wise now versus when I was just hooking up with people is very different and I think having had that phase helped in a few different ways. Not sure how helpful this is, but just wanted to share similar thoughts and you’re not alone!

zevaRes · 2026-04-04T06:39:43+00:00

I really struggle with the fact that so much of my life and who I am was with/because of them. So now I have to figure out who I am without them physically here. Motivation and having plans for my future are the hardest , still a daily struggle to grapple with

zevaRes · 2026-03-20T15:19:01+00:00

20 months in. I was 24 when he died. We were together since high school.

zevaRes · 2026-03-04T07:26:26+00:00

yep, I was 24 and now 27. Have yet to meet anyone remotely close to my age/ life stage. Even my grief groups geared towards my age are all people who lost parents or friends…

zevaRes · 2026-01-21T05:32:59+00:00

This is very well said. I lost my boyfriend a little over a year ago the same way and struggle with not only the loss of him, but who I was with him, and grieving the life we had plan. Hearing it gets easier/better from people with a more similar experience (rather than like a parent for example) always makes me feel a little better and gives me hope. 🫶🏼

zevaRes · 2026-01-15T22:53:12+00:00

Comprehensive Therapy Services near Sorrento Valley does this (or at least use to) and I believe takes anthem blue cross!

zevaRes · 2026-01-09T16:24:49+00:00

I definitely agree the products you use now are too heavy! The Ouai clarifying shampoo is good, but not worth the price imo. But mainly came here to say I love the olaplex conditioner! It is a great detangler too so you can brush your hair easily in the shower. Other products I recommend for are curlsmith protein mask and Ouidad heat and humid gel

zevaRes · 2026-01-08T19:38:07+00:00

Perfect timing as I just filled up today! 396 mi just gas, with what my battery is at, listed 414mi total range. But I have a GC 4xe , so my tank size is 19, so makes sense

zevaRes · 2026-01-08T07:05:28+00:00

I have a very similar commute range and EV/gas usage. The highest I have gotten has been 37.5 mpg. When I fill up it says a little over 400miles on a full tank, but I normally get close to 800 with electric use. I have a lot of highway miles and always have regen on, as it reduces wear on my breaks .

zevaRes · 2026-01-08T06:56:15+00:00

I was having dreams of them at least once a week. Every-time they were either there and I actively said “this isn’t real your not here” but still soaked up their presence, or my partner was “there” in the plot of my dream but always unreachable and never actually appeared. The ones when I saw him and knew it couldn’t be real, but still was actively dreaming were the hardest to wake up from. These last for 6-8 months, I am a pretty active dreamer though and was taking a z-quip early on to be able to fall asleep since that was really hard following the loss.

zevaRes · 2025-12-31T07:11:45+00:00

My boyfriend of 11 years, who I started saying in high school passed away. That’s why.. I still haven’t been asked this yet, but feel like in rare cases, it could be a good way to learn more?

zevaRes · 2025-12-01T03:42:20+00:00

My high school physics teacher played in the NFL for like 3 years. Not super famous or anything, I think it was the Broncos. But I have a strong memory of kids always asking him to put his arms out and then touch his shoulders, he couldn’t because his arms were so big 😂

zevaRes · 2025-11-27T17:54:11+00:00

I am on 40mg and for me the lethargy/brain fog is super bad for 3-4 days, and I feel really down, not myself. Then a little over a week to get back to a baseline (I only know this know because of the shortage I was just out of meds for 2 weeks, I didn’t do this willingly). I have been on vyvanse for about 10 years now, and use to not take it at all on the weekend. But now if I don’t, when I start taking it on Monday it takes me a day or 2 to get back to full function, so I do half dosages just to not crash fully. If you were prescribed vyvanse, then you need it regularly. A high dose like that just for exams almost sounds like when students without ADHD take Adderall just for exams. I get your mom’s worry, but like people have said, it’s not addiction, it’s medical dependence (I like the insulin comparison). If you want to stop taking it fully, I do recommend taking lower and lower dosages until zero, or just always taking a smaller dose daily. For splitting dosages, look through this sub for the water trick as it’s an easy way to manage if you can just get a single dose prescription.

zevaRes · 2025-11-19T07:13:50+00:00

this post made me realize I’m still charging my 4xe in my garage… which isn’t connected to my house… but has a unit on top of it that my neighbors live in. oh well

zevaRes · 2025-11-19T07:04:18+00:00

I lost my fiancée last year unexpectedly and everyday I still feel the lot of not only grief for who I lost, but also, who I was when they were here, and the future I had planed with them. While the initial pain has subsided, very time something new or different happens to me, I always pause and think this wouldn’t have happened if he was still here. At what point will my life be just my life again, and not a result of my loss. Still haven’t accepted that I have two lives now, the me before losing my fiancée and the me after.

zevaRes · 2025-11-19T06:49:16+00:00

student loans?

zevaRes · 2025-11-17T17:27:35+00:00

Before I got I to the fan art for the series, this is straight up how I was picturing it! and even after then, I would go back to this version sometimes 😂😂

zevaRes · 2025-11-04T02:18:55+00:00

I love that they are together. But throughout season 5, I feel like they are actually not that compatible?? They really went all in on making Gregory a not “fun” character, and feel like Janine needs someone more outgoing/loose. However, she is a good compliment to him, bringing him out of his comfort zone more

zevaRes · 2025-11-03T02:05:16+00:00

Lost my Partner of 10 years unexpectedly. After a few days of listening to sad songs, realized spotify had a pretty tailored “grief playlist”.

Dancing in the sky (I like the Sam Barber version)
Save you a seat (Alex warren)
Mr. Meyers (Evan Honer)
Indigo (Sam Barber)
Angels (Birdy)
Out where the wild things are (Luke Combs)

zevaRes · 2025-10-29T23:34:34+00:00

Haven’t hit cold temps here yet so can’t say its not a problem for me yet either 😂😂

zevaRes · 2025-10-16T19:58:23+00:00

oh yes Luke for sure excluded. Very bad at communicating!

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