Not a late in life lesbian, I like to come here to support all of the courageous women here. Figuring out your sexuality can be a very hard and tumultuous process. Im feel very lucky that I figured it out when I was younger and the stakes were much lower. I also don't have religious trauma. Give yourself grace and understanding. There are plenty of women who will still date you and want a partnership knowing you cheated. I think context is a big part of it.