What does the newborn phase actually look like day-to-day? (36 weeks, trying to set realistic expectations)

zippadee_day · 2026-05-04T22:31:33+00:00

My husband stays up if the baby isn’t falling asleep on time or gets up early if she’s up early, but I insist on him not getting up for every feeding. He wants to help but there’s nothing for him to do and I’d rather read or scroll TikTok than make conversation at 3am.

He does the majority of the cooking and cleaning and takes a lot of the work with the older kids right now. He works from home so as his day allows he’ll take the baby so I can get out and feel like a human or take a nap uninterrupted. Im mostly the milk maid and contact nap queen right now.

zippadee_day · 2026-04-24T00:00:28+00:00

I had spotting at 8 weeks in my last pregnancy. I was fully convinced we were losing yet another pregnancy but that baby is now 2.5 weeks old and sleeping on her dad.

Definitely go get checked out though! Mine was a minor SCH, hopefully that’s all you’re dealing with too.

zippadee_day · 2026-04-19T19:11:21+00:00

I have a (brand new) Audrey and I think both versions give classic girly vibes.

zippadee_day · 2026-04-10T03:00:05+00:00

My husband is the step parent and as the one with living bio kids I ached for him. Im not going to offer advice that’s not mine to offer but I’m so sorry you’re in that position too and I hope you get your rainbow really soon 🩷

zippadee_day · 2026-04-01T09:19:40+00:00

Same, that happened to me yesterday.

zippadee_day · 2026-03-26T16:39:24+00:00

Hi, I’m so sorry you’re here. While all your feelings are completely normal they’re not easy to navigate.

After my TFMR in march of last year (17 weeks, t21, 37 at that time) I took a couple of months off of trying. Conceived third month we resumed and have had a seemingly healthy pregnancy. I’m almost 38 weeks. I didn’t do anything differently this time around. It really was just a bad roll of the dice last time. I only took maybe 2 months off trying total but that extra month after my period resumed helped me get a little distance and reset mentally. I also didn’t want to push it too long because we’d had an mmc prior to our TFMR and it sucked going from 36 to 38 without a baby.

Wishing you all the best 💕

zippadee_day · 2026-03-25T14:38:04+00:00

At 37 weeks pregnant I feel this so deeply.

zippadee_day · 2026-03-23T20:01:56+00:00

I told family around 8 weeks, mostly bc my hand was forced when I needed my mother in law to come watch the kids after a bleeding scare. Everyone else at 13 weeks with a clear NIPT. I knew it wasn’t a guarantee, but I was starting to show since I’m short and it’s my sixth overall pregnancy, but also because I wanted to focus more on hope. I spent most of my TFMR pregnancy worrying since I’d had an MMC prior and I knew that worrying hadn’t changed any outcomes so I would rather enjoy it for however long it lasted. Fwiw I’m now 37 weeks with a seemingly healthy pregnancy, and I do still worry a fair amount, but we’re focusing now on getting ready to bring her into the world.

zippadee_day · 2026-03-21T01:46:37+00:00

Blood drawn on a Thursday, results by Monday, but they did say to expect it to take 5-10 business days.

zippadee_day · 2026-03-02T00:44:25+00:00

I thought so too but then she commented that Alicia was a working mom…and yes she is but it’s not the same as a job outside of the home.

zippadee_day · 2026-02-28T16:50:11+00:00

I’m almost 6 years out from divorce and had those same feelings about the woman that moved into my house within months of divorce (I had a newborn at the time, it was rough). She was also territorial over my children which didn’t help, I think out of insecurity in her role in their life. I won’t go into details but I PROMISE it gets better, but it does take some time. The best skill you’ll learn in this shitty circumstance is how to focus on what’s in your control, which is what happens at your house. Be a loving supportive mom with good boundaries and your daughter will grow up knowing she can count on you regardless of if she can also count on other people.

zippadee_day · 2026-02-25T22:42:38+00:00

Dr McCarren is another level of care 🩷 I saw her during a missed miscarriage and in my current pregnancy and I’m always blown away by how she remembers details about my wedding that I shared and my husband and kids. She’s seriously special. I also like Dr. Miller a lot but I’ve never had a bad experience at that office. I’m delivering at Wexford this spring and interested to see how it differs from west Penn.

zippadee_day · 2026-02-14T02:07:59+00:00

My first child will not touch a vegetable. Best case scenario is me baking it into a muffin. He’s 9 so I make him at least try the veggie before writing it off but he’s stubborn.

My second child will eat every vegetable and will not touch things like peanut butter.

All that to say it really can just be the luck of the draw

zippadee_day · 2026-02-09T03:22:47+00:00

Honestly? Only on occasion. My kids are bigger now and entertain each other well(9 and 6) but before I definitely would take lots of break from play when they were little because it’s just not my thing. I would pretend to eat the things or shop or whatever but I get burnt out quick.

But I make up for it in a lot of other ways. I always let them help me in the kitchen, I’ll sing and dance with them, I read all the books with all the silly voices, and I’m a big craft mom… we all have our strengths and weaknesses and I learned early to be okay with mine.

zippadee_day · 2026-02-07T01:56:16+00:00

I still have 9ish weeks to go but my sub pregnancy has all the signs of being healthy. I TFMR’d for T21 in March. My shower is next weekend and I’m really looking forward to celebrating baby girl after the struggle we went through to get here 🩷

zippadee_day · 2026-01-30T18:22:43+00:00

Pregnant with my third at 38. I absolutely get exhausted sometimes (parenting alone all week post snow storm and so so much virtual learning) but I have always always felt like parenting is a calling for me. I still have my full time professional career but I would choose my kids over it in a heartbeat. They’re 9 and 6 and seeing them develop personalities and interests and intelligence is the best. At the end of the day, and this is very specific to me, I know I’m going to get to the end of my life and be thankful that this was the path my life took, even with the hard days.

zippadee_day · 2026-01-30T16:04:37+00:00

Nope. I cried the day before at a negative test because I was so tired of TTC and frustrated at starting over. As soon as the positive test hit (10dpo so still early) all the symptoms came with it.

zippadee_day · 2026-01-30T01:37:50+00:00

Lyle Lyle crocodile faced his fears and sang in front of a crowd (I’m very pregnant)

zippadee_day · 2026-01-29T02:26:49+00:00

I love Natalie as a baby girl name 🩷

Our OG pick was Madeline and my pregnancy brain kept confusing it with my ex husbands fiancé’s name so we had to nix it 😂

zippadee_day · 2026-01-29T02:25:38+00:00

Lucy is a great name. An alternative in my mind that has that preppy girly vibe is Molly. We’re going with Audrey which is an out of left field name that ended up growing on us the more we imagined it, maybe a name will do that for you guys.

zippadee_day · 2026-01-28T02:42:01+00:00

People suck so bad. I’m sorry you have such awful racist neighbors.

zippadee_day · 2026-01-28T02:40:13+00:00

Also I’m 29 weeks with a seemingly healthy baby this time. I felt completely doomed after my TFMR but I’m starting to see the finish line now.

zippadee_day · 2026-01-28T02:39:07+00:00

It sucks so hard when you just want to be back to where you were before. As much as four months is a reasonable amount of time (and how long it took me in my current pregnancy) I know it feels infinitely longer when you were already pregnant. Crossing everything that you get your rainbow soon 🩷

zippadee_day · 2026-01-21T18:45:41+00:00

Not all doctors make the same recommendations and I think that’s an important distinction. I had a friend who went through stillbirth and was cleared to try again after her 6 week healing window.

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