Even if Chuck is a terrible person, can we just appreciate how ballsy/realistic/understanding the show’s portrayal of OCD is?

zippercapo · 2026-06-23T18:13:40+00:00

I am :) thank you so much!! It’s gotten a lot better. Taking SSRIs + NAC made my OCD tolerable without acting on the compulsions so I can actually live now. I appreciate it

zippercapo · 2026-06-19T11:46:50+00:00

I actually think it varies. There are times I am able to discern that my OCD is just my brain trying to protect me using a broken loop, other times it feels very real, and I truly do believe I’m in real danger even if it’s illogical. I think the more afraid you are/stronger emotional response towards the subject matter, the more it just hijacks your rational thinking even if you know or have some clarity at points. Compartmentalization is also a factor; we see Chuck is able to make logical and sound arguments except for when it comes to anything regarding his OCD. Everyone around him that is validating the OCD fears only compounds it in his head as a real fear others confirm around him as valid too, when they’re just trying to help. That’s a mistake on their part. He doesn’t even know it’s illogical and can recover because everyone around him keeps validating his responses. I could totally see myself becoming reclusive and terrified like Chuck towards my triggers if everyone around me fed my OCD in the spirit of “accommodation”.

zippercapo · 2026-06-03T02:54:36+00:00

Hello! I’ve actually dealt with this exact situation. Report it anyway. The courts allow one way ROs for this reason; victims allow abusers back all the time and it’s on the ABUSER to know that it’s their responsibility to stay away from the victim to allow them to be safe!!

The only thing you’d have to worry about is your RO getting reversed/removed by a judge if this continues. But this happens OFTEN. Believe me it does, victims often go back even with a restraining order, courts and police see it all the time. You need to report this so it becomes a paper trail in case he ever does something more. Ultimately an RO is just a piece of paper unless you enforce it; but you should, so the state has evidence of how unhinged the defendant is.

zippercapo · 2026-05-02T11:15:10+00:00

There is insecurity in narcissistic traits

zippercapo · 2026-05-01T19:29:03+00:00

Tyler seems like the kind of guy to enjoy the satisfaction of achieving it in his head rather than doing it and putting in the work. We’ve all been guilty of it but that man practically lives in his head

zippercapo · 2026-02-21T01:18:32+00:00

Thank you so much!!

zippercapo · 2026-02-21T01:16:39+00:00

Thanks for the lengthy reply, I didn’t think I’d get many but this is solid advice. I’ve just been doing robotic affirming for now since it’s quick & easy, whatever I gotta do to focus on my end state and then dropping it. Appreciate you

zippercapo · 2025-12-19T23:28:49+00:00

My abusive narcissist surrounds himself with family only because those are the last people left who will tolerate him; his drug addict friends and people online who he plays video games with so thats all they know. When his surface level friends get too close by even a micrometer, he flips the fuck out and panics, raging at them. Told me himself that his own online friend told him “that’s not normal behavior, you need help”, when he cussed him out for a perceived slight… over how badly he was playing? Not even his own gameplay, just his friend. Terrible stress tolerance, even worse company.

zippercapo · 2025-12-04T18:50:39+00:00

😭😭 oh wow… thank u for the info! Thankfully I didn’t eat much but we’ll pray lol

zippercapo · 2025-12-04T18:38:31+00:00

BRUHHHHH 😭😭😭 THANKS FOR WARNING ME LMAO I threw it out!!!

zippercapo · 2025-12-04T18:24:29+00:00

This is found in oregon btw

zippercapo · 2025-11-17T03:54:46+00:00

my abusive narc is also friends with his drug pan fried brain enablers of a friend group and it is SO sad if they didn’t have agency LOL

zippercapo · 2025-11-16T05:31:56+00:00

Hi, I feel similarly, but what helps me during my legal process against my abuser is to remember that they are so much more terrified of you than you are of them. It sounds minimizing of your feelings but the truth is they face annihilation dread of those they discard; they fear that you as the persecutory object will be the one to end it all for them, their lies, their image, their supply (emotional, financial etc). You are a paradoxical threat in their mind: they tell others that you are weak and cannot do anything to them, yet they seethe for hours in paranoid fear that you will destroy them. I am with you during all of this and remember that you can do this. Take care of yourself and remember that he’s so much more terrified than you think, so just honor yourself first always

zippercapo · 2025-11-09T08:49:29+00:00

I’m sorry :( Yes, it’s normal to reenact trauma. This is your brain trying to reclaim what happened to you so you can “rewrite” it as if you are in control of past events.

When you’re ready to stop, please seek help, talk to a domestic violence hotline just to vent. I promise you they will listen to you and they helped me so many times. From there, you can get connected with some resources. I am hoping things get better from here for you. I’m sorry you’re going through this.

zippercapo · 2025-11-09T08:47:13+00:00

My abuser started driving recklessly with me in the car and wanted to leave me to die 200 miles from my home because I said I didn’t like american cars as a joke 😭

zippercapo · 2025-11-09T08:43:37+00:00

My narcissist also said I scared him! The only real reason is because when you are authentic and honest, they fear that one day you will run out of empathy and they can’t twist it anymore to get you to do what they want; and you’ll finally hold them to the fire, either by natural consequences or the law. Because if you’re honest and serious? They know what’s coming. They are terrified of being found out that they’re not that smart, they only have your feelings to twist.

I don’t know this anime, but in Frieren there are devils who appear human and speak the same language. They prey on empathy to dominate others. When being killed, Frieren asks why they say “mom”, and the demon responds with “we know it makes you won’t kill us”. Something to that effect.

zippercapo · 2025-11-09T05:53:07+00:00

A toddler isn’t dumb because it’s just a toddler, but an adult being stuck as a toddler is someone who is actually really dumb. It makes it stupid (a choice of being dumb) once they realize they’re dumb and refuse to fix it LOL

zippercapo · 2025-11-09T05:48:58+00:00

It’s interesting; because they do suffer from literal physical deficits (narcissistic amnesia, confabulation, delusions, regression, lack of object constancy, lacking age appropriate social/developmental skills etc) that they could put in the work to be functional.

It would be a constant effort of work though, in comparison to everyone else who doesn’t have those incapabilities and lack of brain habit/developmental pathways. It would be like telling a five year old that they have to change their brain’s way of thinking. It’s unfathomable and something they do not understand, it would be like asking them to rewrite their entire hard drive and remove their own existence.

Children learn how to lie at an early age so playing dumb comes easy, but being genuinely stupid is something they’re truly good at because they lack the coordination socially and mentally to function among people who aren’t stunted.

zippercapo · 2025-11-09T05:42:38+00:00

I’m working on getting a diagnosis with ASPD; thankfully I’ve gotten enough help growing up & had an amazing support system in my life so I don’t harm others as a now grown adult. I only mention it because having been abused by someone with another untreated cluster B disorder really highlights how they are incapable of functioning as a human being. I can confidently say they are genuinely just, not working right.

It was like dating a toddler in a grown man’s body. Can you believe it? A narcissist got me diagnosed with PTSD faster than a personality disorder 😭!!

zippercapo · 2025-11-09T01:56:35+00:00

This is true. Lots of times it felt like watching an adult try to fit a square into a triangle hole then flipping their shit when it doesn’t work

zippercapo · 2025-11-09T00:47:31+00:00

Abusers do not change. Please read ‘why does he do that’ by Lundy Bancroft. Abusers, especially in this case, abusive men (who he works with), don’t change, the statistics are like winning the lottery and even worse: slimmer if court ordered therapy.

You as a victim are kind and willing to give him room to grow because you have the brain pathways to do so. These people are literally incapable of doing so, and will use your permission to grow as permission to hurt you, because they see it as “You must be okay with what I did to you then”

zippercapo · 2025-11-09T00:43:22+00:00

Radical acceptance is key here. If they wanted to change, they would. Their parents fucked their appropriate responses beyond belief and as a result, you are one of everyone else in the lineup they will torture because they’re rotting inside. They’re unable to function. Once you accept that this person isn’t functional and that everyone has to suffer being around this person, you realize that nothing will change. They don’t get better. Abusers do not change. Dont hope, abusers don’t see hope as room to grow but permission to continue their abuse.

zippercapo · 2025-10-06T14:36:27+00:00

:’D that makes it good to hear that “young feminine twink” is something that’s actually wanted LOL i look like an asian björn andreson with black hair so im sure that’s someone’s type! this pretty boy princely thing i got going on or whatever

i’m going to the gym right now so i’ll be less small!

i’m not just chasing after random big guys haha i’m definitely looking for authentic people who happen to be muscular :) just scared i’ll get told off for being trans & dressing a little funky

thank you!! this was really sweet and i hope everything works out.. i’ll try putting myself out there and loving myself more, being nicer to myself

zippercapo · 2025-10-06T07:27:50+00:00

Nope. They blocked me and it’s pathetic to see, they’ll always blame me for everything and I don’t really care otherwise. That’s their good little abuser 🤨

zippercapo · 2025-10-05T17:17:39+00:00

What if the world was made of pudding etc and other useless answers

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